Answering "do you have kids" or "do you want kids"

leeteecee · April 2015

I was at my best friend's son's birthday & baptism parties this weekend and several people asked some version of the do you have / are you thinking about having kids question. I'm 5 w so obviously don't want to spill the beans, but I felt awkward when trying to answer. How have others handled this?

OurBabyS · April 2015

I've been handling it as "yes, we are thinking of a family soon, but taking it day by day for now". Hope that helps!

c000501 · April 2015

We have always answered yes in the beginning and said well things fall into place, it'll happen when it's supposed to. Now people don't realize how hurtful their words can be. We have two children and have had multiple miscarriages after our daughter who will be 6 soon. People are always saying we must be done since we have one of each or because the kids are getting so big. We feel it isn't anyone s business, but keeping answers as simple as possible seeems to work best. I'm 5 wks 5 days and really excited but also cautiously optimistic. Best to you!

Jgar2u2 · April 2015

When I was pregnant with my first we went to my husband's side for Thanksgiving and was planning on telling everyone at that time. Before we told them his cousin started talking about how 'bad' her kids were and told us to not have kids. ...and then we told her actually I'm pregnant now and really excited. It was awkward. Oh well. I think everyone knew we wanted kids before we started trying though so no one really asked me those questions, just made comments about their own children, I guess.

KadzoKimbia · April 2015

I found out I was pregnant for the first time right before visiting a friend and her 1 day old. All she kept saying was wait to have kids, do t rush it etc... We just chuckled and moved the conversation along. She later found out and we had a good laugh

yl1m32015 · April 2015

Whenever people ask me I just tell them my DH and I are doing a ton of practicing right now

Usually makes people realize their question was awkward and uncomfortable. After I had a mc when people asked Id say, "when God lets me keep one!" Either way, it's so inappropriate for people to ask, yet they think it's small talk and ask for conversation purposes. You can use a smart alec response like me, or just change the subject. It's no ones business unless you allow it to be.

nicolepaulsen · April 2015

I got asked this question over the weekend at a party too! My DH's cousin asked me if we wanted any more...I just smiled and said yes we would love more children. She then proceeded to ask when we wanted to add to our family...I just kinda laughed and said the sooner the better. We dont want to share our news for another couple weeks. But being so sick, family functions are becoming difficult to attend and keep it a secret!

momotheflyinglemur · April 2015

I've always said that it'll happen when it's supposed to. My mom started talking about family with me this weekend and I haven't even gone to my first OB appoitment yet so I can't tell her. It was so tricky.