Spilled the Beans Already, too Early?

tobwoody · April 2015

I am just over 6 weeks and my husband and I told six of our closest friends this past weekend about our news. We were up in the mountains for a long weekend and surrounded by alcohol and we knew it was going to be hard to fake it all weekend. These three couples are our best friends and it felt so good to share our joy with them. We haven't told our families yet because it's easier to keep it from them, but will tell them after our eight week ultrasound just in time for Mother's Day. We will hold the news from everyone else until after 12 weeks. After telling our friends I felt so relieved but then scared that we spilled the beans too early! I know it's too late now, but I guess I'm looking for reassurance that others have told friends or family already too!?!?

4puddleducks · April 2015

We've told our immediate family (both sets of grandparents and my hubby's siblings), our closest friends (3 people), my cousin's family and my uncle/aunt. I wanted to have the support of those closest to us should anything happen to this pregnancy. We plan on telling the great-grandparents and extended family after my first ob appointment at 8 1/2 weeks. Then tell everyone else after we are pass the 13 week mark. You certainly didn't tell too early and in the event that something happens, you will have the support of people that care for you. When, how and who you tell is up to you.

wetherbeee · April 2015

We already told our closest friends too. My theory is, if I were to MC (praying we don't) our friends will know something is wrong anyway and it will be nice to have their support. They're people we love and trust and know they won't spill it to anyone else, so I think It was worth it. I think its all about preference and what you're most comfortable with.

sunshine&rainbows · April 2015

We have told SOs mother and sister. I have also told a couple close friends. I was really worried that it would be bad luck but SO assured me that telling people isn't going to cause anything bad to happen to our baby and if something should happen I am glad I will have support.
We will tell the rest of the world after 12 weeks.

Christinerae5 · April 2015

We've already told our close family members and a handful of close friends! We actually had a miscarriage in September and we choose to tell early again. I can't tell you the amount of support I had, even if just from text message from our closest family and friends. I think it's important to include those closest to you or those in your support system. And now that I'm more nervous about this pregancy it's nice to have my support system there for me and know my concerns. I highly recommend sharing! I'll post on facebook and tell extended family after 12 week, but close friends and family are in the know!

KadzoKimbia · April 2015

I want to tell at least one person so I can talk to them about it and would have the support. My husband doesn't want to deal with the sympathy should something happen. I've had an early miscarriage before and it was nice that no one knew.

noahsmommy527 · April 2015

I told my immediate family and a few close friends. Its nice to share my thoughts, joys and fears with others. I figured if I mc, then ill have love and support either way! Too excited to hold it in!

ejled · April 2015

My husband and I each told one close friend. Even though only at 5weeks, it is nice to have someone to talk to and share with these experiences!

mellybelles · April 2015

We just told both our parents this weekend at the 7 week mark. I told my absolute best friend the day after we found out! I think we'll tell our siblings and extended fam after my eight week ultrasound coming up! I agree with the support system being in place being a great thing if the unthinkable happens...

mbhurst1 · April 2015

Its not like you made a FB announcement. I think it is fine as long as they are the people you would want to receive support from should something happen. I have only told my two best friends. We will wait and tell parents after the U/S and then make it FB official after 12 weeks.

rzaremba · April 2015

I told a few recent new mom coworkers and my boss, as my morning sickness is bad and my boss would be super flexible with me. I felt like it might be bad luck too but after telling my mom, she said it was a good idea to tell some folks to get support in any situation that might come up.

nicolepaulsen · April 2015

We told our parents and my sisters. We will tell more family & close friends after our 8 week ultrasound, and everyone else after 12 weeks. We planned to wait a little longer, but when I passed on a glass of wine at a family party, my sister totally called me out haha. Everyone knows we have been trying, so I dont think it has or will come as a very big surprise to anyone we tell. But so far everyone is excited and I am glad we told those that we have so far...it's tough keeping a secret this big!!!

redfallon · April 2015

We won't tell any family until 12 weeks. Last time, we told SIL bc she was begging me to take a test and we told MIL. This was right after Christmas 2012. We told my mother a cpl weeks later, but didn't tell my sister until 12 weeks bc she doesn't know how to keep a secret. We told our neighbor at their NYE party bc I wasn't drinking. She then told everyone at the party haha It was ok, though. It was no one we knew at all.

momotheflyinglemur · April 2015

The only people I have told are my SO and my supervisor in case something happens and so that I can get my time off for doctor visits. I have an OB appointment next week and we are shooting for the reveal on Mother's Day. It is so hard not telling everyone though! I had to reach out to one of my friends who lives in another state just so that I would have someone to chat with in the meantime.

Calneshia · April 2015

My family knows as long as my friends but I would rather have the support I need than to lack there of it's good to have someone by your side even if something goes wrong

abened · April 2015

We told my parents in case anything happened to have a support system. And someone to talk to!

I told my co-workers too bc I work in a place that I would have to come up with a lot of excuses to hide I was pregnant to keep the tiny baby safe. It's hard to keep it a secret. I just want to tell everyone!

Acroskey5 · April 2015

I'm telling immediate family this weekend- I'll be 8 weeks. I don't have my first u/s until 10 1/2 weeks, but I can't possibly wait that much longer to share the news! Close friends will be told after this weekend as we see them.

MEMichelson · April 2015

We've told everyone, we are 6wks and 4 days. The reason we've told everyone is that everyone knows about our fertility issues and they know when we were testing and when doctors appointments were happening. We have a HUGE support of people around us that we couldn't not let them know.

av2323 · April 2015

We aren't openly discussing it but we aren't hiding it either. All of our immediate family knows and several of our close friends. It's hard not to tell when you are super excited. I don't think we will ever make a public Facebook announcement though.

ifeelgoodifeelgreatifeelwonderful · April 2015

We haven't yet but will tell our parents in the next two weeks. Then siblings and friends as we see them/as needed (aka if it's obvious I'm not drinking).
We probably won't make any big announcements until the end of the summer.

VesperLove · April 2015

A good number of people already know and we are only 5 weeks (tomorrow). It's incredibly early but we decided to tell for a number of reasons.

1. I'm a very anxious person and I have learned over the years that a support system is one of the things that keeps me on track and sane. I need a close group of people who can help me through this, who have been through this, who I can ask questions to, etc.

2. I want to be excited. Yes, something terrible could still happen down the road but right now I'm excited and I want to share that excitement with people other than just my hubby. He agrees. He doesn't want to waste a third of our pregnancy (should everything turn out happy and healthy) keeping it a secret.

3. Neither of us are super private people and don't mind having to go back to tell people if something goes wrong. We'd rather have the support starting now and have to update people than go to people who didn't know we were pregnant in the first place and let them know what's going on ... or worse, never tell anyone it ever happened. This is our child and we want people to know they existed even if he/she doesn't end up being born.

With that said, we are still limited who knows for various reasons. I told one coworker who I go to coffee with every single day since they will notice my nausea and exhaustion. DH told his boss as they are close friends. We told immediately family. I told my trainer at the gym since we have to modify training programs. And we will each be telling our best guy/girl friend as well. Everyone else we are at least waiting until after our first appt around 8 weeks but probably closer to 12 weeks.

Taylovesbrad · April 2015

We too told immediate family and close friends that can keep a secret. Hoping for the best, but if the worst happens I know I will need emotional support. Waiting for work, ect till I start showing.

armywifenh17 · April 2015

We have told immediate family and close friends. We have been going through IVF and most of the people close to us know that. We figure it wouldn't be fair to tell them we are going through IVF and then not tell them the results. I did have a miscarriage my last cycle, so I am not really going to open up about being pregnant with everyone else until I am well into my second trimester.

chanaphaedra · April 2015

I've told my parents, sister, and closest friends. We're holding off on a public announcement until 12 weeks because we don't want to tell DB's other 2 kids until we are past the risky stage. They are used to being Daddy's two little girls and this is going to be HUGE, life-changing news for them, so I want to let them (and him) enjoy that for a little while longer.

Bubbz · April 2015

I MC'd last time after telling family and NOPE, not doing that again. One of my friends knows, and my husband told my BIL (he lives with us, eh), but that's all. Last thing I need is my MIL sticking her foot in her mouth on mother's day like she did last time.

If worse comes to worse again, I'll tell my mom and get my support that way. With everyone else it's awkward.

jtaylor713 · April 2015

It's entirely up to you! I told my two best friends, and we are telling our parents soon over Skype! They all know we were trying, so it won't be much of a surprise

fiorip · April 2015

I've read how most people talk about if the worst happens having everyone around for support is best. As someone who has been through a miscarriage and who told everyone about the pregnancy let me tell you with all due respect you couldn't be more wrong. Having people constantly asking you how you are doing is terrible, even worst, people you aren't close to asking how the pregnancy is going, like my moms neighbor or my sisters best friend, people who don't know you've lost the baby and having to tell again and again, it's heartbreaking

c000501 · April 2015

I totally agree with fiorip.... As I have had multiple miscarriages....

FLsunbaby · April 2015

We already told everyone. I know what can happen because it did with our first. That said, I don't want to let past experiences keep me from enjoying and celebrating every minute of this one. I know it's not the right decision for everyone though! I can't keep a secret for crap, so it was going to come out one way or another!

bsmomma15 · April 2015

Tbh it's all about your preference. Only me and my husband know and I don't want to tell anyone until I'm at least 12 weeks. My last pregnancy ended at 6 weeks and I'm glad I didn't tell anyone. For me I was glad I didn't tell lots of people because to then tell lots of people I'd lost the baby would just constantly remind me of that fact, which I couldn't cope with.

ashleighc1005 · April 2015

We told my parents but that's because you can't get anything pass my mother. Then I had a Dr's apt literally 2 days after I took an hpt. At the doctor they did a blood test and it came back positive as well. So when I told my parents that they then wanted to tell people and I said no not until at least the first apt and idk if I'll even even tell people then and my dad of course then claims "in his day" once it was confirmed by and doctor you told people. I honestly t

katiejoern · April 2015

My first pregnancy resulted in mc just one week after I found out. We had told our parents and siblings and a few friends. It was so hard to go back and tell them we miscarried. I obviously had support from my sisters, mother, and friends, but it was hard to deal with my husbands family. He has younger siblings so they didn't understand what had happened. With my second pregnancy it was easier not to tell anyone as I was very nervous and anxious. It was worth holding out though. This time around, we are waiting to tell family until our 8 week appointment. I have told my sister and my husband told his closest friend. For support reasons.

Jazmine928 · April 2015

I am 6 weeks and 1 day and honestly, everyone knows!! I feel a little silly now having read that most people don't tell, but I am such an overshare with everything and there was no way I could keep it in! If I mc I don't feel like it's something people can't handle but we would probably not share so early next time around..

mirissa25 · April 2015

I announced it on Facebook couldn't keep it in

lbaird123 · April 2015

This is my second pregnancy. We waited until we saw our little peanut and a heart beat. We made it facebook offical. I'm 6weeks 5days. We didn't wait until 12 weeks with the first didn't really see the sense in waiting with this one.

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