Haven't told my family yet

spatchbelly · April 2015

I'm 34 years old, 6 weeks pregnant with first baby, and haven't told my family yet. DH wants to tell our parents now, but I'm not ready. I haven't been able to schedule my first OB appointment until 10 weeks. It just doesn't feel real yet, and I'd hate to disappoint my family--especially my mom who has been desperately wanting grandkids for years--if I were to miscarry early in the pregnancy.

I feel like keeping this a secret until 10+ weeks once there's an u/s and my OB says everything is okay with the baby. I know it's normal to wait to tell friends and work until later in pregnancy, but is anyone else out there keeping it a secret from family, too?

Mueller01 · April 2015

Yes! My husband and I have chosen not to share our news with our families (or anyone else) until after our first apt on May 4th. After the first apt I'm sure it will sink in and feel real! Right now I'm just counting down the days until our apt! 15 days to go.

babytuck15 · April 2015

We live far away from our parents, but we are visiting a week after my first appointment (which will be at 10 weeks) so we are waiting to tell anyone until then so we can do it in person. I'd say do whatever you are comfortable with!

Angelface225 · April 2015

I haven't told any family. I've told my best friend and one lady at work because I work with kids and she needs to watch out for things like chicken pox and fifth's disease for me.

I think keeping it secret until that point is totally acceptable! I don't want to tell anyone until after the first trimester screening.

ktmayczarny · April 2015

We are keeping it a secret until after our first u/s. And I'll be 10weeks.

satindawl83 · April 2015

We told my mom and dad, and my in-laws as soon as we found out. We haven't told my husband's biological father because he'll tell the world.

The only reason we told the family members we did tell was because they're not on Facebook very often and we don't live in the same state. May have been a different story otherwise.

In other words, you know your fam best!

HARLEYSMOM2010 · April 2015

I am!! For different reasons though. I'm keeping it from family for fear of disappointment. I'll be 26 in 2 weeks and already have a 5,3 and 1 year old. I'm 6 weeks tomorrow and plan on keeping it a secret until middle of May or longer. My mom won't be very happy with me but I don't care so I'll keep it to myself as long as possible( my mom is only 42 and has been trying for a baby for the last 10 years with nothing) between my sister and I we've had 7 kids in the last 8 years and dread telling our mom everytime

SnK2015 · April 2015

All my closest friends know and no one in my family yet. I miscarried last year and just really want to make sure this little blessing sticks around. We get married in 68 days I am not sure I can keep my mouth shut that long lol but am trying.

lindsaydegraaf · April 2015

I'm in a slightly different situation where I am pregnant through IVF. My friends and family know what we have been going through to try and get pregnant the last few years so we told them all right away. It's nice to feel supported no matter what happens! It's really up to you though! I'll likely wait until the first trimester is over before I tell anyone else though.

arichlife · April 2015

We share with family and really close friends after the 8 week scan with a heartbeat and then the rest of the world after the 12week scan.
It's hard to wait but it would be really hard for me to have to announce a miscarriage to a bunch of people when I just found out and am trying to deal with it. If it happens I want to deal with it in my own way.

AshleighDB · April 2015

I've told one close friend as she's been such a huge help and watching my son while I run out for blood tests and whatnot. Other than that we have no plans to tell anyone until the twelve week mark, which will fall around our son's first birthday so we're planning to fit the announcement in with his Thank You cards.

tango4mango · April 2015

Im opposite from most people, because of working in radiation i told my co workers (unoffically not like written notice to hr or any thing) but i wont tell family untill i know how far along i am and know more but i probably wont tell every one else untill 2nd trimester

LilLambie · April 2015

I'm waiting until mother's day to tell my husbands family. I will be 9 weeks and have had an ultrasound. We aren't going to tell anyone else until the 12 week mark though. I'm dreading telling my family. My mum will be super disappointed. She had us when she was really young and is very vocal about her opposition to us having kids. Mind you I'm 24 and married so she can't really do much. My husbands family is going to lose their mind. My mother in law has been waiting for grandkids for years and I don't think we will be able to stop her telling every single person she knows. I'm excited about telling her.

thscharminggrlrza · April 2015

My husband and I will not be telling our families until I'm 4 months, we have had a precious miscarriage where everyone knew and it was just an awkward situation. I hated the pity looks. I'm currently 5 weeks so we have a long way to go

jackiejohnstone · April 2015

We are waiting too! We live quite far so no danger they'll guess and since this is our first pregnancy we both just want to wait til after that first appointment to make sure everything is ok. I have my first U/S tomorrow at 7w3d and I'm dying to tell my parents and my in-laws so if all goes well, we'll share with them this week. And a couple really close friends. Everyone else will have to wait! We have a family wedding at 14 weeks so we'll probably share the news more widely then.

rmarie13 · April 2015

We are waiting too. I'd like to wait until the first trimester is over but my husband is dying to tell his parents. We'll probably tell his family after the first ultrasound. I'll be around 9 weeks! My family lives far away and I won't see them for a few months so I'm trying to think of a creative way to tell them. Any suggestions?

yl1m32015 · April 2015

I am waiting also. If all goes well I'll be telling our parents on Mother's Day and I'll be 10 weeks. Having a previous mc, I don't want to have to go through telling everyone the devastating news again.

megan062591 · April 2015

We told my mom and his father. Beyond that I'm waiting until May 13th for the first u/s.
I told my mom because I was excited and even if I did have a miscarriage, she would be able to emotionally support me.
He told his dad because he couldn't keep the secret!

NICHOLE84 · April 2015

We haven't told anyone except our 2 year old but he doesn't really understand. We won't tell our parents or siblings until our first appointment. I have an appointment with the nurse on the 27th and from there she will schedule me with the doctor. Our plan is to not tell anyone else until after 12 weeks.

We told a close friend as soon as we found out with our first pregnancy. We had church that night and by the time we got there about 8 of our other friends knew. I felt like it was our news to share and that's part of the reason why I'm waiting before telling anyone.

VesperLove · April 2015

I'm only 4w5d and we've already told my parents and sister and DH's parents and sister. We are also planning on telling our best friends (his best guy friend and my best girl friend) this week. I struggle with anxiety and I've found that during important times in my life I need my support system present. I felt that I'd be far more stressed trying to keep this a secret from everyone than I would having them know and having to go back and share with them that there were potential complications or a loss of pregnancy. We won't tell anyone else until after at least our first appointment at seven weeks or until end of first trimester. We aren't very private people and I don't feel strange having to let people know should something go wrong so depending on that first appointment we'll decide how to go from there.

vanessa11411 · April 2015

I spilled the beans to my co-worker because I needed to tell someone. The kids will be finding out as soon as I gather the energy to put something together for each of them. We'll be holding off on telling family until Mother's Day.

torriej27 · April 2015

I live 500 miles from my parents. I'm not telling them till 12 weeks because I'm nervous how they'll react. My husband and I are still in college.

Mamabear2u2 · April 2015

My parents are visiting right after our first appointment and we're waiting to do it in person. My husband's family is in Africa, and he doesn't want to share the news until a little later for them.

susiaustin · April 2015

I was set on waiting till 12 weeks, told my brother, and one of my cousins who claims it "contagious" as his wife found out she was expecting less than 24 hours after I called to ask his advice on somethings. Unfortunately my sister figured it out with my 3 year old niece in the car and she kept saying how she wanted to meet "aunties baby" couldn't stop her on that one, I knew I had to spill the beans to my mom because she was coming a week or so later, and my niece is not one to keep quiet about anything. I'm glad I did, if I miscarry they are there. Boyfriends sister was the one who read the test so his family knew as soon as he did... He still a little mad about that one. My job, I told one of my coworkers since I didn't know any OB in the area, and she and a few others noticed.,, quitting smoking down to 1 cup of coffee a day hmmmmm why might this be going on. Told my boss the day I got my sonogram, thought she'd be a lot worst than she was, but my job is a great big family they just afraid I'm not going to come back, which I totally am going to

idk how I'd stay away even if I want to be around lo all day. I told my grandmother on her birthday, all that's left is extended family which we have some cute stuff planned for

herewegrow · April 2015

My opinion is don't tell anyone you wouldn't want to have to tell if something goes wrong. Also, once you tell someone, expect others to "find out" somehow. People have no respect for it being your news to share or are "just too excited" to keep it to themselves. This is precisely why we didn't share our engagement for a week and baby #1 for almost 12 weeks. This time, we aren't sharing until we are ready to announce it to everyone! Good luck, and as with everything, go with your gut!

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