Life Would Be Easier if I Looked Pregnant?

hbrummett10 · April 2015

I'm kinda done being in the awkward stage! I'm pregnant enough that my clothes are either too small or uncomfortable, I'm experiencing cravings, my boobs are huge, and I'm naseasous and tired the majority of the day. But I am not pregnant enough to wear maternity clothes, tell my co-workers, or show. No one says "hey let the pregnant chick pick lunch" I just have to gag through it in secret. And hide my throwing up in the bathroom before meetings then quickly get it together so no one notices anything. I'm just ready to be out of the pregnancy closet and start taking advantage of the perks! Call me a diva, but I liked the extra hand at the grocery store, and I like parking in the "expectant mothers" spot at Target. I'm not pregnant enough to do any of this yet for fear of some "more pregnant" lady retaliation but I'm just as tired and sore as I was at 6 months with my last one! Anyone else feel the same way?!

I could just be delusional because I'm SO ready to be over the crappy, sick, hormonal first trimester..... But I seem to remember having a much better time with my first!

cgtaing · April 2015

I feel the same way. I've just been telling everybody I'm sick, so I am getting a little sympathy, but they're probably starting to think I'm faking it since it's been weeks lol. I did break down and tell only my boss, nobody else at work, because I am so sick all day and I don't want him to think this is my permanent way of being now, if that makes sense. That has helped. I'm able to take some more breaks and don't have to feel guilty about it. I can't wait until everybody knows so people will stop telling me how awful I look all the time. I know they mean well, but it grates on my self esteem at I time when I'm pretty exhausted and emotionally vulnerable. Just a few more weeks!

hbrummett10 · April 2015

My husband and I wanted to wait until 12 weeks to tell "work folk", but he already broke down and told his boss! I was kinda peeved, as I am going through all this and he's not experiencing the physical symptoms like I am. So I kinda fussed him out and am just hanging in there not telling mine to be stubborn. I'm thinking you're right, cg, I should probably just tell her!

cgtaing · April 2015

Yeah I wanted to wait til 12 weeks too, but my physical symptoms are so so obvious it just didn't work out that way for me. I am 8 weeks today and I had to tell my boss when I was only 5 weeks, that's how bad it's been. I think it's worth it so they don't think badly about you if your performance suffers in any way. For me, my productivity has gone down slightly and I am just not able to work any overtime at all, whereas before the pregnancy I was probably working at least 50 hours a week. So for me, I would rather him know than to think I'm just not up to the job anymore. And he reacted surprisingly well to it. He was very happy for me, and the other day I noticed sucking on a jolly rancher perked me up a bit, and I happened to mention it to him. The next day there was a big bag of jolly ranchers on my desk that he bought for me. So yeah, I would say if you have a good relationship with your boss and are very sick, it might be better to just let only them know. Good luck!

DiademChi · April 2015

I remember wanting a sticker/pin that I could wear saying "Not fat. Just pregnant." when I was at that stage with my daughter. * hugs *

SoFlaMommie1128 · April 2015

Couldn't agree more. I'm in the awkward in-between phase, too. I am really looking forward to the second trimester.

doodleoodle · April 2015

I'm with you, ladies! I'm so over the rude comments such as, "You look exhausted" or my personal favorite so far, "You've really been chowing down lately" Not to mention I just feel unattractive. Where is the glow that I was promised?!

emilyealbers · April 2015

Yeeeeeessssssss this. All of this. I'm 11w2d today, and I'm announcing this afternoon. I'm over it, and sick of waiting and hiding in the closet feeling fat and miserable....ugh

hbrummett10 · April 2015

The closet used to be fun - now it's a nightmare! I'm 10w2d and although I haven't gained any actual pounds, I'm puffy and my hips and boobs have exploded. And I have acne and backne - what?! I didn't have backne when I was a teenager! I laid in the sun for a while today feeling like a kind-of-pregnant whale trying to dry out my pimples!

cbolton19 · April 2015

hbrummett10 said:
The closet used to be fun - now it's a nightmare! I'm 10w2d and although I haven't gained any actual pounds, I'm puffy and my hips and boobs have exploded. And I have acne and backne - what?! I didn't have backne when I was a teenager! I laid in the sun for a while today feeling like a kind-of-pregnant whale trying to dry out my pimples!

Blargh! Me too. I have lost weight but feel like I have huge new tire around my mid-section. Ugh, and while out in the sun my husband asked if I had a bump, but no. It's just a blump. Ha ha I feel you on the whale thing. Gah.

MammaMac15 · April 2015

I claimed acid reflux at church this morning. lol it'll be nice to not have to lie in church haha

tayzav · April 2015

I'm right there with you all. I am sooooo ready for second trimester and actually having a real baby bump instead of feeling like an uncomfortable chubbo in everything I wear. It took me over thirty minutes to find something to wear to the gym because everything I own is tight, and like you guys I'm in that awkward in-between stage. I've got this tire around my midsection and my pants only bulge it out more. I also spent two days in the sun hoping a nice tan would lighten my mood, but finding bikini bottoms in my drawer was a nightmare, and only a peek at how my summer will go if I don't start actually looking prego soooooon. Whaaaaa! Glad I'm not the only one.

newmanmini · April 2015

hbrummett10 said:
I'm just ready to be out of the pregnancy closet

Yes! I love that you called it the pregnancy closet because that is exactly what it feels like. And I feel you on the gagging though lunch thing. I have started to just use the excuse that I am on a diet and won't be ordering lunch with everyone else. It works because my coworkers are usually ordering pretty unhealthy stuff. But sometimes the smell even makes me uncomfortable. Someone microwaved broccoli in my office the other day and it was terrible. I generally nibble on rice cakes in my cubicle throughout the day and the woman next to me has to suspect, though she hasn't said anything. I hate the pregnancy closet!!

loverofnaps · April 2015

I only feel this way outside of work because I told my manager the day after I found out because it affects what I can and can't do and I wear scrubs that hide the bloat/bump. She helped me hide it for another week before telling everyone else. We're a small group of girls, around the same age, and most with kids so I felt comfortable telling them early. Before the owner found out she told me I basically look tired and miserable lol

Kanne0729 · April 2015

It was just thinking this the other day. It sucks being in this in between stage where I'm so bloated that my regular clothes are getting uncomfortable so I have to waste my money on buying a size up because maternity clothes are way too big on me right now. We already told everyone after my first ultrasound on the eighth so keeping it hidden isn't a huge problem, but I hate to complain about anything because I know what it's like to be 30 weeks pregnant, huge and miserable, I did it three other times, so this is nothing compared to that. It'll be about a week and a half until I'm done with the first trimester and that cannot come soon enough.

kwink86 · April 2015

Yes! I feel the same way! I'm running out of excuses to not meet up with my girlfriends for drinks, a usual for us once every couple months. Just yesterday my sister in law asked about scheduling a trip to the winery. Ugh, can't wait for the next ultrasound to see everything is good and the we can spill the beans!

Favoritemandms · April 2015

hbrummett10 said:
I'm kinda done being in the awkward stage! I'm pregnant enough that my clothes are either too small or uncomfortable, I'm experiencing cravings, my boobs are huge, and I'm naseasous and tired the majority of the day. But I am not pregnant enough to wear maternity clothes, tell my co-workers, or show. No one says "hey let the pregnant chick pick lunch" I just have to gag through it in secret. And hide my throwing up in the bathroom before meetings then quickly get it together so no one notices anything. I'm just ready to be out of the pregnancy closet and start taking advantage of the perks! Call me a diva, but I liked the extra hand at the grocery store, and I like parking in the "expectant mothers" spot at Target. I'm not pregnant enough to do any of this yet for fear of some "more pregnant" lady retaliation but I'm just as tired and sore as I was at 6 months with my last one! Anyone else feel the same way?!

I could just be delusional because I'm SO ready to be over the crappy, sick, hormonal first trimester..... But I seem to remember having a much better time with my first!

Taking this moment to make a confession. I was such a cranky B*tch this morning and there were no seats on the train and I found myself wishing for a bump so someone would get up and give me their seat, even though I know I didn't reallllly need it.

LuLu213 · April 2015

Yes. All of this. Everything. I am tired of hiding! When I wake up in the middle of the night all I can think about is telling work, except someone else at work got a promotion, then had a baby, and now wants to go part-time or quit, and I am in this weird position where I am still a temp (even though I've been here 3.5 years) and I've been asking for a "real" position, and this place is so unprofessional that I know I will be judged once it comes out, and people will think, oh let's not waste our time on making her permanent, she's going to want to leave when she has her baby," which i can't afford to do, nor do I want to do ..... but I am sick of being sick and tired and having no one know why!!

chadsfiance · April 2015

I'm right there with you. I just entered my 9th week and I'm getting so anxious to get through the 1st trimester. Not only due to, what I hope is a normal, fear of losing these babies (twins), but also just because my blump is out of control. My husband even commented on it last night, which of course made me cry. If it was a baby bump, I would've been okay, but knowing it is just dreaded bloat...well I didn't need to hear his confirmation of my fatness.

I saved some workpants from a couple of years ago when I wore a size larger, and I had to pull those out today. What I don't understand is my normal pants are way too tight and are very uncomfortable, but the size larger is way too big. I yelled at my reflection this morning after I saw how big they were and asked, "how can these be too big when the others are too small - what do you want me to do????" b/c I am a crazy pregnant lady with nearly constant nausea and heartburn the last couple of days and I think I've lost it. Ugh...why can't I just wear my boyfriend style sweats to work?

My co-workers are wondering why I eat so often and why I've started eating my lunch at 10:30. I don't plan to do that, but I am just really, really hungry by then. It looks like it will be even earlier today b/c it's not even 10:00 and I'm trying to decide if I am queasy again or hungry. Before pregnancy, I never confused those two feelings, but they are so similar these days.

Cook3133 · April 2015

Feel ya, my belly has a fluffy fat to it right now. It doesn't help my youngest just turned 1. But I am starting to look pregnant! Well at least to me I am, to everyone else I probably just look like I am getting fat. I am 11wks and we are waiting for Mother's Day to tell my family. But I have caught my mom looking at my belly a few times. I am running out of clothes that don't make me look like I gained 10 pounds just in my belly! This is the longest I have ever waited to tell people and it's been kinda fun

mamax6 · April 2015

I am so over the sickness and tiredness! I can't wait to start to feel better. This has been my hardest start out of 6! Lol lets hope it's not a sign of the entire pregnancy!

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