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MrsWiggleWaggle · April 2015

'fess up people!

Mine: being extra nice to my inlaws and dropping lots of hints trying to convince them to get me that mamaroo off the registry.

karaelaine1991 · April 2015

Mine: I've had no problem falling asleep so far in the third trimester, because I'm so exhausted that I fall asleep in spite of the sore back, achey hips, and general discomfort. And I then feel irrationally guilty when I read about all of you who are struggling with insomnia. I wish I could give all of you some of my sleep, I know how frustrated you've all been feeling!

finchfeeder80 · April 2015

I'm annoyed that my step-mother can't seem to pick out something from TWO different registries to buy me for the shower. I came in to work this morning with an email asking what I want. Ummmm...... pick ANYTHING from two lists that I hand chose. I suppose that makes me ungrateful, but this woman has known me probably since birth. And while we're not close, I'd say 34 years is long enough to know what to pick from a list of things that I said I would specifically like to have.

JessHeppell · April 2015

i passed my GD test so im celebrating with cookies and iced tea. also.. i havent been staying away from deli meat. meat, cheese and crackers is my jam.

Serenamarr · April 2015

We haven't got LOs health insurance situation quite figured out yet. He will be covered under my insurance for 30 days, and we haven't decided yet if we want to go through applying for the NJ state program or just buy a private insurance plan for him. We are from PA and the CHIP program there is awesome and not just for low income- anyone can get it, they just adjust your payments to match your income. Not the case here in Jersey. State insurance is only for low income, and it shows- providers that accept it are NOT ones that would be my first choice and the hours I spent on the phone trying to figure out how to apply for it were fruitless, disorganized, and infuriating. My mom thinks I should just suck it up and do the Family Care, but honestly there is no way at this point that I'd feel comfortable with it!!!! I know I'm being a stuck up B-word but the discrimination and lowered level of care that goes with Medicaid is so real. And I want my baby to have the BEST care and I don't care if we have to pay a buttload for a private plan.

Edit: I would qualify for the low income health care for our son because we are not married and I am not currently working.

aliciac2008 · April 2015

My confession is that I'm pretty upset at my in-laws for not helping us prepare for the baby more. My mother in law asked me if we would like her to pay for a 6 month diaper service. We said no because we don't mind washing the diapers (at least for now) but if she would like to help buy the cloth diapers off our registry that would be very helpful. She only bought us one pack of diapers. My husband and I did the math. If she had done the diaper service that would have easily been over $400. Instead she bough us one pack off our registry for $100 when we had 4 other packs on the registry. I know I should be super grateful we even got that much, and I am grateful, but I just feel like she should be helping more. She's in a fine financial state to help, and she knows how much my parents have done for us. I'm just surprised she isn't showing more of an interest in helping.

Wow, this makes me look like an entitled brat. But it's my confession. I know I shouldn't be feeling this way, but I do. I haven't told anyone except my husband, and I won't hold it again my MIL, but jeez it's frustrating.

Also, she is a hoarder and we told her the baby will never be going over to her house if she wants to babysit (which she has stated a ton of times she really wants to) unless she cleans it up. She hasn't even touched anything. Makes me feel like either she doesn't care, or isn't taking our request seriously. That's not a confession, just a complaint. This lady drives me crazy.

HoosOnFirst · April 2015

I took a half day off of work to prep for my travel for my shower tomorrow and clean the house. All I ended up doing was going to Christmas Tree Shop, treating myself to Five Guys burger, fries and shake, and now I'm napping. Oops. And oh, PS 5G now has shakes as of like last month! I didn't even want it but I had to get one out of excitement!

Frogger5 · April 2015

Serenamarr said:

ETA: weird quote failure - sorry @serenamarr!

aliciac2008 said:
My confession is that I'm pretty upset at my in-laws for not helping us prepare for the baby more. My mother in law asked me if we would like her to pay for a 6 month diaper service. We said no because we don't mind washing the diapers (at least for now) but if she would like to help buy the cloth diapers off our registry that would be very helpful. She only bought us one pack of diapers. My husband and I did the math. If she had done the diaper service that would have easily been over $400. Instead she bough us one pack off our registry for $100 when we had 4 other packs on the registry. I know I should be super grateful we even got that much, and I am grateful, but I just feel like she should be helping more. She's in a fine financial state to help, and she knows how much my parents have done for us. I'm just surprised she isn't showing more of an interest in helping.

Wow, this makes me look like an entitled brat. But it's my confession. I know I shouldn't be feeling this way, but I do. I haven't told anyone except my husband, and I won't hold it again my MIL, but jeez it's frustrating.

Also, she is a hoarder and we told her the baby will never be going over to her house if she wants to babysit (which she has stated a ton of times she really wants to) unless she cleans it up. She hasn't even touched anything. Makes me feel like either she doesn't care, or isn't taking our request seriously. That's not a confession, just a complaint. This lady drives me crazy.

This is a good confession because you recognize that you shouldn't really say it out loud usually! We thought about using a diaper service at first, too, but yeah, it's so expensive! Definitely more cost effective to just buy everything and wash yourself. I'm a FTM, though, so who knows how it'll go! Should only be three or four more loads a week, and it's not like you have to stand there the whole time .

The hoarding thing - if it's really truly hoarding, it's sort of like OCD, right? So you can't really just tell her to clean up and expect her to do it. I mean, I totally get where you're coming from, and I think you should absolutely stick to your guns about not letting your baby over there if it's not safe/healthy, but it might not be a feasible request. Maybe you should try gently telling her that you realize it's hard for her, and so maybe the best solution would be for her to come to your place and watch the baby. If she can do it, it would be more convenient for you anyway! All the stuff is there, and you don't have to tote the baby anywhere . . . just a thought!

hswan26 · April 2015

I haven't taken prenatals since 1st trimester

LaurenAnn0405 · April 2015

My confession is that I just went to the grocery store and all I bought was 4 pints of various Ben&Jerrys a tub of cherry vanilla ice cream and a bag of chips. That's it and that's all I went in there for. The older couple in front of me in the check out lane were definitely looking at me disapprovingly as they bought their organic cheeses but I don't feel guilty at all!

KaLikeAWind · April 2015

I woke up from a nap about an hour ago, and have had to pee since then, but I've been ignoring it cause I am too lazy to get up and go. Thankfully it wasn't a pressing need when I woke up, but it's getting there. I'm going to end up climbing off the couch right before I burst.

Westypet · April 2015

I've been so proud of my belly... because I've haven't sprouted an "outie" belly button yet. It's hanging on for dear life, and I'm secretly dreading the day it pops out. :-(
Why is that important to me? No idea.

upandbelow · April 2015

I'm going to jump on the MIL bandwagon here! My MIL has spoken to my own mom, my uncle, my best friend and others about how if I ever need or want anything all I have to do is ask, but she's never not once said anything of the sort to me. I think it's to make it look as though she's super supportive and helpful without actually having to be supportive and helpful. I'm sure DH feels like I favour my parents, and you know what...I totally do! I shall work on this...but for now I'm going to relish my ability to blame hormones!

SweetnessG · April 2015

My mom and my sisters are not coming to my baby shower tomorrow. I shouldn't be mad about it since I expected it, but it still sucks. I will only have two family members there while the rest is DH family.

apeschka · April 2015

My mil just took a new job out of state and is moving in a week and isn't planning on seeing her son or grandson before leaving. I'm super pissed and dh is upset but won't say it. His whole family is so unreliable and uninvolved I can't stand it. My parents come 13 hours once a month to help me because his family who live in town are so damn useless

henrytviii · April 2015

So jealous of anyone that still has an innie, my belly button popped out the second I got knocked up. I can thank baby #1 for the umbilical hernia. I didn't show with this one for about 20 weeks, but I had the outie by 6 weeks. Gross.

My confession: Yesterday I left work & went to the gas station for a big gulp of Orange Soda (low blood sugar is making me nauseous every walking hour 3rd trimester). My co-worker asked me to get him a MTN Dew. Filling these I was totally mortified that someone would judge the pregnant lady. Yep, basically looked like I'm feeding my baby 64 ounces of soda. Which I kind of was but only 32 ounces and I was going to sip it slowly all day. Anyway, fill the soda, start walking to the register, and think oh my god I hope no one is looking at me I am completely letting my gut hang out, I should hope in my abs. Yep, went from worried about being judged to completely forgetting that I was pregnant in less than 10 seconds.

ElRuby · April 2015

I just seriously got upset with my husband for eating a piece of a Gertrude Hawk solid chocolate bunny that I have been gnawing on for a couple of weeks and hiding in my corner cabinet... It was quite funny but I was quite serious about him not touching it again!

The second part of that confession is it was not my bunny to begin with but my 3 year old DS doesn't really need that much chocolate anyway

thedo · April 2015

They can judge you all they want... I will be jealous for the rest of my days.

Hmmm... Confession, I am constantly having dreams about exes and high school crushes... I'm 33

ElRuby · April 2015

thedo said:
They can judge you all they want... I will be jealous for the rest of my days.

Hmmm... Confession, I am constantly having dreams about exes and high school crushes... I'm 33

The dreaming about exes is actually pretty normal in pregnancy... There is a theory that we dream about a time we felt sexy and desirable since most of us aren't really feeling that way currently... This happened a lot with DS but not as much this time around...now I bet I will have one of those dreams tonight ( wouldn't be the worst thing in the world

katyertl · April 2015

My mom has a 3 bedroom house now that's it's just her since my step dad passed and she is converting one of the rooms into a nursery type room for our baby when she babysits. We currently are living in a one bedroom duplex until baby is 6 months old. I'm super jealous and kind of annoyed that she gets to be able to decorate this room really cute and we don't get to do anything with our house at all since baby is sharing our room. I know if we had a bigger house baby would be in our room anyways for a bit but I'd still like to be able to get a nursery ready and be able to store things like clothes and toys in there instead of in our living room and basement where they are now. Ugh so not fair lol

knwilliams01 · April 2015

Was told yesterday we are planing for c section next week at 34 weeks. I am feeling guilty for being extremely excited to have a known endpoint to my sentence in pregnancy prison. Don't get me wrong, I would sit in this hospital room until 37 weeks if my docs thought that was best. However, they believe we shouldn't push it past 34 weeks and I am so excited at the thought of meeting LO next week and being able to leave this hospital in 10ish days!

devyns2nd · April 2015

I've secretly been prodding my granny about my shower. She is planning it with my mom and my mom has zero motivation. It's getting so late I could actually have this baby before I have a shower. I know not cool and totally frowned upon but, I've got nothing for this baby yet because they were planning this big shower. Ummm no one is going to have time to even plan on coming and I'll be crazy trying to get everything. I didn't expect a shower in the begining and this was all my moms idea. Now she's bailing? Not to mention she's not once touched my belly or made any comment on how he's doing or even what we are naming him. I want to choke her. Oh and in using my granny because she jumps her shit for stuff like this and I don't have the balls.

mindaa · April 2015

OK, I have a shower one too! Since I've been at my job, I've attended showers for two co-workers that have both been held on a Saturday morning. I have a coworker who has been hinting at the fact that she's heading up the planning of a shower for me... but has not yet asked about my availability for weekends or evenings or even to check my workday schedule. Ummm... I'm due in six weeks!

It makes me feel selfish for expecting something (though would make me a little sad to be excluded, given I've participated in two). Besides wanting to get it on my schedule, I really want to finish up my shopping, but feel like I need leave things on the registry in case there is a shower.

virginiaunicorn11 · April 2015

I love seeing what baby names people are choosing on here (even though most are um, not my style), but for some reason I do not want to share my shortlist.

I have googled all the names and some are fairly common (both the first and middle combo) but our top boy name has zero google results (despite being a combo of a traditional American first name and traditional German middle name).

I think I am likely in the "I don't care what others think because DH and I love it" camp now, which I have criticized in the past. Oops!

lauraf314 · April 2015

Ah! All of this!

karaelaine1991 · April 2015

devyns2nd said:
I've secretly been prodding my granny about my shower. She is planning it with my mom and my mom has zero motivation. It's getting so late I could actually have this baby before I have a shower. I know not cool and totally frowned upon but, I've got nothing for this baby yet because they were planning this big shower. Ummm no one is going to have time to even plan on coming and I'll be crazy trying to get everything. I didn't expect a shower in the begining and this was all my moms idea. Now she's bailing? Not to mention she's not once touched my belly or made any comment on how he's doing or even what we are naming him. I want to choke her. Oh and in using my granny because she jumps her shit for stuff like this and I don't have the balls.

As far as your mom not touching your belly yet goes, my mom hadn't touched mine yet either until last weekend. I hadn't even realized that this was the case since we see her *maybe* once a month since we live 4 hours away, but she brought it up last weekend when she was visiting. Baby was moving and I just kind of grabbed her hand and put it on my stomach so she could feel. She got the biggest smile on her face and said it was the first time she'd felt baby move, which I hadn't even realized. Apparently she was afraid to just touch me or even ask to touch me because she didn't want to make me uncomfortable! Is it possible that this might be what's going on with your mom?

mccall35 · April 2015

I really want to try a VBAC, but part of me hopes that baby girl stays breech so that I don't have to make the ultimate call.

The last couple weeks I feel like I just keep getting the short end of the stick, an unsupportive VBAC doctor, then a diagnosis of GD, now finding out baby is still breech at 32 weeks. The odds keep stacking against my VBAC success rate. I'm tired of worrying.

princessbmw · April 2015

mccall35 said:
I really want to try a VBAC, but part of me hopes that baby girl stays breech so that I don't have to make the ultimate call.

The last couple weeks I feel like I just keep getting the short end of the stick, an unsupportive VBAC doctor, then a diagnosis of GD, now finding out baby is still breech at 32 weeks. The odds keep stacking against my VBAC success rate. I'm tired of worrying.

We are in a similar boat and I feel the same way! GD, breech baby, and wanting to try for vbac. But when I talked to the MFM about the risks of VBAC with GD, she scared me with stories of the shoulders getting stuck! Like you, I kind of hope the decision is made for me!

mccall35 · April 2015

princessbmw said:

mccall35 said:
I really want to try a VBAC, but part of me hopes that baby girl stays breech so that I don't have to make the ultimate call.

The last couple weeks I feel like I just keep getting the short end of the stick, an unsupportive VBAC doctor, then a diagnosis of GD, now finding out baby is still breech at 32 weeks. The odds keep stacking against my VBAC success rate. I'm tired of worrying.
We are in a similar boat and I feel the same way! GD, breech baby, and wanting to try for vbac. But when I talked to the MFM about the risks of VBAC with GD, she scared me with stories of the shoulders getting stuck! Like you, I kind of hope the decision is made for me!

Glad to know I'm not alone

We'll have to keep in touch!

devyns2nd · April 2015

karaelaine1991 said:

devyns2nd said:
I've secretly been prodding my granny about my shower. She is planning it with my mom and my mom has zero motivation. It's getting so late I could actually have this baby before I have a shower. I know not cool and totally frowned upon but, I've got nothing for this baby yet because they were planning this big shower. Ummm no one is going to have time to even plan on coming and I'll be crazy trying to get everything. I didn't expect a shower in the begining and this was all my moms idea. Now she's bailing? Not to mention she's not once touched my belly or made any comment on how he's doing or even what we are naming him. I want to choke her. Oh and in using my granny because she jumps her shit for stuff like this and I don't have the balls.
As far as your mom not touching your belly yet goes, my mom hadn't touched mine yet either until last weekend. I hadn't even realized that this was the case since we see her *maybe* once a month since we live 4 hours away, but she brought it up last weekend when she was visiting. Baby was moving and I just kind of grabbed her hand and put it on my stomach so she could feel. She got the biggest smile on her face and said it was the first time she'd felt baby move, which I hadn't even realized. Apparently she was afraid to just touch me or even ask to touch me because she didn't want to make me uncomfortable! Is it possible that this might be what's going on with your mom?

Unfortunately no. My mom is super detatched and she's TRYING to get g. svcbetter with it but, she's not doing so good. She didn't see DD until three weeks after she was born. My problem is she seemed excited and it's faded now and its putting me in a hard spot. She's already planned my brothers for May 30th and they are due in August.

karaelaine1991 · April 2015

devyns2nd said:

karaelaine1991 said:

devyns2nd said:
I've secretly been prodding my granny about my shower. She is planning it with my mom and my mom has zero motivation. It's getting so late I could actually have this baby before I have a shower. I know not cool and totally frowned upon but, I've got nothing for this baby yet because they were planning this big shower. Ummm no one is going to have time to even plan on coming and I'll be crazy trying to get everything. I didn't expect a shower in the begining and this was all my moms idea. Now she's bailing? Not to mention she's not once touched my belly or made any comment on how he's doing or even what we are naming him. I want to choke her. Oh and in using my granny because she jumps her shit for stuff like this and I don't have the balls.
As far as your mom not touching your belly yet goes, my mom hadn't touched mine yet either until last weekend. I hadn't even realized that this was the case since we see her *maybe* once a month since we live 4 hours away, but she brought it up last weekend when she was visiting. Baby was moving and I just kind of grabbed her hand and put it on my stomach so she could feel. She got the biggest smile on her face and said it was the first time she'd felt baby move, which I hadn't even realized. Apparently she was afraid to just touch me or even ask to touch me because she didn't want to make me uncomfortable! Is it possible that this might be what's going on with your mom?
Unfortunately no. My mom is super detatched and she's TRYING to get g. svcbetter with it but, she's not doing so good. She didn't see DD until three weeks after she was born. My problem is she seemed excited and it's faded now and its putting me in a hard spot. She's already planned my brothers for May 30th and they are due in August.

Aw that stinks! I hope she comes around soon, that must be so frustrating/hurtful!

laurendutch · April 2015

I just told my kids that Chuck E Cheese is only for birthday parties. I have no guilt about this at all!

aj1327 · April 2015

laurendutch said:
I just told my kids that Chuck E Cheese is only for birthday parties. I have no guilt about this at all!

This is my first child, but I'm totally stealing this idea! Love it!

bosleyb · April 2015

@knwilliams01

I completely understand your being somewhat relieved at delivering at 34 weeks. My water ruptured this week at 30 weeks and 2 days. They are hoping I make it to 34 weeks. Secretly I am relieved it is only 3 more weeks now as I have passed 3 kidney stones in the last two months, am still having kidney stone issues while hospitalized now. And I am hospitalized and being monitored for the rest of my pregnancy. My first pregnancy was a breeze in comparison to this one. Getting preeclampsia at 36 weeks and 4 days and being hospitalized for 3 days was a breeze in comparison to this awful pregnancy! Can't wait to hold my baby girl, but also want to keep her baking as long as is safely possible!

klkonwi · April 2015

@mindaa..... We threw a work shower for a 4th time mom and I helped organize ...... And I too am a little annoyed that it's my 1st and no one has done anything. I know this sounds like I'm an entitled brat...... I'm really not I've just had a rough time and being on leave.... You would think that 1st baby trumps 4th. Esp when I'm always so supportive of everyone else's babies.

JessHeppell · April 2015

this will sound bad.. but im totally jealous of all the mama's who were told to take it easy/on bed rest.
im so tired all the time and im on my feet all day at work. i just dont wanna do anything anymore -_-

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