To all my c-section mommys out there first or 2+

Re: To all my c-section mommys out there first or 2+

• mamajama3 member

  April 2015

  Preach! Thanks for this- I am very likely going to have a c-section due to a breech baby and it helps to hear that I am not alone from a cs veteran

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• CateOfChicago member

  April 2015

  This will be my 2nd cs. They aren't by choice but it wouldn't matter to me if it were. I don't have any guilt or feel any less of a woman and neither should anyone else. 1 day doesn't erase 9 months. My cs was awful (epidural was super painful and took forever, had a panic attack during cs from the paralyzed feeling, blood pressure dropped dangerously low so I was practically on conscious and don't remember dd being born, bleeding later that day which resulted in surgery, blood drain bag for 2 weeks and they broke my tooth). I don't imagine vb being any harder. In my experience, a cs is not an easy way out.

  
  

  Franco Paul born 6/4/15 at 39 weeks.  Mila Francesca born 10/19/13 at 37 weeks.  Both born via C-Section after 6 years of fertility treatments, disappointments and losses. Love them!!

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• jmorneau09 member

  April 2015

  Thank you for this. I will be having my 2nd due to the fact that I make big babies. Many say that's a terrible excuse because chubby bodies squish but it's more than squish, i literally make big children not just fat children.... but I'm good with it. I'd rather have a routine c and avoid an emergency situation in which my boy gets stuck in my tilted pelvic bone or gets stuck and then is forced out and hurt in some way.
  
  Advice to FTM that may be having to make the decision to have one or not....do NOT let anyone tell you that a c-section makes your baby's birth any less miraculous and memorable. Do what you feel is right for you...oh...and some of these very opinionated mommies to be that are so against csections will end up having one by no choice if their own and have to eat their words. Besides...once you have that baby nothing, especially how they ended up in your arms will matter.
  Many hospitals will still give you many of the things that vaginal deliverers will get like skin to skin right away as well as nursing before you even make it to recovery. Just ask you doctor about making those things happen if they are something your interested in. Or you can always give the skin to skin job to daddy. My husband was so thrilled and is even more pumped to have that bonding time with this baby. With our fist he did skin to skin until I was nicely stiched/glued up and ready for my own skin to skin time. He has said on more than one occasion that those few minutes of snuggling were the most amazing of his life.
  Good luck to all you mommies.

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• sephora468 member

  April 2015

  You know I was just thinking about this the other day. When I was pregnant with my first and nearing delivery I was shocked to see debates among women regarding c-section and vaginal birth. I was like really less of woman if she has a c-section? We are talking about the woman who carried her lil one for 9 long months. Endured countless doctor appointments, testing, endless pregnancy symptoms, dietary restrictions, etc. ...all for the hope of a healthy baby---and she's less of a woman??
  
  As a high risk patient I was advised due to my situation a c-section was very possible. However towards the end of my pregnancy my situation improved and my doctors approved a vaginal delivery. Now 2nd time around if I could avoid a c-section I would. HOWEVER it has been my experience c-section are advised for medical reasons. And no woman should be shamed for having a child via c-section. She at the end of the day brought life into the world. And that's all we should be focused on.
  
  Sorry for my rant...but I couldn't believe what women were saying to other women regarding delivery methods.

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• nicolebishop91 member

  April 2015

  Thank you for this. I was 19 and had been so scared when I had labored for 13 hours and my bp dropped so they made the decision. I had to wait two hours for the OR after they told me. I was exhausted, scared, and starving(my inlaws thought itd be a good idea to bring my husband taco bell, into my laboring room.) it was the worst feeling. I had to close my eyes and sleep. Woke me up at 1:30am husband had to wait outside the or for twenty minutes while they got set up and increased my epidural to numb my whole body. I was freezing and scared. The anesthesiologist kept drying my eyes for me because my arms were strapped to the table and I couldn't feel them if I wanted to. But you have to just put on a brave face. Its not easy. I am hoping I will have a vb this time around, but if second is anything like the first I wont be. Good luck mama's!

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• julieulie member

  April 2015

  Thank you so much for posting this. I've been a casual lurker on the bump fourums but never posted before - this was exactly what I needed to read tonight. I was unexpectedly induced on Friday at 37w0d due to a same-day diagnosis of cholestasis. After 36 hours in labor, the team came in and told me that despite doing a great job pushing, the baby had stopped descending and they thought he was stuck and in distress and it was time for a c-section. I was so devastated, I bawled the entire time they prepped me in the OR (without my husband, like the article mentioned). The baby was indeed so stuck that he couldn't even be pulled out head first, so I needed an additional vertical incision so he could be yanked out by his feet. I lost so much blood, I needed three blood transfusions and wasn't able to hold my baby for 8 hours because my blood pressure was so dangerously low. I've had multiple surgeries before and thus recovery has been the hardersf, both physically and emotionally, by far. To imply that it is the "easy way out" or "not natural" is so incredibly inaccurate and selfish - it's the biggest sacrifice a mother can make for the health of her unborn child. If anyone else goes through the unexpected or unwanted c-section, please remember the words spoken in the second essay when you face all the challenges - I wish I read this before and not after I went through mine.

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• lestes1121 member

  April 2015

  julieulie said:

  Thank you so much for posting this. I've been a casual lurker on the bump fourums but never posted before - this was exactly what I needed to read tonight. I was unexpectedly induced on Friday at 37w0d due to a same-day diagnosis of cholestasis. After 36 hours in labor, the team came in and told me that despite doing a great job pushing, the baby had stopped descending and they thought he was stuck and in distress and it was time for a c-section. I was so devastated, I bawled the entire time they prepped me in the OR (without my husband, like the article mentioned). The baby was indeed so stuck that he couldn't even be pulled out head first, so I needed an additional vertical incision so he could be yanked out by his feet. I lost so much blood, I needed three blood transfusions and wasn't able to hold my baby for 8 hours because my blood pressure was so dangerously low. I've had multiple surgeries before and thus recovery has been the hardersf, both physically and emotionally, by far. To imply that it is the "easy way out" or "not natural" is so incredibly inaccurate and selfish - it's the biggest sacrifice a mother can make for the health of her unborn child. If anyone else goes through the unexpected or unwanted c-section, please remember the words spoken in the second essay when you face all the challenges - I wish I read this before and not after I went through mine.

  
  I know I wish I would have read these when I had my first as well. I had had a 3 week battle with preterm labour and contracted constantly for three weeks. My baby was breech and I had finally reached 5 cm and we couldn't risk her coming through the birth canal breech. I remember being so scared she was only 36 weeks. I didn't know if she would have trouble but I new at that point it was better to have her in my arms than in my belly. I remember itching so bad from the spinal that they had to almost knock me out. I delivered at a small hospital where I knew all the doctors and nurses from my mom working. It was a wonderful Christian atmosphere. I prayed with my doctor before surgery and then the or charge nurse said another prayer while I was getting my spinal. It is a very scary process. I know all labour is but I hate to hear anyone put down moms that have a c section. It is a very brave and selfless act!! Good luck to all mommas!
  

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