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2nd Trimester
christmasgm
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I dont trust my doctor......
christmasgm
member
hello all!
Not that I expect anyone to respond I guess I just need to vent and write this down somewhere just to get it out. So...bear with me.
A little history on me I have a 7 year old daughter already and Im finally pregnant with a second child after YEARS of struggling and 9 loses in between. I have lost both of my fallopian tubes due to multiple ectopic pregnancies and finally got pregnant through IVF I am 24 weeks and SUPER excited. I am active duty in the military so I don't have MUCH choice on my health care and kinda just get what I get.
So in 2012 I got pregnant and discovered it was an ectopic pregnancy (3rd one for me) at that time prior to going into surgery to have the pregnancy removed I asked the doctor to remove the tube (it was the only one left) however I couldn't go through another loss. not emotionally, mentally or physically. He had agreed that that would be the best thing for me and told me he would do it. Waking up from surgery to my shock he hadn't taken ANYTHING out! not even the ectopic pregnancy!!! He told me that he didn't see anything in my tube so he just closed me up. 48 hours later I had a follow up with him at the office and he showed me pictures of the surgery and CLEARLY there was an ectopic pregnancy in there and he could open me back up or treat it with methotrexate. I didn't want to do another surgery so we did option 2. Now with only one damaged tube I would have a VERY hard time getting pregnant so I was referred to the infertility clinic. who first thing they did was took out my damaged tube......
Fast forward to now I was finally able to do IVF and successfully implanted one healthy baby boy and one I was far enough along to be transferred to the regular ob clinic...guess who my doc is.....yup you got it the SAME doc who missed my ectopic pregnancy in 2012!!! Now I just feel like ANYTHING he tells me I don't trust him to really know what he is talking about. I feel as if, if he could miss something that HUGE how can I trust him to give me any good information?!?! I gave him the benefit of the doubt and I've tried sticking with him because knowing my luck even if I tried switching docs he would probably be the one who is going to deliver my baby regardless! After my 20 week ultrasound I gave it 3 days and called the office to leave a message for him to call me back with the results and seriously 3 messages later and a whole week had gone by he called me back and ADMITTED to have gotten my message 5 days ago and was just "getting around to it" oh yea BTW you (me) have placenta previa schedule another ultrasound at 30 weeks!! Really?! I get NOTHING! NO sort of warm and fuzy at all just deal with it for the next 10 weeks and we'll see what happens!
I don't know...I just feel so frustrated because I seriously DREAD having to see him EVERY SINGLE month and have asked to be transferred to another doc and have been told that there was nobody else available....I don't know what to do or how to feel I just feel like even if he is giving me the right information Im just not going to trust him period because of our history!! Am I wrong?? Im sure he is a good doc and he did his residency at walter reed for goodness sakes I just have a personal issue with him I guess......
Sorry for my rant I just had to get it out.
Re: I dont trust my doctor......
2nd round exp 8/20/18.
One last thing, you are active duty, correct? Not a spouse? If you are a spouse it is very easy to see a Dr off base because you can switch your care to Select. Not an option of you are AD though.