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Shower and Registry Gift Protocol

BabyBean54BabyBean54 member
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Registry/shower question!!! Mamas who used registry or Amazon or babylist or anything similar!! My shower is not until 5/17 but I have started to receive gifts. Do I open and send thank you cards right away? Do I wait until my shower? My mom is stressing me out because she's like you'll have nothing to open at your shower now, this is silly, you should've done an old school registry. Also, some gifts are coming with no card and no name as to who sent them!! Help!!!! What is proper protocol in this "new school" forum?
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  • karaelaine1991karaelaine1991 member
    edited April 2015
    We had a conversation about this a few weeks ago on here. My stance then - and now - is that they're being sent to your house so you don't have to bring them to/home from your shower. Open them now and get the thank yous sent out. Plus, thank yous will let the people who sent the gifts know that they did make it safely to you.

    ETA also for the gifts with no name, if they come from your registry you should be able to log on and look at the thank you list that's available on Amazon.
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  • KaLikeAWindKaLikeAWind member
    edited April 2015
    Yes to the above. If they are sent to your house I would open them and send thank yous now. Amazon will tell you who got it for you if you click into your registry a little bit

    ETA I don't know if this is proper etiquette, and I'm not having a shower to relate to, but if I were, the above is what I would do
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  • queequeg09256queequeg09256 member
    This reminded me of the slacker I am and how I really need to do my thank you cards. I agree with everyone else sent to your house open it up! Plus opening presents is always fun why not space it out!
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  • laurendutchlaurendutch member
    I would open and send a thank you note right away. That way the sender knows you received it and appreciate it. I would also make a list of who got you what so if the person is at the shower you can thank them in person.
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  • Frogger5Frogger5 member
    ElRuby said:

    I would assume that if a gift came in the mail then the person is not attending my shower so I would not be hauling their gift to my shower just to open it in front of other people.

    I don't think that this is necessarily true: people might have sent the gift ahead so you don't have to lug it back from the party even though they will be attending. Probably pertains more to bulky items. Even if they do show, though, no need to bring the gift - that's why they sent it ahead, to help you out.

    In that case, you might take a picture of you with the gift and show them at the shower, or tell someone else about what they gave you (in front of them) so they feel special and that you remember. IDK, that's what I would do - like, "oh, Mary, you should see the bottles Tom had sent to my house! They are those glass ones blah blah. I'm so excited to use them!" Of course, if tons of people send gifts to your house and you don't know at the time who's going to the shower, it might be too much to keep straight!
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  • msahinoglumsahinoglu member
    I received several gifts in advance of my baby shower, and some were from people who couldn't attend, but some were bulky gifts (car seat, stroller) that people rightly thought would be difficult to lug from baby shower.  I opened them and sent out thank you cards.  Also, we received a random package with no name with a huge box of diapers and wipes, and I put out a message on facebook indicating that I would love to properly thank whoever sent it, and someone responded right away.   And I did make a point to mention to the people at the shower who had sent gifts to the home to thank them again in person.  
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  • rqcollin247rqcollin247 member
    I am using Amazon for my registry. I've received several large gifts such as the crib and playard and I'm happy I received those early so I could set them up. I won't be sending out thank you cards until after my shower because I'd like to do it all at once...it just seems more logical to me instead of sending them out at different times.
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  • SportzchckSportzchck member

    So I initially held off on sending Thank You cards prior to my first shower since it was out of state and folks had told my mom they shipped the larger gift but were bringing something smaller for me to open in person (that way I was only sending one card). But I  made sure to get them all done within two weeks of the shower date.

    This was important to me since I have my second shower with my west coast friends and family in a few weeks and I wanted to be caught up. I will probably hold off on sending any notes until after next weekend since they are close in time and I have only gotten 1-2 things since the first shower in the mail.

    A good trick I have used is setting up a google doc spreadsheet to keep track of each gift, the giver, store and date I sent a thank you card to make sure I don't miss anyone. That way I can hold off and do more cards at once, but not forget anyone.

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  • karaelaine1991karaelaine1991 member
    Sportzchck said:

    So I initially held off on sending Thank You cards prior to my first shower since it was out of state and folks had told my mom they shipped the larger gift but were bringing something smaller for me to open in person (that way I was only sending one card). But I  made sure to get them all done within two weeks of the shower date.

    This was important to me since I have my second shower with my west coast friends and family in a few weeks and I wanted to be caught up. I will probably hold off on sending any notes until after next weekend since they are close in time and I have only gotten 1-2 things since the first shower in the mail.

    A good trick I have used is setting up a google doc spreadsheet to keep track of each gift, the giver, store and date I sent a thank you card to make sure I don't miss anyone. That way I can hold off and do more cards at once, but not forget anyone.

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    Love your spreadsheet idea! I'm going to have to steal that :)
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  • HoosOnFirstHoosOnFirst member
    karaelaine1991 said:

    Sportzchck said:

    So I initially held off on sending Thank You cards prior to my first shower since it was out of state and folks had told my mom they shipped the larger gift but were bringing something smaller for me to open in person (that way I was only sending one card). But I  made sure to get them all done within two weeks of the shower date.

    This was important to me since I have my second shower with my west coast friends and family in a few weeks and I wanted to be caught up. I will probably hold off on sending any notes until after next weekend since they are close in time and I have only gotten 1-2 things since the first shower in the mail.

    A good trick I have used is setting up a google doc spreadsheet to keep track of each gift, the giver, store and date I sent a thank you card to make sure I don't miss anyone. That way I can hold off and do more cards at once, but not forget anyone.

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    Love your spreadsheet idea! I'm going to have to steal that :)
    Yup I also got a spreadsheet going :) One of many baby-related spreadsheets. DH hates it but I organize my life by Excel!
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  • janat1717janat1717 member
    I also opened and sent Thank You cards right away.
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