Feeling overwhelmed and running out of time

jenbueschel · April 2015

I am 36w and so not ready for baby to come! Currently living in a 550 Sq ft studio and have been looking for places to move, but each time we think we have a new place set, things fall though and we have to start over. The house we like went off the market, other offers received or even renting the places don't allow animals.

I haven't been able to set anything up baby wise to get ready. We have a crib, rock and play, bottles clothes and diapers, but they are all still boxed up with no where to go. With 2 step kids our tiny place is stuffed with toys and "junk". Even when clean our place looks like a storage unit.Thinking that we could bring a newborn home to this place seems just simply not doable.

On top of the living situation my SO lost his job a month ago and has not been able to find a new job as of yet. So on top of being super preggo I am also now the only bread winner, working 12 hour days 5 days a week. I get very frustrated very easily now a days, while the SO is taking every opportunity to relax and sleep and enjoy his "time off". I wish he would see how important it is that he get in gear already! I have talked to him and explained how I feel and how this next month will fly by and baby will be here, and I need him to help getting things going...he seems to hear me but his actions haven't changed.

Needed a rant and to get it out!! As my mom says this too shall pass. Just wish I was more prepared and set to go!

kateamart · April 2015

I'm sorry you have to go through all this, it sounds amazingly stressful! Although I tend to agree with your mom, all will fall into place and in a couple months I'm sure you'll look back at this time and feel better about everything.

Regarding your SO, I just wanted to let you know that I'm also learning that my DH is not realizing how important it is that he get in gear right now. We're in a different situation, but sort of the same outcome. My DH is working around the clock, which I appreciate, but that means he has no time to help with our home or baby stuff. On his days off he's too exhausted to do anything, and I am so frustrated that our due date is approaching with nothing ready. I've done what I can, but have to wait on him for the big stuff like moving furniture out of our nursery and picking up / putting together new furniture. I try to remember that he's not the one growing a baby, and therefore not as connected to the process as I am on a day-to-day basis. But I agree that it's super frustrating!

Knottie54288128 · April 2015

That sucks.

But, remember, the baby doesn't take up that much space as an infant so you still have some time. All you really need for the first couple of months is a place for him/her(?) to eat, sleep, and poop.

mari226 · April 2015

I feel your pain. We are in the same predicament. I'm just not working at the moment. And my boyfriend just started working full time just a couple months ago. We are trying to move but no places are open that we can actually afford. I feel like I have to do everything in order to get anything done even while I was working. Its like it's to much to ask of him to try n do the dishes try and clean up. Like I'm 35 weeks it's getting harder and harder to be able to do anything as it is. So I understand what you mean. It's like they just don't get it or have anything sympathy.

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