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Father of my baby left me! Why!

4kids4mom4kids4mom member
in November 2015 Moms
3 days ago me and my bf got in a small argument he hung up on me. So I wanted to calm down for a few days because He upset me with all the mean stuff he was saying. He told me to talk to him when I was done being mean, that made me mad. So today I logged off my Facebook and chat for the day so I could focus on things happening around me. I logged back on to fb after work and he broke up with me all over fb. He didn't even call me. I'm so upset, hurt and embarrassed, I sent him a few messages which he read but ignored. What do I do I thought he loved me and had more respect in general. Im 10wks today and an emotional wreck. I don't know what to do.
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  • Ceridwen77Ceridwen77 member
    He sounds extremely immature, regardless of your age. Breaking up over Facebook and refusing to talk to you? That's just cruel and you don't deserve it. I'm sorry you're going through this. You have reached out, now the ball is in his court to grow a pair. In the meantime, definitely talk with a close friend or family member for support. If you're really struggling, try a counseling session or two. Again, you don't deserve this!
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  • amwright33amwright33 member
    No one deserves to be broken up with over Facebook. It should be face to face. How is your support system at home and with friends? I'm sorry you feel bad right now. We are here for you.
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  • alanarobertalanarobert member
    Oh wow, that's terrible. I'm so sorry your going threw this as such a vulnerable time in your life. Nothing can really ease that sting but time, and friends. Take this as a reflection of the type of person he is, do you really want this man to be a role model for your child, or even trust him to be a support system threw this amazing experience? It's scary to imagine facing this single, but it's even worse being put threw this roller coaster of pain. You are in my prayers and hope you find peace of mind in your chaos. You know there are a lot of people with words of wisdom and advice on this board to help you when you are down. Don't stop reaching out, you are not alone.
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  • lizerspitzlizerspitz member
    I'm sorry you are going through this.  It sounds like you took the time to cool off and give him space and he just spiraled down into a more and more angry place.  Arguments should not ever go that route, especially so publicly.  I hope you have plenty of people around you who can be better to you than he was.
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  • ashd918ashd918 member
    What an ass.
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  • esgabbyesgabby member
    Me an my boyfriend just broke up Saturday. I'm back at my moms house now. I know this is really hard but stay strong for the baby. Stop txting him. Maybe he'll realize he's wrong for living you and his kid. Your in my prayers!
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  • christina4436christina4436 member
    I would call him or go to his house. A Facebook breakup doesn't even deserve a response back. Immature and ridiculous. I would talk it out and demand answers in person. It's easy for people to say things they don't mean without thinking over the Internet.
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  • HayHayHaydenHayHayHayden member
    If that's the type of man he is, then that's the type of man You don'tt want to be with. Its hard to hear especially being young and pregnant but have the strength to have standards no matter what situation you are in. It'll work out for you in the long run. My prayers are with you. Im not saying it's easy but you shouldn't have to put up with bullshit.
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  • KatieSetlerKatieSetler member
    My best friend raised her daughter as a single mom for the first few years (the father was and still is a lowlife). She did have the support of friends and family, but told me that she'd rather do it alone than with someone so unreliable. At least she knew SHE'D never leave her daughter
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  • 4kids4mom4kids4mom member
    @Amstreagle I am 30 years old, we don't live together we broke up and got back together 2014 it's been wonderful. this is our second child we have a 4yo it was just something tht I told him that he forgot and I got mad and raised my voice and told him I did tell you as soon as he heard me tell he hung up. So I later apologized for my attitude and he said he was done with my sorry a and he will talk to me when I calm down and so a day went by nc. Next night he text me that he loved me and to get ahold of him when I'm not being mean. I Didn't respond. Monday morning before he went to work he said I love u have a good day. I didn't respond but I was going to when he got home from work. He posted something on fb That really urked me so I told him he waS an asshole for posting it. It was a YouTube video called for the ladies by some lynch guy it made me sick, so u logged out of fb and chat, (now he does not have a cell phone only a home phone and computer) I got home from work had some thing to eat logged on fb and bam. At 7:30 pm he text asking if we were done then at 7:32 he said ok well have a good one I hope you have a good life I'll pick up our son on fri. And he changed his status to open relationship changed his pic and bg pic all of his and my friends can see it. I couldn't sleep my eyes are almost swollen shut from crying I'm tired but I have our son, I don't want to cry in front of him but I can't help it. He is my sweet little boy dry your eyes mommy I love you.... I just don't understand this came out of no where we have been threw so much worse and he never acts like this.....
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  • AnnamariauDorisAnnamariauDoris member
    Ok....my dh is 22 and don't act that childish. We moved in together 1 y ago so we could give my 4y old a sense of family and now are waiting for our my second, his first, but that is rough. If you have a fight he can run awaY because he doesn't live with you.
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  • AmstreagleAmstreagle member
    4kids4mom said:

    @Amstreagle I am 30 years old, we don't live together we broke up and got back together 2014 it's been wonderful. this is our second child we have a 4yo it was just something tht I told him that he forgot and I got mad and raised my voice and told him I did tell you as soon as he heard me tell he hung up. So I later apologized for my attitude and he said he was done with my sorry a and he will talk to me when I calm down and so a day went by nc. Next night he text me that he loved me and to get ahold of him when I'm not being mean. I Didn't respond. Monday morning before he went to work he said I love u have a good day. I didn't respond but I was going to when he got home from work. He posted something on fb That really urked me so I told him he waS an asshole for posting it. It was a YouTube video called for the ladies by some lynch guy it made me sick, so u logged out of fb and chat, (now he does not have a cell phone only a home phone and computer) I got home from work had some thing to eat logged on fb and bam. At 7:30 pm he text asking if we were done then at 7:32 he said ok well have a good one I hope you have a good life I'll pick up our son on fri. And he changed his status to open relationship changed his pic and bg pic all of his and my friends can see it. I couldn't sleep my eyes are almost swollen shut from crying I'm tired but I have our son, I don't want to cry in front of him but I can't help it. He is my sweet little boy dry your eyes mommy I love you.... I just don't understand this came out of no where we have been threw so much worse and he never acts like this.....

    I'm so sorry but his actions are so immature that I personally would not put up with someone who thinks they can break up with me ,over FB no less, and expect to just come back and act like everything is normal.
    Good luck with what ever you decide to do with him.
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  • 4kids4mom4kids4mom member
    @Liberty1025 Here is the link to the video and u tell me what you think https://youtu.be/R4bdqF5gwVw
    It's called for the ladies by Stephen lynch
    He posted this a day after I announced our good news then contacted me
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  • Lemaee3Lemaee3 member
    edited April 2015
    I mean breaking on Facebook isn't the end of the world but you also ignored him when he was trying to talk and when you finally responded you called him an asshole ..it goes both ways..and if Facebook plays a huge role in you guys relationship yall need to reevaluate something's.But the best to what you decide ..you already have a child so I would focus on him and your new baby
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  • SamiBearrrSamiBearrr member
    @4kids4mom I don't blame you for being upset about that song! That is absolutely atrocious! I can honestly say if my boyfriend posted something like that not too long after I told him the news I would call him an asshole! Your guy sounds immature and like he isn't ready to man up for another kid! I'm so sorry you are going through this! Just keep your friends and family close. I hope all goes well
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  • Liberty1025Liberty1025 member
    edited April 2015
    4kids4mom said:

    @Liberty1025 Here is the link to the video and u tell me what you think https://youtu.be/R4bdqF5gwVw
    It's called for the ladies by Stephen lynch
    He posted this a day after I announced our good news then contacted me




    Yes, that's terrible. If be angry, too. But continuing a fight with your SO OVER THE INTERNET is still not the grownup thing to do.

    I guess I just don't know what you're looking for asking "Why?" And saying you don't know what to do. To me, the choice is pretty clear. The fact that you say you're still contacting him to get him back baffles me.
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  • HayHayHaydenHayHayHayden member
    Whoa! That song is horrid. He is an ass. He has a poor sense of humor.
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  • chanishipchaniship member
    4kids4mom said:

    @Liberty1025 Here is the link to the video and u tell me what you think https://youtu.be/R4bdqF5gwVw
    It's called for the ladies by Stephen lynch
    He posted this a day after I announced our good news then contacted me

    I'm sorry but that video is horrible. I cannot even imagine someone referencing that to their own SO who is carrying their own child.
    That's fucked up.
    You had every right to be angry with it.
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  • BlueWaffleSpeshulBlueWaffleSpeshul member
    I can't look at the video while I'm at work, but I stand by my original statement. I also want to know what 30-year-old ends a relationship through FB or text. Fairly pathetic of him.
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  • 4kids4mom4kids4mom member
    Update- this morning he tagged me I'n a relationship with him.... Ugh I haven't heard anything from him I'm staying off fb untill he can come and apologize to my face.
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  • Dayvia28Dayvia28 member
    Men are from Venus woman are from Mars! Try meeting with a counselor to talk through the issues. A third party understanding both sides and forcing face to face communication may help.
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  • Liberty1025Liberty1025 member
    I hurt for the future.
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  • feebee21feebee21 member
    I'm so sorry you are going through this right now..I'm praying for the best for you and your baby! *hugs*
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