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Family leaving

backwoodsbarbie2k15backwoodsbarbie2k15 member
in May 2015 Moms
I don't know what to say.. I'm mad/nervous/disappointed/scared all at the same time. I'm 37 + 4 today and I've been having all the signs of labor the past few days (diarrhea, mucus plug, back pain, contractions). Im 17, and although I live with my fiance... I was really hoping my mom would be here for when I had my daughter. She today surprised me and told me she's going out of state with my father until Monday... I acted like I was happy they were finally getting away, but it really bothers me.. I love my mother in law, but I don't want her there in the delivery room with me. I really wanted my mom. Fiance says it's no big deal, and she can't push her out for me.. I guess he's right. But still. I'm sitting here praying my baby will stay put until Monday.. Fiance is also telling me I'm selfish for not wanting his mother in there if mine is gone... Idk. I'm a mess.
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Re: Family leaving

  • Bmore112Bmore112 member
    Just think of it as your mom's grandbaby moon. You can hold her in until she gets back. Don't stress
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  • MrsWhiteToBeMrsWhiteToBe member
    It's not selfish to want your own mom there! Does she know you've been feeling this way? I say call your dr too so they can confirm whether or not it's actual labor. Good luck! Sending t&p your way
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  • DooraDoora member
    Not selfish at all! You have the right to decide who do you want there with you and it's obvious that everyone would prefer their own mum x
    But having your mother-in-law is also better than no one (if you like her) so don't push her away.
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  • canadianmom89canadianmom89 member
    Im almost 38 weeks and I'm 26 and only plan on having my husband in the delivery room but my mom and dad are in the Dominican Republic until late Sunday night and in freaking out because I still want my mom close by! So I feel for you! And it is definitely not selfish to not want your mil in there with you, I certainly don't want my mil anywhere near the delivery room.
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  • dec2018momdec2018mom member
    I'm sorry hun. I kinda feel your pain. My parents live in another state though. When I'm sick or in pain or scared I want my mother around even more than usual. She and my dad are coming 4 days before I'm induced and I'm thrilled, but nervous that I could go early even though I'm not having a ton of symptoms.

    You're going to be okay, Monday isn't too far away. If you do happen to go early, just explain to your guy that you love your MIL, but if your mother can't be there then you're only wanting him in there as your support. He might not be too happy about that, but maybe once he's in the room and you're in Labor he will change and focus completely on you and the baby.
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  • DooraDoora member
    Keep us updated! I'm sure it's all gonna be fine x
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  • hannahwilderrhannahwilderr member
    Honestly, if you are this distressed about it, you probably won't have the baby while she is gone. A woman's body generally "releases" her baby when she feels safe. Or at least that's what my midwife tells me.  I find it freaking amazing! I am confident your mom will be there. <3 
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