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the struggle

jessicahanshaw6912jessicahanshaw6912 member
in May 2015 Moms
Anybody else just feel huge and nasty. I'm 36 weeks Thursday and have gained 30 pounds so far I feel so big and unattractive it's unreal all I want to do is cry. My husband always tells me I'm beautiful and that he loves me but also makes comments that I'm getting bigger or that my belly looks huge.
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  • mistyjewel88mistyjewel88 member
    Its the joys of being pregnant. My doc says enjoy it, you don't get to keep it. Keep your eye on the prize. 
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  • beasegbeaseg member
    Yup. It's just how it goes. DH puts in lots of effort and is always complimenting me but also makes "whoa woman! lookin BIG" comments. He says they're compliments. I feel like I can see through him though and like he's really saying "Whoa! Can't believe I married such a PORKER!". but i know that's not really what's going on.

    I just try to comfort myself with the fact that we're due in May. We'll be cleared to work out in June, and I'll pair that with breastfeeding and I know I'll look good. And I know that when he watches me in labor and delivery and breastfeeding- he'll see a kickass powerful sexy woman, no matter what I see or feel. So I'm just telling myself I'm almost there, and trying to at the very least appreciate not having to suck in my stomach while out. I think it's the one pro to my current shape.
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  • xxyourstrulyxoxxyourstrulyxo member
    edited April 2015
    I will be 35 weeks on Tuesday. I was 105 pre-pregnancy and am now about 132. I feel like a whale when in reality I've only gained about 30 pounds. It certainly doesn't help when other people make comments, either. Yesterday I went to a family dinner with H's family and his mom made a comment. Her exact words were "well you look bigger since the last time I saw you!" I just saw her two weeks ago and didn't feel like I put on too much weight since then so was a little taken back by the remark. I have been swelling more though so have felt super gross anyways. Then before I even say anything she added "your face definitely has rounded out!" ...like wtf, seriously? Why would you say that to someone?? I'm so self conscious of my body right now already, I certainly didn't need any comments about my face on top of everything!! Oh well. H's sister was right there and fortunately reassured me I would eventually go back to how I was before. Her body type is thin like mine but she gained like 80 pounds with her pregnancy a few years ago. She got huge. But she is thin now again and looks amazing.

    When I feel like crap I try to remind myself that I am eight almost nine months pregnant. What can I really expect? It's not like we're gained weight for no reason. This is part of the process we have to go through. And if you're thin to begin with then of course you're going to notice the weight you gain. But it's necessary so don't guilt yourself for it lol.
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  • emilyk527emilyk527 member
    I actually like the "big belly" comments. I figure I'd rather have people say I look pregnant, that way I know I don't just look chubby anymore! My hubby just said yesterday I've really popped in the last few weeks (referring to my bump), I take comfort knowing he wasn't talking about either set of my cheeks :)
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  • ali0608ali0608 member
    emilyk527 said:

    I actually like the "big belly" comments. I figure I'd rather have people say I look pregnant, that way I know I don't just look chubby anymore! My hubby just said yesterday I've really popped in the last few weeks (referring to my bump), I take comfort knowing he wasn't talking about either set of my cheeks :)



    I love these comments as well.  It's the only time in your life where gaining weight is usually a good thing.  Many people who talk about how big you are think it's a compliment.  You are growing a baby!!!  You should be getting bigger!!!

    I know the way our society looks at weight makes you feel fat and ugly, but you need to realize that society is not referring to pregnant women.

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  • SunshinE870SunshinE870 member
    I was 107 and now weigh 150 and only 34+3, I can't wait to be able to work out I feel horrible about myself! You're definitely not alone
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  • nicolebishop91nicolebishop91 member
    I get the you don't even look pregnant comments. I weigh 235 now, weighed 238 at the beginning of my pregnancy, I had wls in July of 2013. So my Dr didn't want me to lose, but not gain either. I have done a pretty frickin fantastic job in my eyes. I still feel huge as a whale seeing as this time around I actually have a baby bump. But I get told all the time you don't look 34 weeks pregnant oh my gosh. And I am like thanks, that's why I can't wear any of my jeans and wear sweat pants and leggings all the time. My stomach is big, but I guess to everyone else it just looks like I have gained weight back. My husband tells me I don't though. That I look pregnant this time around. You can't win I suppose.
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  • rigatonismamarigatonismama member
    Gained 30 lbs at 36 weeks also. I feel huge and hot and sweaty and unattractive, but it will all start it's decent in a few weeks. I don't have a man, but I do have my friends and family giving me the "you're beautiful" pep talk. Like everyone else is saying, it's all for a blessing yet to come, keep your eye on the prize little mama
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  • khaleesi123khaleesi123 member
    Your DH sounds like a nice guy so I believe the big belly comments are compliments. Being a very skinny girl my whole life I was happy to get the getting big comments but even I am now starting to feel a little insecure but I know the wow you are getting so big now comments are different for a male then female they are looking at us so amazed that we are carrying this big baby inside us where as we are getting freaked out by our sizes and women don't like getting their weights commented on.
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  • marthaudanimarthaudani member
    I got weighed at the hospital and the nurse looked at the scale and then looks at me and then says, "You can't be 190 lbs!"

    I freaked out a little bit until they switched the scale and it read 147. Thank God! I started at 120 and I'm 33w2d. It didn't help that I'm already feeling like a baby walrus.

    It's good to know that I'm right on track to be at about 35 lbs gained by 40 weeks. I gained more than 50 lbs with DS. Oopsie...
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