Pregnancy after loss

gbaby12315 · April 2015

I am a first timer... Kind of... I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy at 11 weeks in December. Now due on December 3rd... I am thrilled but can't seem to accept it or stress less about it. I am just waiting for the other shoe to drop and something bad happen. Anyone else have a similar experience? Suggestions to cope? I just keep telling myself, one day at a time...

sarah00frey · April 2015

No advice but I'm going through the same thing and it sucks.. Can't wait to see a heart beat

CarliB2 · April 2015

Same thing here too. I had my miscarriage last December also and have been having a really hard time these last two weeks. I can't even get excited or get my hopes up until I know there is a healthy growing baby in there. Until then I'm just scared that I will go into my first US to find out the same thing as last time. I'm praying that isn't the case, but it's all I can think about.
I wish I had some advice but all I can say is I know how you feel!

BostonBaby1 · April 2015

I'm so sorry you all are going through this! I also miscarried very early last cycle so I'm "cautiously optimistic." I did have one nightmare after another last night that it was happening again. Hopefully we all will have healthy pregnancies this time. FX

dgarofoli · April 2015

I had two MC last year, with my second in late December too. I'm also due on 3rd December. I have my first appointment with my OB on Tuesday and instead of being excited for it, I am so scared! But I am being optimistic and I have already booked my 12 week appointment with the best fetal medicine specialist in my area (he's usually super full) so I can be really sure everything is ok with baby when I make it there! Seeing this is my 3rd time, all I can say is try enjoy every minute of it and fall in love. If something bad is going to happen then you can look back and say you have felt the love and will find the strength to do it again. I do believe there really is a pot of golden love at the end of the rainbow - just be brave and strong enough to find it! Sending all of you strength and courage over the next few weeks!

eemiers · April 2015

I miscarried before I had my son. I am not sure there is anything that can completely remove the doubt and worry. The advice I would give is to focus on protecting your child. Stress is not good for the baby. Try and refocus the energy to educate yourself on what is happening to your body. I found that if I distracted myself with understanding all the details in the beginning, as things happened to my body that were not as noticeable, I would get excited because I knew things were progressing as they should be. Positive thoughts for everyone!

imfunsizeniki · April 2015

I've had 6 m/c and 2 infant losses. I used to live in that constant state of worry with each pregnancy. But now... I cherish every moment I had with my 2 children, even though 90% of those moments they were in my belly. I've decided that while I'm not going to treat it like those who have never had a loss and blab it to the whole world crazy early, and start buying stuff and decorating the nursery.... I AM going to try to enjoy every moment I have with them. With our risk factors I know that I may not have many with them outside of my belly so cherish what moments we do have together. I am trying at least can't say I'm perfect at it.... Soooo anyways.... That's how I get through it.

BP1979 · April 2015

I'm in the same boat. I had a MMC with my first pregnancy this past summer. I was 10 weeks along. Now I'm just trying not to worry every minute of every day that somethings going wrong. I've got my first appointment on Friday and the closer it gets, the more anxious I'm feeling. Not sure how to avoid the anxiety, just doing the best I can in each moment.

BCIndychick · April 2015

I didn't know that I had miscarried last Feb. I thought I was 11 weeks, but the doctor told me that I had lost it about 8. I had to have a D&C. I am a little nervous with this one only because I hope it doesn't happen again. I take it one day at a time. I am super conscious of anything coming around my belly. Here is hoping that all of us have the best of luck this time around.

krisannekirby88 · April 2015

I'm the same. Lost my twins at 7 weeks in November. My body finally got regulated and now I'm pregnant again. Hoping this sweet bean rainbow sticks ❤️

miluc3742 · April 2015

Going through same thing here. I almost can't get excited until I see the heartbeat. I had my last MC back in Nov. I would say the only way to cope is to try not to stress over it and relax. (I know, easier said than done)

soccsm13 · April 2015

I also had a miscarriage at 11w on 1/10 and I just found out I'm pregnant again. I'm super nervous and having a hard time getting excited. I'm thankful to have a 2 year old son to distract myself!

kirble · April 2015

I suffered a MMC last year at 12 weeks(found out at dating scan) and am now 7 weeks with my 2nd pregnancy.
I had a scan last week and got to see the heartbeat, which made me feel better but I would go every week if I could just to check! My body tricked me into thinking I was still pregnant when The baby actually stopped developing at 6 weeks.
I'm also due on the 3rd of Dec but I can't see that far ahead just yet. Setting small milestones is important for me and booking in some extra scans for reassurance is what we're doing too.
I do feel positive about this pregnancy but probably like all of you I won't fully relax until he/she is in my arms....

Positive thoughts and one day at a time is the best we can all do!

CandaceS04 · April 2015

I know exactly how you feel. I miscarried Feb 27th and I am pregnant again, but I am not for sure how far along I am. Had my HCG and progesterone levels checked first numbers came back 403 and 9.8! I am nervous wreck till I find out today's results from blood work. We have been trying not to get excited, due to fear of another miscarriage.

Baby+Kate · April 2015

Going through almost exactly the same situation, miscarriage Dec 10weeks twins and I'm due 5th Dec.... Every day I wake up thinking something bad has happened

hang in there we r over half way to the first trimester being done

kaitmcpherson · April 2015

In early December I had a mmc at 16 weeks, the baby only measured 14 weeks and I had to deliver. Now I am 7 weeks due early December and so hopeful that it will come full circle. We had told all friends/family/coworkers last time so we are now struggling with if we should tell them again or wait until further along as it was hard having to tell everyone when I miscarried. Any advice ?

danelleschlichenmayer · April 2015

Same experience. MMC in November and am pregnant now due dec 13th. One thing I suggest is talking to your doctor about your concerns. I voiced mine and he scheduled me for blood draws to test my hcg and progesterone levels which has helped with my anxiety. And I would definitely add that you need to pray and not let fear overcome you. It does us no good to worry but pray for health and trust what happens. I am scared too that it'll happen again but trying to think positively !! Good luck!

lex382 · April 2015

I have had a similiar experience - I miscarried at 7 1/2 weeks during my first pregnancy and was stressed during my entire pregnancy until my son was born, I could really only relax when I felt him moving around/kicking (lucky for me he was a really active baby - and a really active kid!) I was hoping I would be calmer this pregnancy.. Some days I am, some days I'm not. I'm meditating and doing prenatal yoga in the morning which is helping me, I'm able to catch myself when I start going into "worst case scenario" mode and try to just focus on what I'm doing in the moment and how I'm feeling in the moment. Try out a few things to relax and see if that helps at all. Wishing you a H&H 9 months!

MrsKellyMelton · April 2015

Miscarried and got pregnant in the same month. Diagnosed with a abnormal uterus. So I'm super nervous!

bsmomma15 · April 2015

Oh god I can't believe how much some of us have been through. I've only had 1 mc at 6 weeks luckily I didn't know I was preg for long but I was still devastated. I could not imagine going through what several of you have gone through its heartbreaking at any stage but especially when it's 2nd trimester. I'm nearly 8 weeks now so I'm praying nothing goes wrong this time

3rdtimecharm& · April 2015

I think mc is far more common than we realize (not helpful, I know) and I think our bodies might even need the practice to figure out what its doing sometimes (also not helpful, I know) you have a really good support system here and I'm pretty sure none of us would be upset to listen to you whenever you needed to talk. I had a DNC in October for what was supposed to be a 10w baby but my hcg just wasn't right. Before that I had one in 2012. Its a lot to handle. There are a lot of people who say dumb things. I'd find someone close to you to talk about it with, someone you can trust not to share your secret. The journey is hard but hopefully we learn what we need to and get those rainbow babies! I'm 5w 2d :P

nik6499 · April 2015

This is my fifth pregnancy. My first was uncomplicated with no major issues, since I have had two miscarriages at 8-9 weeks and one chemical right around 4 weeks. This pregnancy was a little surprise because I hadn't taken any fertility meds and had my HSG done as the final test to determine they have no idea why my uterus is being hostile. I'm trying not to get my hopes up too high, but I'm also just trying to enjoy being pregnant. After the first loss the next two pregnancies were wrought with anxiety to the point that I lost the ability to function I would comb these boards for any stories about loss or scary things that had positive outcomes, I would spend hours searching every little thing looking for reassurance. And now, I realize that whatever is happening is already determined, when the DNA replicated the path was set and I need to stop killing myself looking for answers that are not really out there. I really hope this little bean sticks, and if it doesn't I'll keep trying. But today, I'm pregnant.

presleymom25 · April 2015

I miscarried in January. I am crazy running to the bathroom every time I feel discharge. I had a little pain from a super full bladder this morning and was terrified I'd see blood when I went to the toilet. It's not easy and I think it's normal to worry considering we have lost a child/children. I do personally pray and thank God for every day I have this baby! I'm trying to cherish every day we make it and am hoping to make it 9 months of being thankful! I'm 6w3d according to my 1st US. I am nervous but hopeful to see (hear?) a heartbeat on Friday!

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