Feel Like I am going to have a breakdown

Re: Feel Like I am going to have a breakdown

• morriskm1000 member

  February 2015

  You should get in to see your Dr right away. There must be something they can prescribe. I respect your desire to stay Rx free while pregnant but at this point you could be doing more harm staying so stressed. Good luck to both of you.

  

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• mdupon70997 member

  February 2015

  I'm sorry you are going through this. It's not territory that I'm familiar with. But I do know that it's great that you're acknowledging your feelings. I think you should see your counselor or therapist to help you deal with your feelings, especially if you can't take your medication during pregnancy. Does your DH/SO have any clue what you're feeling? Do you have any close friends or relatives you can turn to for support?

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• allrightmeow member

  February 2015

  Thoward1968 said:

  I am having a really difficult time emotionally with my pregnancy. I have been off antidepressants since I found out I was pregnant and did okay up until now.  I know I should feel so fortunate to be having a baby and I really am but am just not dealing with things well right now.  I am 46 and this is my second pregnancy, a surprise, after 23 years.  It has been very scary because of my age and worrying weather or not my baby will be okay.  I know I have been under more stress than most people.  A major insurance company was suing me until two weeks ago.  We almost ended up with a jury trial until they finally gave up and settled.  That has been a horrific experience for me and I am relieved it is over but I think everything has taken a toll.  This past weekend I found a dead, bloated mouse in my closet and just had a complete crying fit when I had to clean it up.  Normally this would not phase me.  I feel hopeless.  Is this normal?

  Does your doctor know you're off your meds? Did you do it with their ok? 

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• thing3ontheway member

  February 2015

  Call your doctor.

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• crunchymamaof2 member

  February 2015

  Please call your doctor. I'm sorry you're going through all this.

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• Thoward1968 member

  February 2015 edited February 2015

  I have not said anything to my doctor.  My husband has not been very supportive.  I think he is really scared about being a father again at 50 and has almost checked out most of my pregnancy.  I was close to my mother but she basically made some very poor decisions a couple of years ago which uprooted the entire family permanently.  She does not really support my decision to have another child.  She believes I am too old.  My daughter and I are very close but I try not to involve her too much because she is busy with college and I don't want her worrying about me.  I do have a best friend that has helped me a lot.  Unfortunately, she lives in Oregon and I am in California.

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• Thoward1968 member

  February 2015

  I told her at the start of the pregnancy that I had stopped taking my meds.  She has never said anything.  I have done great up until now which is why I kept thinking that it was just a bump in the road.

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• katiebranz member

  February 2015

  Why haven't you said anythig to your doctor!?! Please get help!

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• dees14 member

  February 2015

  I'm sorry you're having a hard time. I also have a history of depression/anxiety and have found it really helpful to talk to a therapist. I would definitely recommend that you try seeing one. It will feel great for you to have someone to talk to that can help you sort things out. Your Ob or psychiatrist should also know what's going on. Even if you decide to not restart your meds til baby's here, they can help you come up with a plan for that. Take care of yourself!

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• blush64 member

  February 2015

  As everyone said you need to call your doctor. There are certain anti-depressants that he should be able to prescribe. If it is bad now you should get help, after the baby is born it might get worse.

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• jamieandwill member

  February 2015

  Can you tell your husband that you need to talk about the baby/being pregnant a bit more? if he seems checked out, it could help him if you tell him that you need to talk/vent about being pregnant at least 15 minutes a day. My husband is very unemotional, so sometimes I have to literally tell him, "hey, I need to talk about how i'm feeling. put down your phone and listen to me". He usually seems surprised and tells me I appear to have everything under control. So, tell your spouse exactly what you need from him! You might be surprised. 

  Now might also be a good time to seek out a parenting or moms group, or some other people you can talk to. I'm extremely supportive of seeking a counselor as well, which is just a very non-threatening place to balance your thoughts with. 

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• spacemav member

  April 2015

  I had a breakdown last week which was a combination of hormones for sure and also some life stressors. It happens no matter what age. Definitely get social and emotional support. My husband was a huge help in calming me down. If these stressors are getting to u too much it definitely is a cause of concern and i would talk to my doctor because stress hormones are not good for baby. If it happens once in a while that could just be hormones but just get support in case. Good luck!

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• AdaliaAngel member

  April 2015

  I'm sorry you're going through all of this. I'm bipolar, and thus far I've been able to manage it without meds, but this entire pregnancy, the hormones added on have been too much for me. When I'm not at work, I just lie around the house trying not to cry, or get extremely angry at nothing. It's getting to be unbearable, and the worst part is the baby won't even be here for another 13 weeks. We can't afford a therapist or meds of any kind. In fact, It's been 6 weeks since I last saw my OB because they refuse to see me without the $250 monthly copay. We can barely pay our bills, let alone extra groceries now that I'm eating more, and the OB appointments are nearly impossible to go to. Which means to meds, no extra appointment to talk about the depression and anxiety, and no testing that normal moms have like the glucose test because there's just no money. Of course all of the money issues are doubling my stress, and DH is basically afraid of me right now because I'm always either crying or ripping his face off. I'm so bad that he had a panic attack himself last night.
  So basically all I can really say is you're not alone, even if it feels like it. I'm right there with you. If you can see someone about it, you should, like everyone has said. But if not, I totally understand that predicament, too. Good luck, and I hope it gets better for you. And for both of us, really.

  Married 4/13/13

  Loss at 6 weeks 5/4/2013

  Loss at 9 weeks 12/2013

  Healthy baby boy 7/12/15

  Due 1/6/18

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• btm013 member

  April 2015

  I had what doctors though was prenatal depression during the first trimester. I'm more of an anxious person but I was really sick (hyperemesis) and the hormone swings made everything worse. I ended up going on 10mg of Prozac at 9 weeks and have been on it ever since. I attribute that to keeping me in check for the rest of the pregnancy. I agonized over taking it but my doctor - who is quite conservative - was telling me it was safe. I was a seeing a psychologist before I got pregnant strictly for anxiety and continued to go more frequently during pregnancy. It's been wonderful. I have been going to a high risk doctor for a fibroid and they said it was safe to take through the third. The big concern would be post partum depression given what happened with the hormone swing the first trimester. You need to take care of yourself so you can take care of your baby! Stay strong. We are all here for you.
  

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• ladyteach0505 member

  April 2015

  AdaliaAngel I hate to hear about your situation.  This may not be ideal, but have you spoken to your hospital regarding financial aid or any options for your situation?  It might require switching providers, but maybe it could help.

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