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hello! honest confession time...

UwannalalaUwannalala member
in December 2015 Moms
Hi everyone!

My name is Lauren and my husband and I are expecting baby #2 to join our 3 year old Marley.

Can I give my honest confession? I'm still trying to get pumped for the pregnancy.

I don't love being pregnant. Okay, I don't even like it. But, my husband wanted two children more strongly than me only wanting one. plus, I wanted my daughter to have a sibling.I think I just over think it and feel ill never think I'm "ready" financially for another child even though we're fine. It's scary!

I hate to say this, bc I know some people try really hard for a baby. I'm just nervous and being a little selfish and getting used to the idea.

So, hello.. don't think I'm a jerk please :)
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  • neferhathorneferhathor member
    I think even if you are trying for a baby, once you realize it's really happening it's totally normal to have some anxiety about it. When I found out we were having #2, i had about a week or two of totally freaking out about it. Babies are hard work! Let yourself freak out a little if you need to. It might just need to work itself out in your head. Hugs!
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  • twointow83twointow83 member
    Ditto the PP! We tried for over 2 years for the baby we lost and part of me had given up, feeling like I was just torturing myself month after month for something that would never happen. Well TTC had just become our process, never really thinking about is this a great time to get preg because we wanted it so badly and after we found out the reality of it all sank in and I did my share of worrying... made me feel pretty guilty for awhile after we lost him... like all my worrying had cursed him or something. but the reality is that the realization that you have T-minus 9 months (or possibly less if baby is born premature) and counting to get everything ready (buy everything, get a nursery together, prepare older child(ren) if there are any, etc.) can be a large pill to swallow when you first find out ESPECIALLY if baby is a surprise. The excitement will come! Just give it all time to sink in and let yourself daydream about the little person s/he will be and it will happen.
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  • nmason824nmason824 member
    I have been freaking out. I don't ever remember this much anxiety with my first. I was not in love with being pregnant either. I think it's normal...especially already having 1 to take care of emotionally and financially.
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    Totally normal emotions. We're here for you!
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  • LauraSmarterSpamLauraSmarterSpam member
    I'm with you there! When I was pregnant with DS I was excited the whole time about it. This time I've got DS getting sick all the time and now I'm worried I'll have another LO getting sick all the timeand having seizures. Thankfully the seizures are only febrile and he should outgrow them by age 5 or 6, but still they are scary to watch.
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  • twointow83twointow83 member
    edited April 2015
    laura@smarterspam.com said:

    I'm with you there! When I was pregnant with DS I was excited the whole time about it. This time I've got DS getting sick all the time and now I'm worried I'll have another LO getting sick all the timeand having seizures. Thankfully the seizures are only febrile and he should outgrow them by age 5 or 6, but still they are scary to watch.

    Amen! My oldest started having seizures 2 days before my scheduled c-section with my youngest. They are scary as heck!! Went to the ER and they said they were fibrile seisuzes (neurologist later said they weren't that they were viral seizures). It is scary enough to watch your baby(he was 4 but still my baby ;) ) seize, it even scarier to watch you baby seize and know you have another on the way. I can only imagine how you feel with them being a regular occurance in your house. (((HUGS)))

    This time I am looking down the barrel of a not so great health track record. My oldest is autistic, my second was stillborn with a fatal brain malformation and congenital heart condition, and my youngest is autistic with a brain cyst (controlled with a shunt)... all nuerologic issues. it can be scary to think about what could happen with this one. Either way we will love him or her, just praying for a healthy baby this time for his/her sake.
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  • becca529becca529 member
    Im anxious too, but only because we are currently going through get DS (4yo) evaluated for behavioral issues (ADD, SPD, possible Autism Spectrum). Now I'm worried baby #2 will take away the time we will need with my son... but I also know that our family didnt feel "complete" yet... its pretty scary all around.
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    twointow83 said:


    laura@smarterspam.com said:

    I'm with you there! When I was pregnant with DS I was excited the whole time about it. This time I've got DS getting sick all the time and now I'm worried I'll have another LO getting sick all the timeand having seizures. Thankfully the seizures are only febrile and he should outgrow them by age 5 or 6, but still they are scary to watch.

    Amen! My oldest started having seizures 2 days before my scheduled c-section with my youngest. They are scary as heck!! Went to the ER and they said they were fibrile seisuzes (neurologist later said they weren't that they were viral seizures). It is scary enough to watch your baby(he was 4 but still my baby ;) ) seize, it even scarier to watch you baby seize and know you have another on the way. I can only imagine how you feel with them being a regular occurance in your house. (((HUGS)))

    This time I am looking down the barrel of a not so great health track record. My oldest is autistic, my second was stillborn with a fatal brain malformation and congenital heart condition, and my youngest is autistic with a brain cyst (controlled with a shunt)... all nuerologic issues. it can be scary to think about what could happen with this one. Either way we will love him or her, just praying for a healthy baby this time for his/her sake.
    Gee whiz! Yall have been through a whole lot. :(
    I'm hoping the next LO won't suffer febrile seizures. They run on DH's side DH's dad had a couple when he was little. DH never had one, but his sister had one and one of his cousins had a few when they were younger.
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