October 2015 Moms

No Libido...help

Like seriously zilch...my poor husband, I struggled with it before getting pregnant and there were hormone type things that could be used but now that I'm pregnant I'm not sure they are safe options. Is there anything natural or known to be safe options that anyone knows of? I also get that there are other things I can do but I just can't even get into that either just absolutely no sex drive at all. Sorry if this is tmi just hoping others have been here and know of something that helps...and I was so hoping to be the pregnant woman that can't get enough lol

Re: No Libido...help

  • I am exhausted and sore and fat and would just rather sleep than  anything.  Fake it til you make it is what I have been doing.  I could not care less to but I know hubs does so every few nights I put on my big girl panties, and then take them off, and climb on.  It makes him happy and I get to go to sleep.
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  • abkenyon said:

    I am exhausted and sore and fat and would just rather sleep than  anything.  Fake it til you make it is what I have been doing.  I could not care less to but I know hubs does so every few nights I put on my big girl panties, and then take them off, and climb on.  It makes him happy and I get to go to sleep.


    This. Frequently even if I'm not into it at the beginning by the time we get going I'm like, 'oh hey, this is fun!' lol. But even if not I mean, it's an important part of your relationship and bonding with your husband. He's going to have to be cut off completely at the end for quite awhile so I think its important to keep it up as long as possible, no pun intended ;)
  • I don't know how far along you are, but my sex drive finally returned in the 14th week.
  • Guess I should clarify a little bit it's not that don't want to I actually do and I hate that I can't its actually more a physical issue and before we got pregnant wine and hormone enhancers helped us with that but obviously those aren't viable options at this point so I'm just wondering if there is something else I can use to help. Thanks for the previous input - it's definitely very true , you need to keep them connected with you and that's how men relate , it's been so stressful on our relationship since the problems started developing but hubby is for the most part understanding, I just want to be able to do more .
  • I have no sex drive. It's been 2 months! I'm sick all night so idk how i would even have fun doing it :/
  • hdnetmro said:

    Guess I should clarify a little bit it's not that don't want to I actually do and I hate that I can't its actually more a physical issue and before we got pregnant wine and hormone enhancers helped us with that but obviously those aren't viable options at this point so I'm just wondering if there is something else I can use to help. Thanks for the previous input - it's definitely very true , you need to keep them connected with you and that's how men relate , it's been so stressful on our relationship since the problems started developing but hubby is for the most part understanding, I just want to be able to do more .


    If you're comfortable it might help a bit to understand the issue. Is it lubrication? That has a pretty good OTC remedy! If its more like, physical pain or extreme tightness maybe talk to your doctor about it?
  • It's a myriad of issues mostly pain which just turns into not wanting any and of course desert like conditions lol. I will be talking to doc about it but have a few more weeks till next appt so just wondered if anyone happened to have any ideas.
  • Hmm...totally get how the just doing it technique doesn't work when there's pain involved. Sorry I wish I had better advice
  • kt126kt126 member
    edited April 2015
    Your not alone!! I have no drive and I'm just soo tired. I hate to use that as my excuses but it's true. We actually forced ourselves to the other day. Soo sad but glad my hubby is in the same boat as being tired not pushing it. Couldn't ask for a better partner!!
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