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I HATE my doctor!!!

Edenskye01Edenskye01 member
in September 2015 Moms
strong language, i know. But i feel like she just doesn't do ANYTHING. Her nurse really does all the work. I have seen her twice and all she did was listen to the heartbeat both times. She asked if I had any pain but when I told her about it she basically said she couldn't do anything about it. I have been having back pains, she could have suggested a certain pillow or anything. I found more support and information online. My doctors office is quite far from my house and I have to drive through traffic and take off from work to see her because she doesn't do appointments after 12. I feel like after all that struggle to get there, there should be more going on in the appointment. I am literally only there for 9 minutes when I go and only about 4 of them are spent with the doctor. She hasn't done ANY ultrasounds. I had one early from a midwife at my first appointment because of a previous miscarriage and one for my Nuchal Translucency scan at another location. She's sending me to the same place for my anatomy scan. I just don't understand why I have to drive so far to see someone who does nothing.
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  • nikkidavis421nikkidavis421 member
    ^^ I agree. I'd find a different doctor.
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  • missliz53missliz53 member
    Is there another Dr in the practice that you could switch to? My last 2 appointments have been very short, just listening to the heartbeat, but I feel like my Dr always takes time to discuss any questions or concerns that I may have and offer suggestions for dealing with the downsides of pregnancy. Have you brought any of your pregnancy related questions up to the nurses? In the past, I've found that the nurse are a very valuable source of information and often explain it better than Dr's do.

    I have only had 2 ultrasounds so far too, but my Dr. explained that they keep them to a minimum because while there isn't any real evidence that ultrasounds harm the baby, they have found that they can heat up the tissues around your uterus and they just aren't sure if that too many instances of that could compromise your pregnancy. 
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  • Diano2009Diano2009 member
    I'm the opposite. I hate the midwife and wish I could see my actual doctor more, he's more informative. I too have only had 2 ultrasounds and I'm high risk! Ive had to remind them of special things that need to be done because of my health conditions, I've waited almost a month for my Verifi test results and they hadn't done anything about it. It's been pretty bad. But if I change now at almost half way, what if I end up with someone worse? If you're not high risk I think they keep things to a minimum. Lastly, don't expect any sympathy from them, they see hundreds of patients who complain of the same things and it's all normal to them. Hang in there!
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  • GrowingapepperGrowingapepper member
    I would switch to a new doctor. You should feel comfortable with your doctor, they are a very important part of this journey and most likely will be the one delivering your baby! The first OB I went to I wouldn't even let him put a hand on me. I did not like his vibe and I got out there right away.
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  • jwebbbber45678jwebbbber45678 member
    My doctor is the same! I think it's normal to have short appointments and go elsewhere for ultrasounds, but I'm not getting a warm, caring, personalized feeling from my doctor. I told her I wanted to switch to a midwife and give natural birth a try, she seemed a little butt hurt, but I have only seen her twice so far and for five minutes each time. I also have to endure way too much traffic for this, but it's always nice to hear baby's heartbeat!
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  • Edenskye01Edenskye01 member
    edited April 2015
    I have my next appointment with a different doctor And im hoping to get a warmer response. If this person is going to be delivering my baby and have their hand in my vagina, I want to be comfortable with them!
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  • babs02babs02 member
    I'm sorry you hate her. I would definitely find another doctor. I absolutely love mine. My last few appointments have been short but mostly cause I've been having a pretty easy pregnancy. He always takes the time to make sure I don't have questions and let's me know if there is anything that happens to call him. This person is delivering your baby you should definitely not hate them!
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  • maureenbermanmaureenberman member
    I suggest finding a new doctor. It can take time. I called a few in the beginning and the office staff was so rude. They set the tone for the doctor in my opinion. I found my doctor who is such a wonderful man (and the nurses are all incredibly sweet, as are the billing department and ladies who answer the phone). Ask your friends who they recommend and go from there. You should feel comfortable and click well with whoever is giving you and your baby care. Good luck!
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  • kjjellybeankjjellybean member
    edited April 2015
    If you are expecting multiple ultrasounds, that's not the way it works. I'm most clinics the standard is, You get NT scan, 20 week scan and possible late U/S if needed. I do agree that your DR could be more informative but OB checks are quite quick and boring. I'm a CMA in a family clinic and we do in fact do a lot for the DR's but it's part of our jobs. Weight, BP, urine screen. I see one of the OB docs in our clinic. Make my appt for 8:30 and am ready to work by 8:45. In the end you need to be comfortable with your provider. If it doesn't feel right then switch.
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  • kvilla4kvilla4 member
    Why are you still there!!!
    I would have moved honestly you have to love your doctor or at least like him or her
    I love mine his so caring I might no understand him lol cause his German but his such !!! A good doctor
    He does ultra sound every time we go and takes his time to make sure his answerd my questions
    Honestly move now since your still early better now then when your about to give birth :) good luck
    I hope you find a nicer doc try a private doctor
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