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Can't console baby?

mamaskittles09mamaskittles09 member
in March 2015 Moms
Hello everyone! I'm new here and a FTM. My baby girl is a pretty happy baby. She is pretty easy to care for. But it seems like once a day, normally late at night when I'm exhausted, nothing I do to try and comfort her works and she cries, and cries. I change her diaper, feed her, rock her, sing to her. This normally lasts for about an hour. My doctor said that can be pretty normal, does anyone else go through this? How do you handle it? It's hard not to get frustrated, and then I feel horrible for feeling frustrated! So many times I have set her in her crib after trying everything and go out into the living room and cry for a few minutes while I listen to her cry and try to regroup. It's hard not to feel like a horrible mom in these moments.
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  • leibasleibas member
    Yes it happened to us as well. About middle of week 2 thru the first part of week 3 and thankfully things are a little better now at the middle of week 3. Although our doctor told us it was likely colic and could last much longer. Honestly for us there were no tricks that worked just to try to comfort him as much as possible when he was unconsolable. But one thing I've learned from my mom is if you cry with them that it helps calm them. I didn't think it would actually work but it did. It's happened to me a few times where I broke down in tears while holding him because I didn't know what else to do and somehow it calmed him down. So instead of walking away to cry try crying with her. Good luck. I hope things get better!
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  • LcastoLcasto member
    Sounds like you're doing everything right, mama.. I'm a second time mom and have learned that most babies just have a "witching hour" where they just cry and carry on for no reason at all. It doesn't always last long, but it can definitely be upsetting to you as her mama while in the moment. Setting her down and walking away for a few minutes if you need to let out some emotion or frustration is OK and will be the first of many times in her life you do so, I promise. ;) Also have you tried giving her gas drops? My three week old usually gets upset in the evening time and I've found that it can sometimes be attributed to gas bubbles.. So the drops help.
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  • KD32412KD32412 member
    Don't feel bad, I think every mother (and father) has gone through something like this. Just give yourself time and do the best you can. I remember one night my husband woke up to me crying and telling my baby girl, "stop crying, stop crying, you're driving me crazy!" He promptly took the baby and told me to go lie down. It's normal.
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  • myjessesgirlmyjessesgirl member
    We have had the same issues. There is just a time of day that she is colicky and inconsolable. I did have to start gas drops, which have helped immensely, but she still gets those moments of inconsolability. I try to let someone else take her when that happens.
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  • mamaskittles09mamaskittles09 member
    Are the gas drops something like gripe water? I think I have that, otherwise i need to go to Walmart and look for something different! Maybe I should try that. I'm surprised my doctor didn't suggest them at our appointment, I told him she gets gassy and painful. Thank you!
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  • mrsgunstamrsgunsta member
    kmswindle said:

    Google: "the happiest baby on the block." Dr. Harvey Karp has great tips for soothing a fussy baby. It's worked wonders for my little. :) good luck!

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  • myjessesgirlmyjessesgirl member
    The gas drops I use are simethicone, or Mylicon. Some gas is normal, so your doctor likely was not about to suggest using a medication if they didn't think it was an unusual situation. Lydia still gets fussy and inconsolable at certain times of the day, but she is able to sleep, which she really wasn't able to do before I started the drops. Good luck!
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  • BostonchelleBostonchelle member
    kpgiesecke04 said:

    kmswindle said:

    Google: "the happiest baby on the block." Dr. Harvey Karp has great tips for soothing a fussy baby. It's worked wonders for my little. :) good luck!

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    Happiest Baby on the Block is a life saver!
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  • Chicacruz24Chicacruz24 member
    Great book and there is also a dvd. Simethicone and gripe water you can trust- it wouldn't hurt. Also one of my older colleagues suggested 1 oz of chamomile tea- she read some evidence from an older article in the 90s supporting the evidence. Just don't overdo it to prevent electrolyte imbalance. You can also talk to your pediatrician.
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  • suziemagssuziemags member
    I agree with the Happpiest a Baby on the Block recommendations! Watch the movie. It does wonders!!
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  • babysufibabysufi member
    Hang in there. Our witching hour can last up to three hours. Gas drops (infacol for us) are a hit and a miss. It's normal. We are all in the same boat.

    Try to be better prepared for these tough hours. Try to have a nap earlier. I feel i handle it better if I am rested, showered and not hungry.

    Changing baby positions help move the gas in our munchkins tummy. We have found positions that he finds soothing and some he hates. (Try to catch that smile when the gas moves and eases his pain ☺)
    It hasn't gotten better for us yet, though I know it will, but I am so much better at dealing with it. I don't feel teary and emotional at his crying anymore. Hang in there. Just the fact that you are seeking advice, shows that you will be a caring loving mom.
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  • SharLovesAlexSharLovesAlex member
    I'm having the same problem. My little guy is a pretty happy, calm baby. But at night, he sometimes gets so fussy we can't seem to console him. I get frustrated and so does my husband, and we feel bad for being frustrated. I've tried feeding him, rocking him, changing him, changing his clothes...nothing works! I'll try the suggestions here. Thanks!
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  • secretbabasecretbaba member
    I found this yesterday, after she had a bad night and it was nice to just read through and feel reassured.
    https://www.babycentre.co.uk/a536698/seven-reasons-babies-cry-and-how-to-soothe-them
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  • adelemsadelems member
    Your diet could be a culprit too. Diary is a big offender when it comes to nursing. Cows milk is highly indigestible to adults and children alike and passes through your Breast milk to baby. It can cause serious stomach upset. I suggest trying to cut all diary from your diet (it could take a couple weeks to purge from your system but you should see improvement within a couple days) , including cereal, cheese, yogurt, milk chocolate, smoothies, pizzas, breakfast and desert breads, coffee w/ creamer, ect. Anything and everything with diary/milk in the allergy list. It sucks but if it can help baby then why not!

    I don't usually eat diary, just because of my prefered diet, but yesterday morning I had some cereal and oh my gosh my poor boy has been so gassy and upset and not sleeping since then. So... Guess who's going off diary?! This girl! Haha.
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