Let me start off with I compare my children. I figure the first is a good learning tool for the second. That being said of course it isn't always going to work which is why im asking for help. They are different and though I am coming to terms with that I don't know what to do.
DD was sleeping in her crib by 2 months. DS just turned 4 months and I just cant break the hold he has on me. We do dinner, bath, bottle, he naps for 30 minutes, and wakes to finish the bottle. When I put him in his crib he is good for maybe 45 minutes. For the past 2 weeks we have put him down and when he wakes tried shushing him to sleep with no luck. His cry gets louder and louder till eventually I cave and pick him up. He is just fine sleeping in the rock and play next to our bed. So about midnight I will just stop trying and put him there just so I can get some sleep (working mom). DD is 2 now so I have no memory of how we had gotten her to stay in the crib. DS sleeps through the night if we start him out in the rock and play. help Help HELP.
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You can try the crib (with one side off) next to your bed. That way baby still feels close to you.
You should not expect your second to do anything like your first. That's not fair to either kid because they are individuals with individual needs, likes & whatnot. You'll drive yourself nuts & it will make the kids resentful later.
Children are not robots that follow the same pattern with each new model.
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well so far it has been a good tool to go by in comparing. Nothing has matched up but we know what cues we are looking for.
Sadly the crib doesn't come apart. DH made it for our first and its SOLID. We do the rock and play next to the bed currently...maybe a pack and play...
I know there patterns are totally different. Was just praying they would be equally "easy". They both have been in their own right.
Would it be foolish if I slept on the floor next to the crib? Do you think he would get used to that and then I couldn't leave the room? I bought a machine that does the Shushing we just havnt gotten it in the mail yet. Im babbling because Im going crazy. sorry
Instead of that 30 minute nap, can you just put him to bed? That won't solve this problem but it might help a little.
Is he swaddled in the crib? When we moved DD from the RnP to the crib, she was swaddled, with receiving blankets rolled up and put under the sheet on each side of her so she felt cozy. I also put a soft blanket under her so she could rub the side of her face on it. She was swaddled so I wasn't worried about her smothering herself.
Then, we started swaddling one arm out, then eventually wrapped the swaddle around her waist, removed the rolled up blankets and just had her in the crib and she has been fine.
When DD has pounded a 10oz bottle, is exhausted, but wakes 30-45 minutes after I've put her to bed, I let her fuss. Yep, that's what I did and it worked. She is dry, full and tired so she's just having a hard time transitioning into that next level of sleep. We were consistent with this and she has done fine.
Whatever you decide to do, consistency is key. My son was much, much harder to get to sleep in the crib. DD has been fairly easy for some reason.
I'd be hesitant to start swaddling now. I probably wouldn't do that, especially if he's about to start rolling.
For my son, our Pedi was the one that suggested the rolled up blankets to KEEP him from rolling because she didn't think it was safe for him to be sleeping on his stomach at 4 months old.
You might have to just power through this until things get better on their own. I remember from my first kid that all naps basically suck for a few months and there's really nothing you can do about it. 45 minute naps are pretty much the norm at this age.
Going from RnP in our room to crib in his room was too much changing at once.
As for transitioning, maybe start out with naps first and then hopefully they will get transitioned into nighttime sleep. Or maybe put something familiar from what they've previously slept in into the crib with them for comfort?
Good for you? It's not like OP can go back and change the sleeping situation. "Not being mean", but your post is extremely condescending.
To your question, when LO is waking every 2-3 hours to nurse overnight, it is much more convenient to hem LO close. Further, studies show that rooming in reduces the risk of SIDS. Also, many people have limited space and cannot move babe into their own room right away.
I was just unsure why people don't use cribs. I've been around children my whole life and the women I've known have always used cribs. And what's been available to me in Japan has been only cribs so I was just inquiring as to what other means women use for sleeping and why. If what I'm asking sounds rude or anything I don't mean for it to be. I genuinely am curious because it's a situation I've not been in. So please don't take it that way.
It's actually quite uncommon for babies to immediately go into a crib when they come home from the hospital (in the US). Some women bed share, some use a Rock 'n' Play or some use a bassinet. Very rarely will you find a newborn baby that doesn't scream bloody murder when put into a gigantic crib, all alone AND on a flat mattress. Most babies don't like that. If your baby didn't cry, then you have a special snowflake.
Babies, especially newborns like to feel cozy and secure. Cribs usually don't provide that.
You got lucky & your baby tolerates the crib. I used a co-sleeper (on top of the mattress) for breast feeding ease. Then a pack & play. That worked great (space saver) until my kid refused to sleep in either.
Never say never! Your next kid might teach you a thing or two about flexibility. Your post seemed Judgy & condescending without any attempt to empathize with those who didn't luck out. Different babies = different temperaments & preferences.
The mentality that "one size must fit all" for kids drives me up a wall. They are little people too. Not robots that we produce to do what is convenient for us.
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If he can't roll yet then I don't understand why he can't be swaddled?? That's odd.
I'm sure the futon is softer and more comfortable than a big empty crib and that's probably why he likes sleeping there. Babies just have to get used to cribs and it takes time. When I first started putting DD in her crib, she was swaddled (she couldn't roll yet) and I rolled up a small blanket and put it UNDER the crib sheet on each side of her so she felt snuggled. Then I slowly started swaddling her with one arm out, then both arms out but with the swaddle around her waist. Then I moved her to a sleep sack and had nothing else in the crib with her.
Try different, SAFE things to see what works for your LO.
I strongly recommend NOT letting your LO sleep on his stomach at this point.
I noticed this with my son too! We had him in the rock and play to sleep. A friend recommended that because its at an angle so it gives you a little peace of mind while they sleep in case they spit up. We just started transitioning to the flat cosleeper. After a day of barely any napping unless he was in my arms, I decided to swaddle him. Everytime I set him down before he would stay asleep from 5-15 mins and then startle himself awake. Once I swaddled him, HE SLEPT. My son is 2 months and babies this young still don't understand that their arms and legs are attached to them. So when they keep moving them around its a distraction for them and they cant sleep soundly.