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June 2015 Moms
valeriemarie24
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Males at baby shower...
valeriemarie24
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Sorry to make yet another baby shower thread.
But here is what I'm wondering...
My mom and bf's mom are collaborating on a baby shower for me. It's supposed to be a 'surprise' and I'm not supposed to know anything about it, but my bf let it slip one day when he was on the phone with his mom and I overheard. My mom wants to invite EVERYONE...my dad, brother, bf, bf's dad and step dad, uncle, grandfather and pretty much every other male relative we have. She also wants to invite some of her co-workers, most of whom I have never met or don't remember. I don't want to be overwhelmed by all my male relatives and strange co-workers of my moms, and I know typically it's a female thing to kind of get away from the men for a couple hours and talk about women things and play games.
I don't want to say anything cause I don't want to let them know that I know, but is there anything helpful I could maybe suggest to my mom about not having all these men and co-workers there? Or anything my bf could say?
*edited: most of these men my mom wants to invite are from my dad's side of the family, and my mom and dad are in the process of getting divorced, so that may be uncomfortable for dad's side of the family. From what I've heard their plans are for the end of May, so I don't think any invitations have been sent out yet.
But here is what I'm wondering...
My mom and bf's mom are collaborating on a baby shower for me. It's supposed to be a 'surprise' and I'm not supposed to know anything about it, but my bf let it slip one day when he was on the phone with his mom and I overheard. My mom wants to invite EVERYONE...my dad, brother, bf, bf's dad and step dad, uncle, grandfather and pretty much every other male relative we have. She also wants to invite some of her co-workers, most of whom I have never met or don't remember. I don't want to be overwhelmed by all my male relatives and strange co-workers of my moms, and I know typically it's a female thing to kind of get away from the men for a couple hours and talk about women things and play games.
I don't want to say anything cause I don't want to let them know that I know, but is there anything helpful I could maybe suggest to my mom about not having all these men and co-workers there? Or anything my bf could say?
*edited: most of these men my mom wants to invite are from my dad's side of the family, and my mom and dad are in the process of getting divorced, so that may be uncomfortable for dad's side of the family. From what I've heard their plans are for the end of May, so I don't think any invitations have been sent out yet.
Re: Males at baby shower...
If invitations have already been sent out, then unfortunately I don't think there's much you can do
But I could get my bf to mention something to his mom, who could pass on the message to my mom. You worded that very nicely @karaelaine1991 thank you
You're welcome!! Good luck with everything, I hope your day is perfect!
I actually thought at our wedding shower that watching my husband and his friends participating in some of the silly games was some of the most entertaining parts of the days. I assume this time around will be the same and it will be a blast. Also opening up the gifts together was a special thing for us to share, as well as getting to both see and spend time with the group of friends and family that attend. I think I would have been overwhelmed with trying to conquer things on my own.
If your boyfriend will be there, maybe plan to bring him up and have him as involved as you are in everything. That might make you less anxious. You could do this without having to lead on that you know about the details of the shower. Good luck!