Encouragement for Baby Blues

babyh310 · April 2015

I love reading about how in love people are with their new little ones! But in the days that followed my own son's birth, I hated reading about it. I felt like everyone was obsessed with their babies, and there I was just praying my baby would sleep and leave me alone, needing my space and time to myself to rest and recuperate and feel like my body was my own... and hating myself for feeling that way. It's still hard for me to admit, because it seems so UNmotherly. However, my doctor and a few mommy friends of mine assure me it is totally normal. Baby is now 18 days old and I am feeling much, much differently. I no longer freak out if he cries or feel helpless about it, and I am able to just do what he needs each moment. I'm still tired and I am looking forward to being able to steal a few hours of just hubby and me time once I've figured out how to pump an extra bottle a day so he can stay with his Nana for a bit. But I love my baby. I'm glad he's here. I feel much more like myself. So if any of you are sitting in a rocking chair or on your couch or bed, trolling these pages while you're feeding your new baby for the 10th time today and you're struggling and feeling guilty or ashamed of yourself for the emotions you're feeling - I just want to send you a big hug and let you know that not everyone walks into sunshine and roses right away. And that's okay! It doesn't make you a bad mom and it doesn't mean you don't love your baby. I encourage you to talk to someone you trust and not hide how you're feeling, especially your doctor, to guard against post partum depression... but also cut yourself some slack and be kind to yourself! Struggling at first does not doom you or mean you've failed before you've barely begun. I feel like this doesn't get talked about as much and I just wanted to put it out there, because it sure would have blessed my heart a few weeks ago. ♡

adelems · April 2015

Amen sister! I remember feeling just that way with my first. This time it's been easier to adjust in many ways. But I can't say the obsessed love thing happened right away with either baby. It's taken a couple days to feel that total fuzzy love can't get enough of feeling .

mrscasey306 · April 2015

I'm head over heels for my little girl she was born 2 weeks and 3 days ago , I can totally relate . It was also hard for me because I had a c section and our hospital puts the Babie in the room with you to stay . My husband did everything with her so in the very beginning I felt less of a mom because alls I could do was skin to skin and I wasn't getting milk because she was born at 37 weeks due to my bp and my body was in no way ready for it . When we got home I felt like she didn't didn't like me and loved my husband more because she would cry when I held her and she was fine with my husband ..but now that my husbands gone back to work and we've had time to bond Just me and her it's gotten better . Def seeing the light at the end of the tunnel but I do still have days where I cry for no reason or over stupid things hoping it will pass soon!

asmoley · April 2015

I completely agree here too! I cried for hours every day from being overwhelmed, anxious and exhausted and I have just finally felt a little more human at the 2 week mark and can pick out the little things that my LO does that make me smile. There are still many rough times and talking to other moms about not being alone in the bad is what has gotten me through!

Lcasto · April 2015

YES. I struggled for the first ten days or so and was just so overwhelmed with emotion and anxiety. It is perfectly normal, but while in the moment it's kind of terrifying because you're just praying it won't turn into postpartum depression... Talk talk talk about your feelings to those close to you, especially your SO, so they understand how much help you actually need right now. And talk to us! Lots of us have been there and can talk it out with you at least.

chelseeea · April 2015

Well said. I felt that way with my first, and turned out to be struggling with ppd. Thankfully, this time around is much different, but that's not to say I didn't feel like giving up when baby decided he wanted to eat every hour for 6 hours in the middle of the second night home. Glad you brought this up, as I remember how lonely I felt with my first and didn't really feel comfortable talking about it with anyone. Sometimes we just need to feel like someone else understands and that we're not alone.

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