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Baby's Father Clueless
BrandiLynn83
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Really upset. I'm breastfeeding. Dad now sleeps on the couch. He doesn't understand I am lucky to get an hour of sleep before I'm up for hours all night. Can't get a nap during the day. He complained about having to do everything. I feed our dogs twice a day, give diabetic dog shots twice a day, take them potty because we don't have a fenced yard. That's in addition to taking care of a newborn premie, trying to get a handle on breastfeeding which has been very difficult (I don't know anyone who has done it), and having mastitis. He doesn't want his much older kids that are here on the weekend doing any work either. He says he didn't want his lifestyle to change. He still has to teach taekwondo 4 nights a week, play world of Warcraft and video games on his phone, but I have to do all of this and keep his clothes washed and the house clean when I can barely stay awake. What a dick.
Re: Baby's Father Clueless
Word.
So what do you intend on doing about it? Either he agrees to change things, or you accept him as is, or you can leave him. I certainly wouldn't put up with someone so inconsiderate (and I'm sure this isn't a new thing with him even before the baby came).
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
I would make a list of all the things that need to be done daily and weekly. I would then mark off the duties that I felt like were my responsibly, then chores I feel like I can handle, and lastly chores that I would have to do (like take the dogs out assuming he isn't home and dogs need to go out). I would then tell him it is up to him to pick up the slack on all the chores that I can not handle.
Babies are life changers!!! He should have known that since he already had kids!!! If he didn't want anymore responsibilities then he should have been more responsible when having sex! Tight didn't make this baby alone and there is NO reason you should carry the burden alone.
I would stop doing his laundry and even cooking his meals if I were you. It's not fair for him to put this kind of stress on you and I'm sorry I didn't have any better suggestions. I would not be able to deal with such a man-child, I would have probably kicked him out because it seems like he only creates stress and more work for you!