Let's Complain!

kateamart · April 2015

While I know we're all happy to be pregnant and grateful/fortunate to be this far along, I need to know that I'm not alone in struggling through this third tri!

At only 33 weeks, I am exceedingly uncomfortable. I wake up every 2 hours to pee and flip sides, and want to stab anyone who says "Enjoy the sleep while you can!" I feel winded just getting ready for work in the morning, and basically consider calling in sick every single day (except I can't because I'm saving all my days for maternity leave). At least once daily I have to give myself a pep talk, "you can do this, you are stronger then this." And even though I am planning to work right up until my due date, every Friday I pat myself on the back for making it through another week.

While we have pretty much everything we need for our new arrival, our home is not even close to being baby-ready. I feel like I have a mile-long to do list (take birth class, pack hospital bag, tour hospital, was baby items, find daycare etc.) But I am so exhausted by the time I get home, I'm barely getting through it. And I also go back and forth feeling like I have a lot of time to get things done, and panicked that the baby will come early and I won't be ready.

Anyway, I'm sorry to be such a downer but I just found myself googling "How to Survive the Third Trimester," and thought I'd turn to the Bump ladies for encouragement. Please tell me I'm not alone!

katielyn1 · April 2015

You're not alone! I can't wait for these last few weeks to be done with! I can't wait to meet my little man. I am soooo grateful for this baby but I'm so mentally done with pregnancy.

LadyBlood · April 2015

Am I the only one not in a rush for this pregnancy to be over?! Not entirely because I love being pregnant and the connection I have with my baby, but also partly cuz I'm terrified of having this tiny little baby out in the world relying on me to protect him.

lizzbeth06 · April 2015

You're definitely not alone. I'm 34 weeks and still dealing with intense all day/night/morning sickness. Like you, I don't sleep and I'm horribly uncomfortable. I'm working a week on and a week off right now which is helping, but I know my weeks "on" will be hard. You can do this! It IS harder for some women than others. You're not alone. xx

nogitron · April 2015

Oh yeah, I'm ready to be done with pregnancy. It's a little bittersweet, as this is probably my last. Packing up my maternity clothes for Goodwill as they go out of season is a little sad. But my back hurts, my hips hurt, my belly hurts. Sitting hurts, standing hurts, laying down hurts. I can't reach things because my bump is in the way. I'm tired of worrying about what I eat and drink. I'm just about ready to have my body back to myself, thank you. And I know I will only get more and more crabby about it as I get closer to my due date. Last time I went a week late and I was NOT pleasant to be around!

On the other hand, when I've got the baby on the outside, I know I'll think back to how much easier it was when he was on the inside!

Brieb33 · April 2015

34 weeks and so uncomfortable. I also just cleaned my house top to bottom hoping I would get to have a "restful" day with my 14 month old (yah right) the following day. He has been sick for a week w some stomach bug, husband got it yesterday and was negative help and I had to take care of him too. Now I think I'm getting it today. Body aches, weakness, nausea, diarrhea, the whole gamut. I need a massage so bad my lower back is killing me and now my shoulders. I feel awful I just want a little break please!!!

MrsElizabethPlano · April 2015

I want to complain too! A great topic for us creeping on over to the negative side. I'm constantly uncomfortable, awake or asleep. I bed hop from my son's to my husband's and turn fans on and off trying to be quiet while kind of hating them for sleeping so soundly. Awake I'm still so tired, trying to find comfortable positions...every time I get up my knees and ankles hurt, I feel bad for only playing calm games with my toddler (crafts, board games, etc) I get so annoyed and so sad at everybody but I know I'm just hormonal so I put myself in time out before lashing out. I get heartburn after eating anything and feel super sick when I don't eat every hour, I'm not sure where/how to set up baby stuff since we're staying with my Marine-trained super clean brother-in-law and might end up moving in with my dad. We just got out of the military and can't buy a home for a year...don't want to waste all out money on rent when rent is cheaper with family, but it's hard being/raising your family when merged with another. One bright spot is my back hasn't hurt for a while, but my belly does as it stretches even further. I haven't gotten a doctor yet! Moving at 30ish weeks isn't good. Had to change my insurance region, find a pcm, get a referral to an ob/gyn, and after getting the red light from so many for being "too far along" (35w) I'm waiting for another 2 days to see if this last lady within a 20mile radius will take me on. I really want this baby to come early, but I also want a doctor I've met at least once and to have baby checked on before labor, she was great 10 weeks ago but who knows what could happen between then and now. Last baby was a dream pregnancy with NOTHING bad happening besides occasional heartburn and stretch marks, so going 42w was nice. This one...you name it i've got it. Girl has got to be born.

keitlin415 · April 2015

I'm right there with u guys. Luckily I am on spring break this week, so I'm getting the house set up. But I did way too much yesterday and now have shooting pain in my tailbone, plus a sick 16 month old. I'm also not sleeping, and of course I will be up at night nursing for a while, but the thing I hate most is the immobility of being pregnant... I cant wait till I have my body back!

cpage2211 · April 2015

I'm celebrating turning 36 weeks today with a really bad head cold that is sucking whatever llife I had left in me, out. I am done.

nogitron · April 2015

Oh, I forgot to mention how sick I am of discharge!!! Especially since using pantyliners has been giving me a rash. I just change undies all day long. So gross.

thughes05 · April 2015

I'm 36 w and 4 days, I'm super uncomfortable! And super jealous of people who actually have baby fat too! It sounds weird but I have no belly besides pure baby and it's so much more uncomfortable then it was with my last two. I can't wait for another week and a half to start maternity leave but it seems to be dragging on. I too can not wait to have this pregnancy over with! It will be my last one. But I can't wait to be able to freely move again and sleep comfortably!

xxyourstrulyxo · April 2015

I'm tired of being pregnant because I am the absolute worst person I know as far as hypochondria goes. I can't relax and enjoy the pregnancy, at all. My type 1 diabetes complicates everything from the get go. I'm tired of guilting myself over every single off target blood sugar reading. If it were just me and my body, I wouldn't stress over a reading of 180 but when I'm carrying my baby I immediately let the guilt eat me alive and I assume the worst. I have anxiety something terrible, I always assume the worst will happen, and have panic disorder on top of it. I've cut down on my panic and anxiety meds so much for this pregnancy that I'm not really surprised at what a big bundle of nerves I am, but truly it's awful. Absolutely every ache worries me. I had pulled a muscle in my stomach last week and automatically assumed the worst and went to the hospital. The past three days before today I hit yet another bout of insulin resistance so I got to guilt myself over that and stress over all my imperfect numbers until I got back to where I wanted yesterday. Now that my blood sugar is better my mind has picked something new to stress over. Seriously I am now panicking over the fact that I just switched out my winter and summer clothes and since I lifted my heavy piles of clothes with hangers I'm wondering if I could have caused a placental abruption. No I'm not having any symptoms (thank heavens and knock on wood!!!!) but that's just honestly how my mind works and now I've ruined my whole day over it.

Yes I am seriously that ridiculous. My hypochondria is truly just awful and I am my own worst enemy because of it and for that reason alone I am so ready for baby to be here, healthy and happy!! I can't stand the constant worry!!!!

I know I ramble, sorry.

BrooksManor · April 2015

I'm mostly over this because of the "when it rains in pours". This would have been an enjoyable pregnancy if I wasn't having to worry and deal with everything not baby related. It's been downhill since January, borderline anxiety-depression. I'm just mentally done. You know those days of nothing going right well I've had months of it.
One hopeful I have is my doctor gave me work restrictions so maybe I can move to a different dept at my job. I would be so elated and at this point I'm just done. Ready to hold my baby boy and have a month off work. Let the chips fall where they may.

rigatonismama · April 2015

Over it! I'm 36 weeks, broke my foot 6 days ago and just want to lay on the couch and drink wine (while whining).
Between the body aches, the feeling I being bruised from the inside (this kid is strong!), insomnia and the pain of a broken foot, I am ready to call it quits. BUT I am also terrified of him coming early and having to be a single parent to a newborn with a cast on my leg. I hate being in my own head sometimes. Everyone in my life keeps telling me how they admire my positive attitude, because they have no idea what I'm actually thinking, as I go about my day with a big smile on my face.

peteresa · April 2015

I'm 35.5 weeks along and I just about can't take it any longer, everything aches, my calves are cramping all the time, it hurts to lay down,to sit up and to waddle

All my maternity clothes don't fit anymore and I need summer clothes. I'm finding myself extremely exhausted daily and I just want to have the "old me" back!
P.s. normally I'm not whiny but this phase is getting to be too much to bare!

mars8k · April 2015

Despite the swelling, the constant peeing, the pain, the numbness in my fingers and the interrupted sleep, i'm stil enjoying being pregnant! Or at least i want to but i can't cause i have to go to work everyday! I'm 36+4 days and having to sit in the same position for 8 hours is torture! I always get light headed after 12 and started to feel a lot more pressure down there.

I had last week and a half off due to preterm labour and altough i am very grateful that baby made it this far and is almost full term, i loved having time off!!!! I NEED A VACATION!!!!!!! *sobs*

marms1987 · April 2015

I'm seriously done with telling everybody how exciting it is to be having a baby while in reality I am struggling with GD, hip pain, being emotional, lack of sleep and inability to move! Everybody should know that pregnancy is not pleasant and should stop acting like it is! Yes I love my baby to no end already, but I shouldn't be made to feel guilty if I voice my opinion of how unpleasant it is! 3 weeks to go!

Swan22job445 · April 2015

Hugs & support to you. I was in a temporary situation at the very end of my last pregnancy as well. We ended up moving a couple of times (in with family) the last of whom was a neurotic clean freak who'd never had children & freaked every time the newborn would cry. Moving out into a cheap rental was such a nice experience after that. I didn't get anything but the bassinet, the changing table & the crib fully organized until after we moved in on our own & everything worked out. This time around is easier. My last Obgyn took me in at 33 weeks & they did a great job. Wishing you the best experience possible, I'm sure seeing your sweet baby's face will be very rewarding especially after these challenges. Take care!

stark01938209 · April 2015

Feel the exact same. Pep talk to you and myself: we're in the home stretch. 7 weeks isn't that long- most of us only had known we were pregnant a couple weeks during the first 7 weeks.

chrozanski · April 2015

OMG this sucks!!!! Let's call a spade a spade I'm sad they only induce at 41W not 37W. I'm 36W and next week we are closing/moving into our new house so I haven't even started with the nursery. I drive 2-3hrs to/from work dependent on traffic and potty brakes. Now I'm dealing with such bad hip pain and nothing is helping trust me I've done everything under the sun besides taking narcotics. i can't sleep or move without feeling my hip is out of socket. And now I get to go into physical therapy for it. Im tired of people telling me that I can do it and or their stories. I don't care I'm just trying to stay mentally focused on finishing only to be "rewarded" with delivery. I think people shouldn't be allowed to talk to 9month pregnant women until we delivered and had at least 3 months to try and forget what just happened to us!

Okay that made me feel better, now to finish the marathon!

Knottie54288128 · April 2015

You're definitely not the only one! I do the exact same thing every night so I'm exhausted in the morning. I can't breath in any position and this one is way smaller than my son. IDK how I got through him!

mlester09 · April 2015

Everything every one of you is saying is exactly what I'm feeling! I can't do anything without it being a chore (even get dressed), I am awake most hrs of the night and rarely ever get to take a nap as I have 3 boys and I work during the day. The hubby does help but still feels so exhausting. I pee constantly if not every time I sneeze and with my allergies...that's a lot! My toes look like vienna sausages and disgust me. I could go on!!!! I love having my sweet baby girl in my belly but she has some pretty painful kicks and she hiccups at least 4-5 times a day! Glad someone can understand why I'm so crabby and tired all the time and I can vent to without going off on everyone!

Timswife910 · April 2015

Charlie Horses Every Night!

sunflower613pm · April 2015

I thought it was just me feeling like this. And I always make myself feel bad and so does everyone else, when I say I can't wait to give birth to my baby boy. I'm 34 weeks and I'm constantly uncomfortable. He keeps his foot in my rib, then he shoves his head in my bladder or into nerves in my pelvis and I'm constantly getting a sharp piercing pain on my pelvis if I move certain ways or walk for too long. I have to stay sitting as straight as possible so that way my torso is stretched out so it doesn't hurt when he shoves his foot in my rib. My feet swell so easily and then they hurt so much. I lost my job when I was 15 weeks because I was pregnant, but of course they won't admit it, they just cut my hours from 40+ to 8 hours a week. But honestly, now I'm grateful for it, cause I really don't think I could handle working. I am constantly cleaning and straightening up so that way everything is ready for baby when he gets here, but I can only do a task at a time cause my feet swell and hurt to walk on and my back hurts and I start getting braxton hick contractions.. I feel miserable..