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Trouble TTC
ollingerj
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WHAT AM I DOING WRONG
ollingerj
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in Trouble TTC
My husband and I have been TTC for 4.5 months now and I am getting seriously depressed. I was on birth control for 11 years and came off in November 2014. Cycle has adjusted and was 30 days and now usually I get a 1 day period and then it's done. Cycle is 25 days to 27 days now. The last 3 periods have been so minimal I actually took a Test to see if I was pregnant. This is the first month with BBT and my body was declining and the last two days has been higher but staying the same temp for 2 days. OPK's have been tested last month and only 1 day was it at all noticeable that I possibly ovulated. This last week I've been taking them and nothing so Far. Is there a time to take them? I've read different things. Says I'm fertile this week and my periods due April 4th or so. Any suggestions?? Help 
Re: WHAT AM I DOING WRONG
TTC: April 2013
DOR: AMH .3 - 1.31 (it varies); FSH: 5.1
Clinic NMCSD
IUI #1 July/Aug 2016
IVF #1 Sep/Oct Microdose Lupron Protocol - IVF cancelled only 1 follicle
IVF #2 Feb/Mar Antagonist protocol w/estrogen priming - 0 eggs retrieved (empty follicle syndrome)
Donor Egg Cycle as soon as we find a match
What is Trouble Trying to Conceive?
We all have different thresholds for what we would consider "trouble." Most of us on the board would interpret that to mean that you have a diagnosis, such as PCOS or symptoms, such as irregular cycles that will make getting pregnant more challenging. Some people have no symptoms or diagnosis, but have been trying to conceive for over a year without success, or 6 months if they are over 35 years old. Some people have had multiple miscarriages. And some people have other reasons for being here.You might want to reconsider joining us if your idea of "trouble" is not getting pregnant after only 3 or 4 months of trying. We all remember being there, and yes, we know that it is incredibly frustrating to get that BFN month after month. But please keep in mind, it can take a normal, healthy couple up to a year to conceive. "Impatience is not a fertility issue." -RG. That being said, many of us had our initial testing done before the year mark. Just know that if it comes back normal, you still have a chance that things will work on their own!
I went through many rounds of infertility treatments that put my body, sanity and marriage under a lot of stress (truthfully no one goes into infertility treatments for fun, suckiest thing ever). You are correct that with some conditions stress is irrelevant but the month we had success was during a 3 month break and I was truly much more relaxed and really feel that for me (PCOS/unexplained) it was a factor. Anytime anyone said that to me when I was in the thick of it I wanted to punch them in the face but I think for some (key word some) women stress is genuinely a factor. Of course it's kind of useless advice because stress is not something you can turn off on demand! In fact when people would say that to me it would make me MORE stressed about the fact that I was stressed out so something to keep in mind but not to obsess over.
The 'stress factor' is a myth that perpetuates misinformation and twists the knife to infertile women who already are understandably stressed. Sometimes stress causes us to take poor care of ourselves, the idea is not to 'stop worrying' but to take care of ourselves regardless of how we feel.
Married for 7 years, TTC for 4 years
dx: Diminished Ovarian Reserve
2 Clomid IUI's + 4 injectable IUI's= 5 BFNs and 1 mc