Keeping name ideas to my damn self!

danixbanani24 · April 2015

So, yesterday was Easter aka big family gathering where everyone has a damn opinion lol. At my NT scan on Saturday, tech took a guess at gender and said it could be a boy. Cool! I'm not going out buying a butt load of blue stuff right now until we have better confirmation but this has started discussion of boy names. I really want to name a boy after my husband and have a junior. My husband just isn't really keen on the idea and feels it isn't "original" lol. So we were throwing other name ideas around. A favorite of mine is Declan. We have a really Italian last name but who cares! I'm Italian and Irish and so will my kid! lol

Anyway, my mother immediately scrunched her nose at it. UGH. Then when we were talking about a Joseph Jr (my husband's name), I said I'd like to call him Junior or "JJ" which was also met with dissent from my family!! At this point, I'm not even bothering anymore. I can't wait for people to ask my name ideas and I'm gonna say "you'll find out when he or she is born"...including my mother! I know it will drive her NUTS but I don't care. I had to say several times "this isn't your child..." GOSH why are people so ridiculous?

jenspeake · April 2015

I totally feel the same way!! We aren't telling anyone the name(s) we have picked out until the baby is born (especially since we're finding out the sex.....this will be the only surprise left)! I'm already getting plenty of suggestions from everyone! I just don't even bring up my pregnancy any more unless someone asks me because there's always opinions!

Rikki_5 · April 2015

so crazy! same thing happened at my in-laws house yesterday. Everyone had an opinion lol. I also would love to name (if a boy after my husband) but he does not like it. I also said we could call him "J.J." but he is totally against the idea. I love Declan!! You could also call him Dex for short! Right now we are leaning towards River Lee or Alexander Lee if a boy and Savannah Leigh or Miranda if a girl.

Also, my MIL went out and bought a bunch of baby boy clothes and I thought that was a bit premature since we don't know for sure yet...she's convinced it's a boy for some reason. ugh!

wcm2b · April 2015

Here Here! People have some sort of need to share their opinion. Like when you have a baby you can name it, this one's mine! I have also been disappointed a time or two by responses to names on these boards. People can be quite mean. I would have thought this was a safe place to share as everyone is in the same boat but I was wrong. Not telling people is the way to go.

babealertz · April 2015

I'm with you. I want to keep our name choices a secret, but I'm worried about offending people. I haven't decided what I'll do yet.

naka92 · April 2015

Same here! I'll share them on here in name threads, but everyone around me can keep on guessing! :P

I have no one badgering me about it though, my mom asked if we were set on names yet, told her yes and that she'd find out when he or she is born. She made a sad face for half a second but was right back to laughing. She never told anyone what names she had set for me either, so she gets it. Pretty sure she knows what name I'd pick for a daughter though.

sweet+cheeks · April 2015

This is why we won't tell anyone the name before the baby is born. Everyone feels free to criticize before the baby is born, but once there is a little squishy face attached to the name it's harder to complain!

ASalsgiver2010 · April 2015

This is exactly why we kept my DD name a secret until her birth and plan to do so again! We caught enough flack about the spelling of Emalee... who knows what they will say about Annabeth or Skyler! It's not their choice though!

Chippercjm · April 2015

Yes, after my mom did not like one of the names I told her, I decided that anytime anyone asks, I just tell them we haven't really thought about it. It's my own fault if I offer up information and don't like the reaction others make so I figure it's better just to keep it to myself and my husband!!!

britlee in love · April 2015

Definitely not sharing names either. I just don't care to hear opinions about it.

casserole27 · April 2015

I hate when people that aren't pregnant "claim" baby names. Like oh you can't use this, this or this cuz those are my baby names. I didn't want them anyway but hello.... you don't even have a boyfriend!

CaitLewis15 · April 2015

I made the mistake of sharing our short list with my MIL when she asked what names we were considering. Every one got shot down quite emphatically by her.

So now DH and I are keeping the name a 'secret' but actually I've just kept my mom and my closest friend in the name loop to help with finalists. Because both of them will offer opinions when asked, but are totally focused us being happy with the name. It's working much more smoothly this way

allowe · April 2015

My mother cannot hide her opinions on names so I told her I wasn't teing family until baby is born. Thankfully, she knows she's bad at it and understands (although I'm sure it will kill her). I'm telling a few close friends just cuz I do want their opinions (they're my sounding board--I'm super indecisive) and maybe if other ppl ask, I'll disclose. Def no family though. Haha. Which I think is funny bc it should be the opposite?!? Just seems families are more opinionated and bc they're family, think they can share even when advice isn't solicited. Haha. Oh well, one of those things I guess. Whatever you feel comfortable with.

s&jeggerton · April 2015

That was one of the first questions both of our parents asked when we announced we were having a baby. I decided years ago I'm not telling names until our baby is born.... Why you ask? about 3 years ago I was talking about names of future children with my sister in law and I told her how much I loved the name Owen Matthew.... I now have a 2 year old nephew named Owen Matthew.

gabrielafrnqyepez · April 2015

Ooo noooo I'm not telling what the name or gender of the baby till he/she is born ! I want that to be a big reveal..plus the suspense kills people!!

millereliz13 · April 2015

We agreed not to share our names with anyone. I'm going to use my one friend as a "playground tester" but otherwise no one knows.

jenhaug · April 2015

Ooh sad, well your not alone my mom hates our names we picked out too

they will end up loving that baby and probably will developed a nick name

lanaloulittle · April 2015

We told my MIL that if it is a girl no matter what Louise will be her middle name. Instantly her response was to scrunch her nose and say it was a terrible name. Well, thanks for hating on numerous women in my family, including my grandmother. So it's staying, no matter who hates it. I love it.

And Declan is our boy name, so I'm biased in loving it.

ilikestars089 · April 2015

I'm all about keeping name ideas secret. We just told our family and everyone has made a joke about naming if after them or told us what "good" names are. My dad was kind of hurt we wouldn't tell but I'm already tired of all the comments and am glad they won't have anything to say about our actual names

Wigglesx2 · April 2015

Yup. Same here. Every name we gave was "stupid" and we were told to "chose something else"

Tempted to keep the sex and name to ourselves!

anorthro · April 2015

People are so rude about names. It drives me crazy. Even if I hated a name, I would never scrunch up my nose at it, especially if I asked the parents to disclose the name. And sharing a name with someone doesn't mean you're asking for an opinion about it. For some reason people make that assumption. We aren't telling people names because most of them can't keep their opinions to themselves and I don't want to hear about them! And if I do tell someone the name and they have a negative opinion about it, I will be sure to let them know that their opinion wasn't welcome and isn't going to factor one iota into my decision!

heytallmama · April 2015

When we announced I was pregnant it came with the caveat that we weren't going to share the names and we weren't interested in suggestions, either! I don't want to hear commentary on what people want us to name our baby when we have it pretty much set. It's the one thing just the two of us get to keep to ourselves. My dad is annoyed we won't share (and will likely be fussy that the boys name we have doesn't include his name anywhere), but it's not his call! That said, all other family has been respectful of this request so far. Here's hoping it stays that way!

NiciMarie83 · April 2015

Telling people names can be so frustrating!! With our DD we refused to tell anyone right up until right before she was born. My husband and I like non-traditional and "different" names and we knew our family would never understand or like the names we were considering...so we decided to NOT tell them until it was pretty much a done deal. Our family got pretty upset about it but we held strong and eventually they got over it. We ended up naming our daughter Avika (pronounced Aa-vick-ah) and while we got some concerned looks at first...now everyone agrees it is the perfect name for her and they couldn't imagine us naming her anything else. So this time around our family is promising to not say anything and begging us to tell as they know we are going to go with something different this time as well. Were not sure if we are going to let them know when we decide on a name...we will play it by ear as the time approaches.

danixbanani24 · April 2015

sunshine9382 said:
Everyone has their opinions on names but the only ones that matter are your and your husbands. My husband and I are keeping our names to ourselves until the baby is born. I have decided that when people ask what we're going to name it that I'm going to give them some off the wall names like Engelbert Humperdink if it's a boy and Davina Sherica if it's a girl. Let them scrunch their noses all they want! lol. Good Luck!

Lol! I love this especially since my husband has been joking about silly names like "Pecorino Romano" or "Pinot noir" lolol. Can't wait to torment my mom! That's what you get for scrunching your nose at Declan!

LiveNLove44 · April 2015

It sounds like you're about to follow some great advice of keeping those names between you and your DH! I experienced that with our first, too, even though we weren't even talking about specific names that we had narrowed down. We mentioned some names that we liked and my mom was one who would have a stronger opinion than most, but my dad was a close second. You learn pretty quickly that everyone has a preference, and it really shouldn't matter to you.

I also learned that people love to talk about names. Can you manage to talk about name ideas with people without being offended? Try not to throw around ones you really like. Stay really neutral on names and just join in the fun. Keep the actual name discussion between you and DH. That way people can feel like they got their opinions out there, you don't have to care or have your feelings hurt, and you and DH get to keep a little secret the whole way through!

LiveNLove44 · April 2015

OH, and maybe just to keep it fun for you, you could bring up names that you KNOW would rub your listeners the wrong way or make them scrunch up their noses (not in a mean way, just for fun). I did that in conversations with my family about DD and I'd throw out names that I thought were totally uncharacteristic of us to see how they'd react, and the reacted according to my predictions.

It was kind of fun to see what they'd actually jump on board with and what was a game changer for them!

demeeka · April 2015

This!!!!!!!!! My thoughts exactly. It's your kid and you can name him whatever u want. The opinions I get from my family are killing me . I think it's worse when you have a kid or two already

aah1013 · April 2015

I have a feeling that my daughter won't have a name until we are kicked out of the hospital and have to put something on paper! In the mean time, our family is thoroughly enjoying suggesting tons and tons of names. Atleast some of them might work, but I'm feeling very overwhelmed.

Sometimes I think it's best to not share!

sweet+cheeks · April 2015

sunshine9382 said:
I have decided that when people ask what we're going to name it that I'm going to give them some off the wall names like Engelbert Humperdink if it's a boy and Davina Sherica if it's a girl. Let them scrunch their noses all they want! lol. Good Luck!

Ha ha! Yes, this! Everyone kept pestering us before DD was born so we told them "If you need to know a name now then it's Gertrude Fanny!" If we have a boy this time I'm going to steal Englebert Humperdinck for his "name" lol!

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