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Showering with toddler

sacottrell16sacottrell16 member
in April 2015 Moms
So here's a question for all the stm. Of toddlers.
I have a 2 year old little girl. She loves playing in the bathtub (which is a Tupperware container because our house wasn't built with bathtubs) but when it comes rinse time, she cries like I'M trying to drown her.
So I have been putting her in her tub to play and wash off and when rinse time comes, I turn the shower on and she gets in it with me. She normally cries a little at first then plays with her ducky in the corner while im washing my hair and body then I pick her up and we rinse off together.. she still cries but it's easier for me to control her when she's in my arms than her trying to escape the tub and slipping everywhere getting the floor soaked..
So I get alot of chastisement over this from my grandmother who we live with. She's very strictly Christian and I guess she believes it's a sin for my daughter to see me naked.
I don't find anything wrong with it because she is with me when I change my clothes, use the restroom, and she came out of the most private part of my body.
Also, I don't want to teach her that your naked body is something to be ashamed of, because I don't want her self esteem to be crushed, but on the other hand, I don't want her walking around like Miley Cyrus

If she was a little boy or older than 2/3 I would see her concern, but here's my question.
Does this way of bathing her make me some kinda of freak or perv or am I completely logical about this?
I mean it's not like I'M masturbating with a huge vibrator right in front of her..
So honest opinions please, No worries, I can handle negative comments too.
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Re: Showering with toddler

  • greneyedmom19greneyedmom19 member
    I don't think it is weird at all. My daughter is 3 and she sees me change, comes in the bathroom when I'm in there, and opens the shower door when I am showering. It might be different if she was a boy and older because then they get curious and stare from what I hear from moms of boys but you both have the same parts so no big deal.
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  • kjuryflkjuryfl member
    You are the only one who will make it uncomfortable for your daughter. Nudity is part of life.
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  • sacottrell16sacottrell16 member
    Seriously, @kjuryfl that had nothing to do with what I asked! My condolences if your that much of a tightwad that you have to voice your opinion about my general open-ness. I honestly don't care what you have to say about my "comments" I don't say them to please you or for your liking. I have an open mouth, I say what I want because I can. You don't like what I say, don't click on my post.
    Don't like my comments, don't read them. It's as simple as not eating something your allergic to
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  • kjuryflkjuryfl member
    sacottrell16 said:

    Seriously, @kjuryfl that had nothing to do with what I asked! My condolences if your that much of a tightwad that you have to voice your opinion about my general open-ness. I honestly don't care what you have to say about my "comments" I don't say them to please you or for your liking. I have an open mouth, I say what I want because I can. You don't like what I say, don't click on my post.
    Don't like my comments, don't read them. It's as simple as not eating something your allergic to

    Do you feel better? Relax a bit.
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  • amt725amt725 member
    Okay, here's the thoughts I have... some people are extremely conservative/religious which sounds like your family member may be. Everybody has different beliefs and this is more of an opinion question so you may not like all of the answers. I have a very open family when it comes to my DD she is always there when I change, go to the bathroom and sometimes I will shower and she lets herself right in the bathroom or on a rare occasion she showers with me. I don't see a problem with it however some people may. I think your question was valid, however I must agree the added comment about masterbation threw me off because I didn't find it necessary but can understand you're upset regarding the criticism from family. I hope you can figure out what's best for you and your LO and screw what family thinks one way or the other, it's your family do what you think is right.
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  • st1215st1215 member
    I don't think it's weird.
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  • BBS!BBS! member
    I shower with my 2 year old son all the time. Never thought twice about it.
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  • RDardenRDarden member
    We do what we gotta do! I shower with my 4 year old.. My only problem is that my big belly keeps bumping her around!
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  • mrsmeyer419mrsmeyer419 member
    There is no issue showering with your toddler. And it doesn't mean she's going to walk around like Miley Cyrus whatever you meant by that, I'm not even sure. And your grandmother sounds like the mom from Carrie, in which case be glad she isn't raising your child, hiding things or making them feel ashamed of their bodie is where a lot if sexuality issues come from.
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  • taahirataahira member
    It's not a big deal, but each family is different when it comes nudity. It's really what you feel comfortable with.
    I didn't understand the masterbation remark you made, or why it was relevant to your question.
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  • slooperslooper member
    This is my 10th child, my children when they are toddlers are very comfortable bathing with me, my 3 year old thinks nothing of it...and like someone said it's a great time to talk if they ask any questions, But children are innocent as long as we let them be.
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  • CivilMommyCivilMommy member

    Not weird. 

    I shower with my kids - it is faster than bathtime - and on days where we are in a timecrunch we opt for the shower routine.  There is no shame in naked bodies.

    Your grandma is an old-school prude...but in reality she probably bathed with all her siblings too...so this idea shouldn't be so foreign to her.


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