I get so tired of people commenting how big I am. Like gah this is my second baby and I was a lot fatter this time when I got pregnant so yes I'm gonna be much bigger than I was with my first.
Also my friends mother insists on telling everyone when I go out to lunch with them that I still have two months to go because her daughter was so much smaller. I want to reply with "yeah your daughter was smaller because 1. It was her first baby and 2. She's missing half her organs so there's much more room to fit a baby in there." But I don't because I care about my friend more than snapping on her mom lol
A friend came to stay a couple of nights with me from out of town. All was well because she never really gave me much advice which I love. She's a mom of one who was born at 25 weeks and her baby is just over a year. Now when she got to my house she kept saying "you know you're a mom when...." over and over. Each time she would do something that all moms probably do she said it.
Then she asked how much longer, I told her about 35 days and she said "oh yeah you'd be totally fine to have her now." I was shocked! Even though things could be fine that doesn't mean they WILL be. I didn't know what to say, but then she said "you know you're a mom of a micro premie when you say that."
My mom has also said after baby gets to a certain size that I should stop breast feeding and only pump and fee d from a bottle. She thinks even 6 months is too big to have a baby attached to your boob to feed. I tried to explain that I'm bfing at least till 1 year and she thought it was disgusting.
Not following her advice since she only had one child and she smoked cigarettes the entire pregnancy. She occasionally smoked weed too! I wanted to tell her that I'd look no more stupid than she did since she was 9 months pregnant and smoking cigarettes.
It's not so much the comments. It's the gawking at the belly and my ring finger like the two automatically go hand in hand. People act like its not good enough that we're in a committed relationship. We've already discussed a future together. Calm down.. When we're ready to get married we'll get married. That's even if we do get married. Its not anyone's business but ours. Suck it.
At this point I feel as though I have multiple things I could go without hearing anymore!
1: There is a nurse where I work that has decided that my baby is a boy, and I should name him Thomas. So every day that I see him, he asks me "How is little Tommy doing?" Ugh. We have a boy name picked out and it is not Tommy.
2: The week day receptionist at work not only calls me "Preggers" exclusively, but also feels the need to tell me that I have gotten bigger since the last time she saw me, which is usually the day before... I just usually respond by saying that babies grow daily, so my belly has to also. But it still doesn't mean I don't feel like a whale every time she says it.
3: Patient's family members asking how I'm feeling and whether or not I "CAN" tell them my baby names I have picked. Of course I "CAN", I have every ability. I don't even mind sharing them, I just think it's weird that they are asking me as though I have been banned from telling anyone..
and last, but not least
4: when asked what day I'm going to work up to, and I tell them May 1st, and that my due date is May 6th, they look at me like I'm crazy. My OB doesn't seem to think that it is an issue, and if I go into labor before then, I do. But familial experience tells me that I will have plenty of time for resting after I go on leave before this baby comes..
I get so tired of people commenting how big I am. Like gah this is my second baby and I was a lot fatter this time when I got pregnant so yes I'm gonna be much bigger than I was with my first.
Also my friends mother insists on telling everyone when I go out to lunch with them that I still have two months to go because her daughter was so much smaller. I want to reply with "yeah your daughter was smaller because 1. It was her first baby and 2. She's missing half her organs so there's much more room to fit a baby in there." But I don't because I care about my friend more than snapping on her mom lol
I had a client the other day ask what I'm having. When I replied a boy she said to not be surprised if it's a girl cause that happens sometimes. I said "thanks but I get an ultrasound every visit and a saw his scrodum last time so I'm pretty sure it's not going to fall off in the next 4 weeks."
@caseheela even if you were married who's to say your hand isn't swollen and you are unable to put your ring on... I can't wear my ring at this moment... But I'm married... It's obviously noones business... But idk why they would be so obsessed with looking for a ring anyways as many women are unable to wear their rings at this point in the game anyway
@caseheela even if you were married who's to say your hand isn't swollen and you are unable to put your ring on... I can't wear my ring at this moment... But I'm married... It's obviously noones business... But idk why they would be so obsessed with looking for a ring anyways as many women are unable to wear their rings at this point in the game anyway
I'm tired of people asking me how much weight I have gained! Up until a few weeks ago, I think it was because I didn't look any different except for the belly and people would comment how good I still looked, which was kind of weird... Now I'm getting a lot of swelling and have also gained a bit and have rounded out... Hubby and I walked into a room with the entire family for easter brunch today and his grandfather shouts across the room "wow you sure look pregnant, how much weight have you gained?!" ummmm.......... 25 pounds total so far... Does it really matter to anyone here? And one of my SILs had the audacity to say "you do look like you have packed it on recently, you might want to watch that" luckily hubby piped in and shut that down before it got more awkward... It's extra annoying because my hubby and I were the only "normal" sized people in the room, everyone else on his side ranges from obese to morbidly obese... OK, end rant! I'm glad I got that off my chest!
Mine are slightly different - "how's baby boy doing today?" Like how the hell should I know how he is? I can't see him or have him answer questions-- so stop asking me.
"When is your husband coming home?" Is your husband going to make it?" He's deployed. So when I answer I don't know there's a bunch more questions.... Just leave me alone I'm already stressed he won't get here just back off!!!
And plus the are you ready? Are you excited? Are you uncomfortable? Are you getting an epidural? Just leave me the eff alone!!!
TTC: Started May 2012
Bloodwork - potential ovulation issue which seemed to be fixed by clomid.
SA - Mot (36%) and count low 9.3 mil (updated)
HSG - Oct 16 2013 - came back clear
Clomid #1 - Nov. 2013 - BFN
BFP#1 = Clomid #2, Dec. 2013 - EDD 9.9.14 Loss Jan 9
Oh -- and everyone asks if I have a name picked. And when I say we're waiting to meet him before we decide I get a lot of questions and confused looks. "Oh that's so interesting."
Hmpf
TTC: Started May 2012
Bloodwork - potential ovulation issue which seemed to be fixed by clomid.
SA - Mot (36%) and count low 9.3 mil (updated)
HSG - Oct 16 2013 - came back clear
Clomid #1 - Nov. 2013 - BFN
BFP#1 = Clomid #2, Dec. 2013 - EDD 9.9.14 Loss Jan 9
I'm sick of hearing oh my you must be ready to pop...your so huge. Yes I'm big! I cook big babies, yes he's measuring big, and thank you for reminding me that I still have 5 flipping weeks to go. The other day the greater at cabelas asked me when I was due. I told her and she says "oh honey are you sure that's your due date". I was slightly rude and said "oh your right I must be confused". My hubby was so embarrassed. Evedentally it did come out rude and pissy. Oh and work! Everyone at work continuously is telling me how exhausted i look. Yes I know I look terrible. I am a 1st and 2nd grade teacher and I work 9 to 10 hr days because we don't have school on Fridays. so yes tile floors and needy kiddos....yes I'm exhausted.
Why do people ask how much weight I've gained? It is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!!
My uncle said to me a couple of weeks ago "do you mind if I ask how much weight you've gained?" I said "yes I do mind". He then proceeded to guess "what? About 20 pounds? 25?" I just responded with "why did you ask if I minded if you were going to ignore my response regardless?" Next time I'll ask him how much he's gained.
Yesterday my MIL and FIL had us over for dinner. Right as I went up to fill my plate, MIL asks "so how much weight has this little one caused us to gain now?" I was speechless. Fortunately my DH stepped in and quite blatantly said "that's the rudest question you can ask someone. If you're asking about the baby, it's probably close to 5 lbs now. And that's all you need to know"
"How far along are you? Oh you're so small!" No, I'm right on track. My midwife knows much better than you.
"What are you having?" "We're not finding out." "Oh that's great! ::studies my belly:: I bet it's a boy/girl." WHAT DID I JUST SAY?! I'm not keeping track of guesses and I definitely don't want to hear yours!
I went to 2 Easter parties with my family yesterday. One of my grandmas has severe memory problems and kept asking how many babies I was having. Then saying I was awfully big to only have one. Then at the other party my other grandma straight up said "You look FAT!" But I know she was just being funny. My family has a twisted sense of humor. Later she was asking my DH if I was eating enough and said I looked like I had lost weight. So one side of my family thinks I'm too big, and the other thinks I'm not big enough. I guess that means I'm good?
When people ask me if we know what it is, yes it's a girl, then they say, oh I definitely think it's a boy. Oh I definitely think you're an idiot. Thanks though.
"You've dropped, you won't make it to your due date" well, actually I've been carrying low my entire pregnancy, you just haven't seen me sooooo... It makes me especially nervous bc my birthing center won't allow me to have the baby there if it's before 37 weeks, I have to birth in a hospital if I go before that.
I know ive already posted, but the Easter weekend raised a lot more "are you effing kidding me" comments. My father who I don't get along with well called to say Happy Easter (that's right phone call, I havnt talked to him since I told him I was pregnant). He said "How are you? Getting fat yet?" Really...?! I mean I know he was a terrible support for my mom when she had me, so I didn't expect much as a grandfather, but really... asking your one and only child if she is "fat" yet. Ugh. RUDE
" Your so tiny " "you don't look 8 months pregnant" "when's your due date?" "Have you picked a name yet?" "Is it a boy or girl?" "Your face is fatter" "your butt is bigger" "your boobs are huge!"
When are you due.? How many weeks left? You're so huge/small! Depending on the commentor You're carrying so low, I swear she should be a boy Oh she's dropped You look miserable Do you feel ok? Why are you so grouchy? What are you naming her?
I can go on and on. Thankfully my 6 yo has my back and will answer for me 89% Of The time and be like, "Cuz She's having my sister, Aubrey." Then people are like "awwwww, are you ready to be a big sister? " and quit asking me the questions lol
This past weekend has brought up many Stupid comments I'm sick of hearing. The worst one is "are you sure you're ready for this ?" -um YES! He wasn't an accident. And right after that they continue to say things like "you don't know how hard it is to raise a child" again your an idiot I work with 8 infants 5 days a week most of those kids are with me longer than than their own parents and I helped raise 7 of my 11 younger sibling! I'm pretty sure I have an idea on what to expect when I have my baby
My mum is driving me up the wall. She thinks she's being funny by saying, "what!? You're pregnant!?" Literally every time I see her. I get she's excited. But it's incredibly annoying to hear her fake surprised voice over and over and over. ... especially when she told a complete stranger that she JUST found out I'm pregnant.... I'm quite noticeably pregnant and she was the first to know 8 months ago.... so frustrating and annoying. .. Okay rant over
A little back story...I am white, my kids father is mixed. My older daughter has blond hair, blue eyes, pale skin. Otherwise she looks nothing like me, just her coloring. So now that I'm pregnant with this baby tons of people ask me if I think it will be darker. Or hopefully she'll have some color to her, or just anything about the color.of.my children. It makes me so mad because it's 2015 who even cares what color someone's skin is?? So dumb!!!!
I'm so done hearing that i'm not going to be "able" to make it through the delivery without the epidural. I've made up my mind that I really wanted to try natural, med free delivery.. and when people ask me, and i tell them, why do they feel the need to THEN, announce what they think i should do?. like why even ask the question in the first place if you already had your mind set on what YOU think is appropriate? Gr
Pretty much all of the above....so here's my question....after we have our babies does a switch flip and we will start saying stupid things to pregnant women?
@ashleylane66 because they're mentally trapped in the 'good ole days'.. Idk honestly hahah. I know a few of my unwed momma friends where I live have dealt with boatloads of comments about having a child out of wedlock.
I can't handle my immature selfish drain on her parents at the age of 28 SIL telling me how hard having a baby is going to be. The constant reminders of no more nights out, no more sleeping. Or "this is the last holiday you'll be sitting down!" Is grating on me. I get it- babies are hard but you have zero experience to offer! Shut up already
"Your face is swollen" " your nose got wide" " looks like you gained weight" "what's his name" then when I tell them it's oh another one, my friend has that name, blah blah!!!!! "How are you feeling" when I tell them they ignore me. Over all these rude people
I can't believe how many people think it's ok to ask how much weight you've gained. My grandma always asks me, and I just tell her "a healthy amount, according to my doctor" and leave it at that. But seriously.
Before baby, I lost 120lbs. Some people keep commenting "you worked so hard to lose all that weight, and now you're gaining it back".... Uhmmm I've only gained 35lbs (at 36+4), worked out until 33 weeks, and still wear a lot of my pre-preganancy clothes. I plan on starting back to my workouts as soon as I'm allowed, it's not like I'm planning on letting myself go because I'm a Mom. Gimme a friggin break!!
Also sick of hearing... And always In this order...
- how do you feel? - when are you due? - are you excited? - is this your first? - do you know what you're having? - what's his name?! - are you nervous about delivery? (when I say no.. That opens up another layer to the conversation) - you're carrying ____ (either low or high).. - it's gonna be a big baby... - and then it ends with advice I didn't ask for...
Stoppp!! Before I lose my mind.
Only 8 more work shifts until 14 glorious weeks off with my little boy.
"When are you due? Try to have her on X because that's my relative's birthday!"
Ok husband, we MUST have our baby on that day, because that is the same day as The birthday of The nephew of That one waitress who served us at Applebee's that one time.
I've gotten many of the same standard comments that you girls have but the one that is by far the worst for me is in reference to my Dad's passing (he passed unexpectedly at the end of October).
"Well, you know, I've heard that sometimes someone in a family has to pass away to make room for new life."
Um...so you're saying that because I got pregnant, my Dad had to die? Is this supposed to make me feel good in ANY way? It just makes me sad...thanks, jerks.
I've gotten many of the same standard comments that you girls have but the one that is by far the worst for me is in reference to my Dad's passing (he passed unexpectedly at the end of October).
"Well, you know, I've heard that sometimes someone in a family has to pass away to make room for new life."
Um...so you're saying that because I got pregnant, my Dad had to die? Is this supposed to make me feel good in ANY way? It just makes me sad...thanks, jerks.
I would punch someone.
Sorry girl.
TTC: Started May 2012
Bloodwork - potential ovulation issue which seemed to be fixed by clomid.
SA - Mot (36%) and count low 9.3 mil (updated)
HSG - Oct 16 2013 - came back clear
Clomid #1 - Nov. 2013 - BFN
BFP#1 = Clomid #2, Dec. 2013 - EDD 9.9.14 Loss Jan 9
Re: Things you're sick of hearing
Also my friends mother insists on telling everyone when I go out to lunch with them that I still have two months to go because her daughter was so much smaller. I want to reply with "yeah your daughter was smaller because 1. It was her first baby and 2. She's missing half her organs so there's much more room to fit a baby in there." But I don't because I care about my friend more than snapping on her mom lol
Then she asked how much longer, I told her about 35 days and she said "oh yeah you'd be totally fine to have her now." I was shocked! Even though things could be fine that doesn't mean they WILL be. I didn't know what to say, but then she said "you know you're a mom of a micro premie when you say that."
My mom has also said after baby gets to a certain size that I should stop breast feeding and only pump and fee d from a bottle. She thinks even 6 months is too big to have a baby attached to your boob to feed. I tried to explain that I'm bfing at least till 1 year and she thought it was disgusting.
Not following her advice since she only had one child and she smoked cigarettes the entire pregnancy. She occasionally smoked weed too! I wanted to tell her that I'd look no more stupid than she did since she was 9 months pregnant and smoking cigarettes.
When we're ready to get married we'll get married. That's even if we do get married. Its not anyone's business but ours. Suck it.
Up until a few weeks ago, I think it was because I didn't look any different except for the belly and people would comment how good I still looked, which was kind of weird... Now I'm getting a lot of swelling and have also gained a bit and have rounded out... Hubby and I walked into a room with the entire family for easter brunch today and his grandfather shouts across the room "wow you sure look pregnant, how much weight have you gained?!" ummmm.......... 25 pounds total so far... Does it really matter to anyone here? And one of my SILs had the audacity to say "you do look like you have packed it on recently, you might want to watch that" luckily hubby piped in and shut that down before it got more awkward... It's extra annoying because my hubby and I were the only "normal" sized people in the room, everyone else on his side ranges from obese to morbidly obese... OK, end rant! I'm glad I got that off my chest!
"When is your husband coming home?" Is your husband going to make it?" He's deployed. So when I answer I don't know there's a bunch more questions.... Just leave me alone I'm already stressed he won't get here just back off!!!
And plus the are you ready? Are you excited? Are you uncomfortable? Are you getting an epidural? Just leave me the eff alone!!!
Hmpf
The other day the greater at cabelas asked me when I was due. I told her and she says "oh honey are you sure that's your due date". I was slightly rude and said "oh your right I must be confused". My hubby was so embarrassed. Evedentally it did come out rude and pissy.
Oh and work! Everyone at work continuously is telling me how exhausted i look. Yes I know I look terrible. I am a 1st and 2nd grade teacher and I work 9 to 10 hr days because we don't have school on Fridays. so yes tile floors and needy kiddos....yes I'm exhausted.
My uncle said to me a couple of weeks ago "do you mind if I ask how much weight you've gained?" I said "yes I do mind". He then proceeded to guess "what? About 20 pounds? 25?" I just responded with "why did you ask if I minded if you were going to ignore my response regardless?" Next time I'll ask him how much he's gained.
Yesterday my MIL and FIL had us over for dinner. Right as I went up to fill my plate, MIL asks "so how much weight has this little one caused us to gain now?" I was speechless. Fortunately my DH stepped in and quite blatantly said "that's the rudest question you can ask someone. If you're asking about the baby, it's probably close to 5 lbs now. And that's all you need to know"
I love my hubby!
No, I'm right on track. My midwife knows much better than you.
"What are you having?"
"We're not finding out."
"Oh that's great! ::studies my belly:: I bet it's a boy/girl."
WHAT DID I JUST SAY?! I'm not keeping track of guesses and I definitely don't want to hear yours!
It makes me especially nervous bc my birthing center won't allow me to have the baby there if it's before 37 weeks, I have to birth in a hospital if I go before that.
How many weeks left?
You're so huge/small! Depending on the commentor
You're carrying so low, I swear she should be a boy
Oh she's dropped
You look miserable
Do you feel ok?
Why are you so grouchy?
What are you naming her?
I can go on and on.
Thankfully my 6 yo has my back and will answer for me 89% Of The time and be like, "Cuz She's having my sister, Aubrey." Then people are like "awwwww, are you ready to be a big sister? " and quit asking me the questions lol
I get it- babies are hard but you have zero experience to offer! Shut up already
I can't believe how many people think it's ok to ask how much weight you've gained. My grandma always asks me, and I just tell her "a healthy amount, according to my doctor" and leave it at that. But seriously.
Also sick of hearing...
And always In this order...
- how do you feel?
- when are you due?
- are you excited?
- is this your first?
- do you know what you're having?
- what's his name?!
- are you nervous about delivery? (when I say no.. That opens up another layer to the conversation)
- you're carrying ____ (either low or high)..
- it's gonna be a big baby...
- and then it ends with advice I didn't ask for...
Stoppp!! Before I lose my mind.
Only 8 more work shifts until 14 glorious weeks off with my little boy.
Ok husband, we MUST have our baby on that day, because
that is the same day as
The birthday of
The nephew of
That one waitress
who served us at Applebee's that one time.
"Well, you know, I've heard that sometimes someone in a family has to pass away to make room for new life."
Um...so you're saying that because I got pregnant, my Dad had to die? Is this supposed to make me feel good in ANY way? It just makes me sad...thanks, jerks.