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FFFC - Flame Free Friday - Confessions

HoosOnFirstHoosOnFirst member
edited April 2015 in June 2015 Moms
First the silly one: @lovethatcolosun I need to admit that when I read you name I see "Love that colostrum" every single time and I giggle. Even though your handle obviously refers to the U.S. state :)

Secondly, I need to admit that I wasn't really on board with having kids. I've always defined myself by my academic career and my job. I really love working. I've never felt particularly maternal. But my husband really wants kids and he's going to be such an awesome dad I could not deny him the experience. So here we are... But what I am happy to say is that I'm now really excited to meet our baby girl in 9 weeks! I really wasn't sure if I'd ever feel this way. I'm truly relieved! I'm still worried I'm going to have occasions where I need to choose between family and work and I'm nervous I'll want to choose work sometimes...
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Re: FFFC - Flame Free Friday - Confessions

  • karaelaine1991karaelaine1991 member
    Some background... My family has gone to the same dental practice since my dad was a kid. They're really nice and do a decent job, but they're kind of obsessed with my family and at times it crosses the line between professional and personal. There's one receptionist in particular who has absolutely no concept of boundaries - shortly before I moved away to start my new life with DH, she added both of us on Facebook (despite the fact that she's never met DH). I added her simply because I didn't want to hurt her feelings and make things awkward for my family since they go to this practice still but she creeps on my Facebook page so hard! I finally started hiding my posts from her but she still creeps on me through my mom's page.

    Anyway (here's my actual FFFC), my mom called me earlier this week to let me know that this woman tried to invite herself to the baby shower that my mom is throwing! Thank God my mom didn't go through with it, but when it became clear that my mom wasn't going to invite her, she said, "Well, let me know when I can stop by your house when she's home. I already bought gifts for the baby." I am so torn between being stunned that this woman thinks that it's ok for her to invite herself to my parents' house (and my shower!!!) when we literally only know her from the dentist's office, and feeling like a horrible person because she's kind enough to buy things for my baby when I literally only know her from the dentist's office. So wishing I could go back and not accept her Facebook request... I feel like that set the tone that we are personal friends and we're just not.
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  • ElRubyElRuby member
    karaelaine1991 said:

    Some background... My family has gone to the same dental practice since my dad was a kid. They're really nice and do a decent job, but they're kind of obsessed with my family and at times it crosses the line between professional and personal. There's one receptionist in particular who has absolutely no concept of boundaries - shortly before I moved away to start my new life with DH, she added both of us on Facebook (despite the fact that she's never met DH). I added her simply because I didn't want to hurt her feelings and make things awkward for my family since they go to this practice still but she creeps on my Facebook page so hard! I finally started hiding my posts from her but she still creeps on me through my mom's page.

    Anyway (here's my actual FFFC), my mom called me earlier this week to let me know that this woman tried to invite herself to the baby shower that my mom is throwing! Thank God my mom didn't go through with it, but when it became clear that my mom wasn't going to invite her, she said, "Well, let me know when I can stop by your house when she's home. I already bought gifts for the baby." I am so torn between being stunned that this woman thinks that it's ok for her to invite herself to my parents' house (and my shower!!!) when we literally only know her from the dentist's office, and feeling like a horrible person because she's kind enough to buy things for my baby when I literally only know her from the dentist's office. So wishing I could go back and not accept her Facebook request... I feel like that set the tone that we are personal friends and we're just not.

    Is if possible she feels connected to you because she watched you grow up? It's very common for people to buy gifts for a new baby even when the relationship is not close. I mean I guess she could be a total stalker but perhaps it's a little more harmless than that.
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  • karaelaine1991karaelaine1991 member
    karaelaine1991 said:

    Some background... My family has gone to the same dental practice since my dad was a kid. They're really nice and do a decent job, but they're kind of obsessed with my family and at times it crosses the line between professional and personal. There's one receptionist in particular who has absolutely no concept of boundaries - shortly before I moved away to start my new life with DH, she added both of us on Facebook (despite the fact that she's never met DH). I added her simply because I didn't want to hurt her feelings and make things awkward for my family since they go to this practice still but she creeps on my Facebook page so hard! I finally started hiding my posts from her but she still creeps on me through my mom's page.

    Anyway (here's my actual FFFC), my mom called me earlier this week to let me know that this woman tried to invite herself to the baby shower that my mom is throwing! Thank God my mom didn't go through with it, but when it became clear that my mom wasn't going to invite her, she said, "Well, let me know when I can stop by your house when she's home. I already bought gifts for the baby." I am so torn between being stunned that this woman thinks that it's ok for her to invite herself to my parents' house (and my shower!!!) when we literally only know her from the dentist's office, and feeling like a horrible person because she's kind enough to buy things for my baby when I literally only know her from the dentist's office. So wishing I could go back and not accept her Facebook request... I feel like that set the tone that we are personal friends and we're just not.

    Is if possible she feels connected to you because she watched you grow up? It's very common for people to buy gifts for a new baby even when the relationship is not close. I mean I guess she could be a total stalker but perhaps it's a little more harmless than that.
    That's probably it. She's totally harmless and means well, which is why I feel so horrible for feeling like boundaries have been crossed. My parents feel the same way as I do. Everyone was always very professional at this office up until I got engaged and now it's like they (this woman in particular) want us go from being their patients to their personal friends. It's sweet, but out of our comfort zone. And, like I said, we're partially to blame for being too concerned about offending people and doing things like accepting their Facebook requests, rather than setting clear boundaries when things started to get muddled. Lesson learned, I guess!
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  • katyertlkatyertl member
    Maybe she didn't even buy you gifts she's just saying that to get an invite out of guilt? Lol my ghetto side is going to come out-bitches be cray
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  • karaelaine1991karaelaine1991 member
    katyertl said:

    Maybe she didn't even buy you gifts she's just saying that to get an invite out of guilt? Lol my ghetto side is going to come out-bitches be cray

    Haha definitely possible! That one's not going to happen though - my mom is big on showers being close family and friends only... she's not going to want to spend the whole shower entertaining this one person who won't know anyone else there!
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  • WestypetWestypet member
    lovethatcolosun said:

    I confess that I can't stand the threads about baby items that say "help I can't decide!" This may be more of an UO, but read a freaking online review to help you make up your mind. I don't even click on them so that my silly rage against them doesn't flare up. :>

    I also just started rereading my Hypnobabies home study course and I feel way behind with listening to all the hypnosis cd's. I think I'm silently hoping it will all just come back to me and I won't have to study and practice. Maybe I'll start listening to the tracks (with headphones) while my DH drives the 4 hours home to my parents house.

    Ps. I just changed my profile pic to
    a sunshine so all you colostrum freaks have a different visual when u see my screen name. ;)

    Hahaha seriously! I keep seeing it too. Yuv.
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  • seeseaseesea member
    lovethatcolosun said:

    I confess that I can't stand the threads about baby items that say "help I can't decide!" This may be more of an UO, but read a freaking online review to help you make up your mind. I don't even click on them so that my silly rage against them doesn't flare up. :>

    I also just started rereading my Hypnobabies home study course and I feel way behind with listening to all the hypnosis cd's. I think I'm silently hoping it will all just come back to me and I won't have to study and practice. Maybe I'll start listening to the tracks (with headphones) while my DH drives the 4 hours home to my parents house.

    Ps. I just changed my profile pic to
    a sunshine so all you colostrum freaks have a different visual when u see my screen name. ;)

    I admit that I got too lazy to do the hypnobabies course over again. When I started reviewing my hypnobabies stuff I got a little overwhelmed. Then I just skimmed through each section and stuck with the maintenance program. The maintenance section has a list of what CDs to listen to for each day of the week until the baby's birth day. It seems more manageable for me to just do it that way.
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  • lovethatcolosunlovethatcolosun member
    @CillyMama thanks for the tip, that's probably what I should do. Last time I was way more dedicated to studying/practicing. I think I started somewhere around 22 weeks. It's probably bc I was so freaked out about the unknowns of labor. I swear by the hypnosis stuff though. It got me through a HUGE portion of my labor without much pain.
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  • ElRubyElRuby member
    klkonwi said:

    @ElRuby Yeah adding a Y is always YOUNIQUE and the way to go.......

    For realzzzz!
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  • iheartpancakeiheartpancake member
    Soooo my confession is that I don't know what the icons that are under people's screen names are. I have seriously never even noticed them until a couple of days ago! What are they??? I only use the mobile site so I don't know if it shows up on desktop. Also, the Bump told me today I am through the "trial" 72 hours or whatever. I've been on here since like October? I'm hoping its a glitch and I'm not a total idiot....
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  • karaelaine1991karaelaine1991 member
    iheartpancake said:

    Soooo my confession is that I don't know what the icons that are under people's screen names are. I have seriously never even noticed them until a couple of days ago! What are they??? I only use the mobile site so I don't know if it shows up on desktop. Also, the Bump told me today I am through the "trial" 72 hours or whatever. I've been on here since like October? I'm hoping its a glitch and I'm not a total idiot....

    I think you're talking about badges? Basically the bump gives you them for meeting certain milestones for participating. You can definitely see them on the computer, I also wasn't able to see them on mobile until recently, so maybe the app was updated. If you open your profile page thing for the bump and hover your mouse over each icon, it'll tell you what they've been awarded for. No idea what the trial thing is - probably the bump being glitchy haha
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  • virginiaunicorn11virginiaunicorn11 member
    edited April 2015
    edited: I chickened out of my confession!
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  • HoosOnFirstHoosOnFirst member
    The badges just started showing up for me on mobile as well - it's not just you!
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  • iheartpancakeiheartpancake member
    Gooootcha!! Thank you! I thought I was just super unobservant...
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  • katyertlkatyertl member
    klkonwi said:

    Were thinking of naming our baby this. Already pre filling out the birth certificate.... Flame free right ?!?


    Someone I know told me they met a lady who named her daughter Shithead but pronounced it like Sha-thead

    Seriously lol we call our cat this now all the time. But who would do that to a child?!
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  • MommaswizzMommaswizz member
    katyertl said:

    klkonwi said:

    Were thinking of naming our baby this. Already pre filling out the birth certificate.... Flame free right ?!?


    Someone I know told me they met a lady who named her daughter Shithead but pronounced it like Sha-thead

    Seriously lol we call our cat this now all the time. But who would do that to a child?!



    I'm defintely going to call people shatheads from here on out hahahaha
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  • katyertlkatyertl member
    Lol my husband and I can't stop calling people shathead hahaha it's a classy name
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  • iheartpancakeiheartpancake member
    @MrsWiggleWaggle Le'a exists! My friend teaches kindergarten and has a little girl right now with that name. She called her Leah at a conference and the mom lost it on her! She told her the dash (not apostrophe as the rest of the world knows it) is not silent. I guess I didn't realize punctuation marks were a part of the alphabet? I feel bad for that little girl.
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  • bethanne09bethanne09 member
    Shithead is a real one, too. My mom delivered one probably ten to fifteen years ago. The parents were pretty young. She came home laughing and still laughs about it today. It was her first suggestion for a baby name.
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