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Opinions! Okay to tell parents?

sarahmiller12sarahmiller12 member
in November 2015 Moms
Hello Ladies! I need some input. I am 6wks and 5 days. Had an ultrasound at 6wks 2 days. Doctor said everything looked great, heartbeat was 122. :) My next ultrasound is scheduled for 4/28 at 10 weeks. DH and I planned on announcing to our parents when I'm 8.5 weeks. My question is, should I be nervous about telling our parents before having the other ultrasound? I know anything could happen but since we got good news so far with everything, would you all say it's safe to tell our parents. My worst fear is announcing and then something happen between 8.5 weeks and our next ultrasound. Hope everyone enjoys their weekend!
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  • gumby22cgumby22c member
    Its whatever you want to do. There isn't any right or wrong answer.

    We told our parents after our second positive blood draw. So at just over 4 weeks. And before our first u/s. But we knew they would be happy and that we would want their support whether things went good or bad.
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  • mattymommattymom member
    I think you should be fine telling them whenever you want. I told mine right after I found out and I told the rest of my siblings today. I am 7w 2 days. I don't even see the doctor until I'm 11 weeks. Even if something happens, I'm glad I told them for the support that I will get no matter what happens. I won't tell anyone else until after 12 weeks.
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  • mattymommattymom member
    Also, since you got an early ultrasound that looked great, I would tell them.
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  • cbolton19cbolton19 member
    We just told our parents and I am a little over 8w. I wanted to show them my US, but I still have 4 weeks until then. So we decided to tell. I would do whatever feels right to you and your husband! I couldn't wait that long to tell our families, and it was really fun. They are the people I would go to if (hopefully not!) something bad were to happen anyway, so them knowing is nice. : )
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  • Shelbypetty5Shelbypetty5 member
    My mom was the first person I called and my mother in law was my husbands first call as soon as I pee'd on the stick. I guess it's personal preference.
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  • Pontot31Pontot31 member
    I think you're fine.
    Would you tell them if something bad happened? Then I would tell them now.
    We told last time with in days of our BFP. We just told my parents today and I don't even see my midwife for 3 and a half more week.
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  • TallyKyleTallyKyle member
    I told my parents as soon as I found out. Do whatever you want. There aren't any rules for when you should or shouldn't tell people.
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  • BramaBrama member
    We told our parents right away, as well as our close friends at 4 weeks. I'm 9 weeks 2 days. I couldn't imagine going through this without their support! If something were to happen, I'd want them to be there for me as well. Best of luck :)
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  • sarahmiller12sarahmiller12 member
    edited April 2015
    Thanks for the input ladies! I know there's no right or wrong answer just wanted some different opinions. It's getting harder and harder keeping it a secret!
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  • aliciabethRNaliciabethRN member
    If you would tell them if something went wrong I see no point in waiting. I started spotting a few weeks ago and needed to go to the doctors early. I didn't want to go by myself in case I got bad news so ended up calling my mom crying and telling her I'm pregnant but I don't know if I will be for long. I wish I would have just told them when I found out.
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  • Ceridwen77Ceridwen77 member
    It's your decision. We told our immediate families before our first us.
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  • sillylittledaisysillylittledaisy member
    I told mine a week after took two home tests. He told his parents the instant the suspension of a pregnancy came up.
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  • WmrenfroeWmrenfroe member
    We told parents, grandmother, and brother the day after we found out I was pregnant. The shock and delight on their faces was amazing and really special for us, in part because our own excitement was still so fresh and raw.
    I'm 6 wks now and since then we've told only a couple of very close friends that we would tell anyway if the worst were to happen. God willing and the first ultrasound looks good, I think we'll probably tell the rest of our friends and family at 8 weeks. I don't think I'll be able to keep it secret much longer!
    Best of luck in whatever you decide. They will be thrilled and happy no matter when you decide to share.
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  • SarRes08SarRes08 member
    I had a miscarriage last summer at 10 weeks and we had only told our moms. We told a bunch of people about the miscarriage when it happened, so I wish we'd told them sooner so they could have been part of the joy and not just the disappointment. This time we're telling friends and family when we see them in person even though I'm only 6 weeks 3 days. We told our parents as soon as I got the at home positive. The only reason to keep the secret is if you would be uncomfortable telling about a miscarriage. Personally, having people know so they could be supportive is more important to me.
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  • nbwellsnbwells member
    Congratulations on your pregnancy and it sounds like things are going great!! I think a lot of moms are finally getting rid of the stupid stigma attached to early pregnancy and the ridiculous "don't tell anyone in case something happens" choice. Listen, I've had a 13 week loss and had to tell everyone we lost the baby after announcing. Here's the thing, you should tell people that you would want to know and have their support whether there's a wonderful outcome or a less then perfect outcome. I can say your baby's heart rate sounds fantastic so that's a wonderful sign! With my 13 week MMC, the baby's heartrate was low and then finally stopped so that was our first indication that something may go wrong. We are now 8 weeks pregnant and had an ultrasound at 8 weeks with a heart rate of 171bpm and will announce this weekend. Being pregnant and having a child before, and also being very petite, I won't be able to hide this bump. (Quite frankly it's already pretty obviously)! After 8weeks and a strong heart rate detected, the chances of MC go down to 5% and of those, 95% of losses are due to preexisting conditions. Do what you feel in your heart is right and don't let anyone change your mind on that :) good luck!
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  • alienspaceprincessalienspaceprincess member
    It's up to you. We told SO's parents as soon as we found out because we weren't sure whether we wanted to have it or not, but afterwards we decided we did, so we told the rest of his family. I told a few close friends as well, but I haven't told my parents or family yet, only because they tend to be judgemental and it's a little scary...
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  • elisadunnelisadunn member
    We told everyone we know, right away! We're very open people so if I miscarried (God forbid) we wouldn't want to hurt alone; we would want everyone's support. So it's up to you if you announce early or wait until end of first trimester.
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  • olga1311olga1311 member
    Totally up to you. 

    we announced to my parents as soon as we found out (5ish weeks) and to in laws  after our first us at 7 weeks. But we did ask not to tell any other family members until the second us at 10 weeks at least, better not until 12 weeks. I want my parents to know since they are the ones I will come crying to. 
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