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You feel bad it's tough it out..

kaynicole9191kaynicole9191 member
in September 2015 Moms
anyone else go through this ?!
When you feel bad it's oh guess Ya gotta ride it out. But when the man feels bad it's the end of the freaking world ?!! I know being pregnant can make you extremely bitchy and feel like crap, but it's like nothing is ever good enough. Not the fact that I'm carrying your child, keeping up with all the house cleaning while u play video games and work with your friends, and also working a full time job 6 days a week.
It gets so frustrating, but I guess I need to vent to someone that can't judge
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    marceedeemarceedee member
    Vent away!  This is a great place, full of supportive people, to let those frustrations out.  It also sounds like you need some real girl time so you can complain about men over some mani/pedis!  

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    jwebbbber45678jwebbbber45678 member
    He needs to help you clean the house! Pull the plug on his games! Housework should be equal, this isn't the 1950s! You should be frustrated, I'm sorry you have to feel this way while pregnant!
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    ktbkittenktbkitten member
    edited March 2015
    My husband is very busy right now while he is finishing up his last semester at college and I have been not as good with cleaning since I'm so damn tired all the time. He does help me though. I can't do it by myself and I didn't make the mess by myself. I am assuming you didn't as well. There is no reason you should do it alone. I would get him to help you. I had a chore list for my family and that has helped. 
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    jennsuzanne87jennsuzanne87 member
    If you're working then housework shouldn't be all on you. DH and I both work and we both do housework. I agree with some posters about asking him to help out more.
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    napoli1napoli1 member
    Men are problem solvers, not nurturers. So they often come across just as your husband did, insensitive. Mine is always offering a solution. I have to tell him I want you to agree with me and hug me and tell me you love me. Probably he was trying to "solve" your "problem" (which in his eyes had no solution, since we are on this ride for 9 months) when he should have just said "I'm sorry honey. I hope it gets better. Can I give you a massage?" Talk to him about it-specifically tell him what you wish he would say or do in that situation. Men are very straight forward creatures (and most times clueless when it comes to this stuff). And remind him that if he gives you a massage it may even lead to something more ;).
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    conchispititaconchispitita member
    Guess he can "ride out" a messy house and take-out. Problem solved!
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    19gem8719gem87 member
    I asked my SO to do the dishes for the first time in weeks. He rinsed them all then left them in the sink. Thought he was helping by making them easier for ME to wash the next morning. This was after he took the bag of garbage out of the can & left it untied on my kitchen floor. My dog got into it & got the runs the whole next day. I was upstairs & assumed everything was getting done because I heard the water running. Only to find out the next morning while getting my son ready for school, that the smelly garbage bag was still there, the sink was FULL, & there wasn't even a new bag in the can. Like seriously WTF man?! When I brought it up HE was the one who was so offended. Because you know he works & whatever blah blah blah. I make dinner every night, do all the laundry, keep our house clean & make sure to remember everything for my son. I even keep track of all our bills. He literally is responsible for going to work. How hard is that?!

    I totally understand what you're saying! Men are idiots & since I've been pregnant I have zero tolerance. They truly need to MAN UP considering we're growing a whole new life.
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    cakes27cakes27 member
    Oh my goodness, @19gem87 I would lose it!!! So not OK. I hope he makes that up to you some how!!

    It's kind of the opposite in my house, when I'm sick it's the end of the world and my DH really steps up. It's nice.

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    piscesmommy222piscesmommy222 member
    Yes yes yes.My hubby seems like the pregnant one and I'm taking care of everything.makes me beyond pissed. That's what I get for marrying a spoiled rotten Italian mommy's boy. *sigh*
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    19gem8719gem87 member
    cakes27 said:

    Oh my goodness, @19gem87 I would lose it!!! So not OK. I hope he makes that up to you some how!!

    It's kind of the opposite in my house, when I'm sick it's the end of the world and my DH really steps up. It's nice.

    Oh, he didn't do anything wrong in HIS eyes so what's there to make up? He annoys me. I get it I'm not working. But I'm also high risk & the only reason I left my job was because it was dangerous. Not because I didn't want to be there!
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    19gem8719gem87 member
    piscesmommy222 said:

    Yes yes yes.My hubby seems like the pregnant one and I'm taking care of everything.makes me beyond pissed. That's what I get for marrying a spoiled rotten Italian mommy's boy. *sigh*

    I believe you hit the nail on the head. Damn mama's boys! I personally am going to teach my son realistic ways of living. He's 5 & has more sense of responsibility! I refuse to cater to him like a maid & he is held accountable for poor decisions.
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