Full of anxiety..any great statistics to share?

mandyloutoo · April 2015

Hi all! I'm currently 10w4d pregnant with our 3rd child. (I've had 4 m/c also). I am 35 and finding myself consumed with worry over this pregnancy and I'm not sure why. Besides the m/c I've had...my karyotyping shows I am mosiac for Turners and XXX. So, knowing that on top of things doesn't help. However, the 2 children I have are fine. Since we are all in the same boat..I'm wondering if any of you were told some actual great statistics for healthy babies after 35.....obviously it happens all the time I feel like I just need some good "evidence". Thanks for listening to my crazy.

niknak1208 · April 2015

Congratulations and welcome! I am 37. My son was born when I was 31. My daughter when I was 34. I'm technically high risk because I've had several early losses and a late loss at 20 weeks. It's hard not to worry. I think we all worry to some degree.. especially when there's a history of loss. I know I do. My high risk physicians always tell me that my age does add risk but that they concentrate more on history than age. I really haven't had any additional monitoring or testing due to my age.

jerseygirl227 · April 2015

Congrats and welcome!!!! I am 43 and pregnant with our first LO, so I don't have any experience with the entire beginning-to-end pregnancy thing.

I will say that my docs have all been very good about focusing on the positive. Yes, the risks are higher once you get older, but they are still not REALLY high. I think sometimes we lose sight of that.

I didn't know I was pregnant til 8 1/2 weeks. Then, I worried until I was 20 weeks because I heard a few stories about women losing at that time. I am just now really feeling pretty good about things now because I am feeling baby move around so much. (I'll be 26 weeks on Saturday.)

I'll tell you what everyone told me. Try to relax (easier said than done, we all know).

cneiding · April 2015

I am 42. This is my 8th child. This is my 4th child after 35 and I also had one later in my 34th year. All my babies were fine and my pregnancies without complications. You are still early/ young in the AMA catagory! Thats something positive right there. For me 35 was years and many babies ago!

I have to have no special monitoring, treatment etc because of my age. My pregnancy and Dr care is just like it was when I was 24. Really number are just that...numbers. For example, 80% of Down Syndrome babies are born to mothers in their 20's. That means the vast majority. Yet you hit some magical age (35) and it carries this risky stereotype!

mattandlora · April 2015

I once heard an OB say that age 20-30 was physically the best time to have kids, but age 30-40 was psychologically the best time. You've most likely finished your education, know what you want, are more stable in your marriage and finances, and have seen enough friends and family with kids to know the pros and cons. She recommended age 25-35 as the best of both worlds. So you're right there!

tgthomas7 · April 2015

I m 36 and having baby 6. Currently I am 5 weeks and 5 days. I am a little anxious but I think because I have miscarried before. Every pregnancy is different so try not tp worry and enjoy every day with your little peanut. Trust me the grow so fast in the womb and once they are out. Congratulations!!! You will do just fine.

marijaa333 · April 2015

The fact that you've nearly made it to 11 weeks should give you lots of comfort.

I looked at this chart daily for most of the first trimester and enjoyed seeing the percentage numbers going down:

https://spacefem.com/pregnant/mc.php?m=08&d=10&y=12

Even if you are slightly higher risk, the odds are definitely in your favor.

Are you having any prenatal testing done (MaterniT21, Panorama, etc. or the more traditional (but also invasive) CVS/amnio)? The non-invasive tests require just a simple blood draw. Panorama tests for Turner's as well as tripody, I'm not sure about the others. https://www.panoramatest.com/sites/default/files/files/Panorama White Paper by Megan Hall.pdf

mandyloutoo · April 2015

Yes, I've done Panorama..waiting on the results.

jerseygirl227 · April 2015

marijaa333 said:
The fact that you've nearly made it to 11 weeks should give you lots of comfort.

I looked at this chart daily for most of the first trimester and enjoyed seeing the percentage numbers going down:

https://spacefem.com/pregnant/mc.php?m=08&d=10&y=12

Even if you are slightly higher risk, the odds are definitely in your favor.

That's a great chart! Wish I would have known about it earlier on, lol. I was worried until I hit 20 weeks.

marijaa333 · April 2015

@jerseygirl227 Hehe, despite the chart I found other things to worry about until 20 weeks. Now that I'm close to delivering, I've found new frightening possibilities.

jerseygirl227 · April 2015

marijaa333 said:
@jerseygirl227 Hehe, despite the chart I found other things to worry about until 20 weeks. Now that I'm close to delivering, I've found new frightening possibilities.

LOL! I hear ya. And, yeah, I'm still worried, lol. It's just about different things now.

HWKI · May 2015

At a preconception visit my OB said, " I'm supposed to tell you that at 39 you have a 1 in 100 chance of having a baby with Down Syndrome, but I am going to tell you that you have a 99 out of 100 chance of having a perfectly healthy baby which is also the truth. My wife had our last, perfectly healthy kids at 40 and 42." I felt so much more positive after thinking about the statistics that way.

I work at a children's hospital with children with special needs and won't stop worrying until the baby is in my arms. Glad I am not the only one!:)

kimb311 · May 2015

I'm going to second what everyone is saying. I was 38 when I had my DD and she is absolutely perfect, if I do say so myself

now I'm 42 and 8 weeks along. It's hard not to worry, there will always be something. But if you are healthy and doing all the right things, that's all you can do! We got this!

MaryJo&Heath · May 2015

All the statistics for older moms are scewed because there is a much smaller sample size to deal with than the younger population. My sisters nursing program instructor to her that older moms have the healthiest outcomes due to their healthy lifestyles and maturity.

alanna3622 · July 2015

Thank goodness for this thread.

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