We have 3 sets of parents, my H parents are remarried. All of then want to help when baby comes and all of then live out of town 2+ hours. I don't want to offend any of then and also don't want to be overwhelmed by too many cooks in the kitchen. Not sure the best way to make everyone feel included with all of them wanting to see the baby and help me after he/she comes. Anyone else with a similar situation? MIL also pushing staying with us and I'm really not sure about that...
Re: Parents wanna help after baby comes what works best?
Stand your ground if you aren't comfy with those arrangements. It's your decision!
My advice would be to definitely talk about the visiting situation before the baby comes- this way everyone is on the same page. Your DH can talk to his parents and you to yours. I personally am a very independent person and my MIL tends to be very overbearing so my husband spoke with her before the baby came and she was very respectful of our decision in wanting to do this ourselves and while she could visit we didn't need overnight guests (but she only lives 35 mins away) . I agree with above as breastfeeding is a great time to have some alone time or for people to take a break and leave ha
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Preset boundaries are any new moms best friend (after the peri bottle )
I would never say no to help. But scheduling will be your friend. Set the boundaries of when they are invited and when they are not and stick to your guns.
My mom can come over for short visits but she will entertain DS and help around the house. So it's totally different.
Does your guest room or where they would be staying if they stayed with you need any work? If so, tear it apart, throw paint drop clothes over furniture and stuff and then your DH can tell them, "ohh I am so sorry but you guys are going to have to stay in a hotel we are in the middle of re-doing/painting the guest room." He can save face and they can get a hotel. In some ways I am lucky my in laws are close enough that they would not stay over, but in other ways I am extremely jealous that yours need to get on a plane to come and see you!! Mine think they should be here EVERY F'ING WEEK!
I feel like having them hosted by someone else will allow all of the grandparents visiting time the week of the birth without feeling too overwhelmed.
I've learned you have to be straight forward and clear.