Me and DF live in different cities hes 5 hrs away from me so i will be raising this child mostly on my own i gave thought about moving closer to him and his family but right now its not possible i have too much going on in my city to just up and leave unfortunately i have no type of help in my city no family or responsible friend so im very stress but still optimistic that everything will work out fine i was wondering is there any other mom out there that is going through this? What is your game plan on being a single mom? How do you feel about it? Im
If you have no family or responsible friends in your city, it may not be the best place to be. I don't know what you have going on there (you just said you have too much going on to leave) but if you don't have any solid family/friend connections there, I can't imagine what the huge draw is to stay. If there was any way to raise my child with both parents around, a city that didn't have any connections for me would not be enough to stop me from trying to move closer to my SO to make that happen.
Hes not my SO anymore just DF which is reason 1why i dont see a point in moving towards him also i have a nice job and a new side job so im okay when i take 6 weeks off to have the baby and heal plus i find my city easier to get around in and dont want to change I'm comfortable. I wrote this post more so to connect with other single moms and get a idea on what they plan to do when the baby come and how they're feeling about taking on this role. This isnt one of those woe me post just wanna hear from single moms
I wasn't clear on if you were referring to him as an ex or a fiancé. In that case, I see your point ;-)
I thought df meant fiancé as well!
I was confused as well and was not understanding how someone with a fiance was a "single" mother, but this makes more sense now. OP, is he planning to be involved in the baby's life? Has he considered moving closer to you?
Lol i use df as the father thats what i always thought it meant oops anyways idk how involved hell be and im not even stressing it im more concerned about myself and my child i feel like he should move toqards me but he rather play football coach and run his family tacky restaurant
This is my second time being a single mom. I went through my first pregnancy all alone and I'm going through this one alone, but I do have lots of family to help. Since you have no family or friends here is it all possible for you to move? I know you said you have slot going on which I'm assuming is school and work but is there anyway to transfer to be closer to him. I wasn't with either of my children's fathers but if I was I would want to be close to him and let him be there for me during my pregnancy
I love being a single mom and, to be honest, I prefer it.
The biggest thing you can do is have someone you trust to leave baby with. It's so much better for you and baby if you're not stressing about baby being safe and everything. Once you have that, everything else will fall into place if you're determined enough to make it work.
I'm not a single mom but when we had the baby we moved to be closer to my in laws and even though I don't love the place we live, it's worth it to have the help and support of people that I can trust and love my baby. Best wishes to you and baby!
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I was confused as well and was not understanding how someone with a fiance was a "single" mother, but this makes more sense now. OP, is he planning to be involved in the baby's life? Has he considered moving closer to you?
The biggest thing you can do is have someone you trust to leave baby with. It's so much better for you and baby if you're not stressing about baby being safe and everything. Once you have that, everything else will fall into place if you're determined enough to make it work.