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Thursday Family/In Law vents!

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  • MissRissx3MissRissx3 member
    I'll start it off. I'm sick of my pop getting stolen, my pregnant girl snacks getting eaten and my specific brand of cereal getting hounded. DH and I buy for all three of us. (Him, grandma and I). We buy her everything she asks for, and then some. We don't touch her food. I would feel bad eating her last bagel or her last yogurt. Yet, she sneaks my muffins in her pockets, my pop is gone and my cereal is down to the very bottom of the box! Okay, I get that sharing is caring, but not MY SPECIFIC PICKS FOR MYSELF. we've had this conversation before and I always ask, "What else do you want from the store?" "Nothing I'm good." Okay so why doesn't she eat her food and lay off of mine? There's certain things that sit right with me, and she's taking it all. If I ask about it, she swears she didn't do it.. I hate a liar. There's just certain things I'm picky about and my food and drinks come stupid close.
    I need a mini fridge.
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  • ashleylane66ashleylane66 member
    So last weekend I threw my daughter a small early bday party (her first bday is in April and I was worried about this baby coming early or being way to prego to do it)
    Anyways, my inlaws were invited and came down for the party. Well my mother in law was sick but kept telling me it was allergies and then I overheard her talking to my father in law about taking her cold medicine and she was sneaking taking it so I wouldn't know she was sick. Well guess who is now sick? Myself (who can't take cold medicine because I'm 35 weeks pregnant) and my eleven month old daughter!
    I know it is just a cold but that is incredibly rude!!!! I can't take anything to relieve the annoying symptoms and this is really helping out with my already great nights sleep (having to blow my nose and hack up nastiness just so I can breathe at night)!
    But then also having to care for someone who doesn't understand being sick (so is really cranky)and can't even blow her own nose yet so is choking on her own snot at night and can barely drink a bottle without choking because she is so sick.
    I feel like it's just incredibly rude and I know she didn't want to miss my daughter's bday party but if you know you have to lie to me to be at my house and if you really care about my daughter and me why would you come to my home knowing you're sick and that you will probably get us sick!!!

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  • ashleylane66ashleylane66 member
    @DMEL
    Did you say anything?
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  • MissRissx3MissRissx3 member
    DMEL said:

    My sil was texting at my house and I oversaw what she wrote to her best friend.

    "Ugh no my SIL still isn't fat yet. I can't wait until she gets fat at the end of her pregnancy and looks awful"

    Wow!
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  • ashleylane66ashleylane66 member
    Well you are much stronger of a woman than me!!! I would have said something!!!!
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  • louloutte87louloutte87 member
    I'm being forced into visiting my MIL next week... She has bought some things for the baby and is h
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  • khaleesi123khaleesi123 member
    MissRissx3 said:

    I'll start it off. I'm sick of my pop getting stolen, my pregnant girl snacks getting eaten and my specific brand of cereal getting hounded. DH and I buy for all three of us. (Him, grandma and I). We buy her everything she asks for, and then some. We don't touch her food. I would feel bad eating her last bagel or her last yogurt. Yet, she sneaks my muffins in her pockets, my pop is gone and my cereal is down to the very bottom of the box! Okay, I get that sharing is caring, but not MY SPECIFIC PICKS FOR MYSELF. we've had this conversation before and I always ask, "What else do you want from the store?" "Nothing I'm good." Okay so why doesn't she eat her food and lay off of mine? There's certain things that sit right with me, and she's taking it all. If I ask about it, she swears she didn't do it.. I hate a liar. There's just certain things I'm picky about and my food and drinks come stupid close.
    I need a mini fridge.

    If I was you I would keep the things like cereal that doesn't need the fridge I'd keep in my room. I've had room mates in the past that made me do this before and even though it's frustrating and you shouldn't have to do that at least your food is safe. Some people don't learn or care.
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  • kirstikay215kirstikay215 member
    ashleylane66 said:

    So last weekend I threw my daughter a small early bday party (her first bday is in April and I was worried about this baby coming early or being way to prego to do it)
    Anyways, my inlaws were invited and came down for the party. Well my mother in law was sick but kept telling me it was allergies and then I overheard her talking to my father in law about taking her cold medicine and she was sneaking taking it so I wouldn't know she was sick. Well guess who is now sick? Myself (who can't take cold medicine because I'm 35 weeks pregnant) and my eleven month old daughter!
    I know it is just a cold but that is incredibly rude!!!! I can't take anything to relieve the annoying symptoms and this is really helping out with my already great nights sleep (having to blow my nose and hack up nastiness just so I can breathe at night)!
    But then also having to care for someone who doesn't understand being sick (so is really cranky)and can't even blow her own nose yet so is choking on her own snot at night and can barely drink a bottle without choking because she is so sick.
    I feel like it's just incredibly rude and I know she didn't want to miss my daughter's bday party but if you know you have to lie to me to be at my house and if you really care about my daughter and me why would you come to my home knowing you're sick and that you will probably get us sick!!!

    I had a horrible cold few weeks ago and couldn't take medicine so I found that baby vapor bath helps a lot with the symptoms. I felt waaaay better after showering with.
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  • jmorneau09jmorneau09 member
    kirstikay215 said:

    ashleylane66 said:

    So last weekend I threw my daughter a small early bday party (her first bday is in April and I was worried about this baby coming early or being way to prego to do it)
    Anyways, my inlaws were invited and came down for the party. Well my mother in law was sick but kept telling me it was allergies and then I overheard her talking to my father in law about taking her cold medicine and she was sneaking taking it so I wouldn't know she was sick. Well guess who is now sick? Myself (who can't take cold medicine because I'm 35 weeks pregnant) and my eleven month old daughter!
    I know it is just a cold but that is incredibly rude!!!! I can't take anything to relieve the annoying symptoms and this is really helping out with my already great nights sleep (having to blow my nose and hack up nastiness just so I can breathe at night)!
    But then also having to care for someone who doesn't understand being sick (so is really cranky)and can't even blow her own nose yet so is choking on her own snot at night and can barely drink a bottle without choking because she is so sick.
    I feel like it's just incredibly rude and I know she didn't want to miss my daughter's bday party but if you know you have to lie to me to be at my house and if you really care about my daughter and me why would you come to my home knowing you're sick and that you will probably get us sick!!!

    I had a horrible cold few weeks ago and couldn't take medicine so I found that baby vapor bath helps a lot with the symptoms. I felt waaaay better after showering with.
    Baby vicks on the bottoms of your feet before bed. I know it sounds so silly but it will help you feel so much better! I also do this for my kiddo when he's congested and coughing. He even asks for it rather than medicine because he feels better quicker.
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  • MrsWhiteToBeMrsWhiteToBe member
    DD is due May 20th, which, unfortunately, is the same day my husband's uncle unexpectedly passed away last year. They were pretty close, and it doesn't help that when we're with his aunt and someone asks about the due date she yells out that it was the same day he died. She keeps bringing it up and even goes so far as to say maybe the baby will be his reincarnation. I'm sad he's gone, he really was a wonderful man, but I want to keep the two separate. We had our memories with him, and we'll make new ones with her. And when she is born I don't want her to be constantly reminded that she was born on the anniversary of her great uncle's death.
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  • ashleylane66ashleylane66 member
    @MrsWhiteToBe I'm so sorry you have to deal with that... I hope your little one makes her appearance on a different day. Everyone deserves their own special day and I would hate to have that constant reminder from her aunt about the day throughout her life. Good luck
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  • padleylynnpadleylynn member
    I found out I was pregnant with DD 2 months after my twin sister was killed and the first thing everyone said was maybe it was my sister being returned to us. Finally had to tell everyone (including my mom) that as much as I love and miss my twin, my daughter is and will always be her own person. DD knows about her aunt and will tell you that she is her angel watching over her. If your comfortable with it, maybe you could bring up the idea of his uncle being LO's guardian angel and not his reincarnated spirit.
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  • MrsWhiteToBeMrsWhiteToBe member
    I'm so sorry to hear that. Yeah I don't think people realize how it sounds when they say things like that. I guess for some it's comforting, and I don't want to disrespect anyone's religion, but I believe that DH's uncle earned his spot in heaven and that his soul and my daughter's are both totally unique. The guardian angel thing is a great idea, we do feel his presence, as I'm sure you and your DD feel your sister's.
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  • khaleesi123khaleesi123 member
    I have something similar happening with my daughter. She is due on my DHs grandmothers birthday who passed away 2 years ago and there is a lot of pressure naming wise (relatives want baby named after her but a cousin already said she wants the name and we want her to be her own person) even though it's sad and I can understand that they want her to be honored, I don't want it to be through my baby she is her own person.
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  • LErica1LErica1 member
    I never really have to deal with inlaws because my husbands mom's in Alaska and dad's in Utah. (We're in Michigan) But! His mom's a hypochondriac and thinks her kidneys are going to fail and she's going to die because she had an infection. After taking antibiotics for it her kidneys are fine but she still decided to write out her will. She's 43. Anyway, I'm Christian, she knows that, but on her will she put that she wants my baby to have all of her alters and other witchy stuff. I'm open to hearing about other peoples religious vews, I don't have a problem with her being pagan or whatever it's call, I honestly don't really understand it all that much, but she keeps pushing me to teaching my baby about it. She keeps sending me links to these websites of how to teach your toddler to pray and make alters and do all these ritual things and I've told her that I'm not comfortable doing that. She REALLY wants me to teach my baby how to do all these things and when we found out we were having a girl she was like "YES! I'll have a little baby witch!" Uhm... No... My husband told her she needs to stop sending me that stuff and telling me to teach our baby about it because it's not what I believe but she STILL does it. She tells me she's not trying to convert me but she just wants my baby to understand what she does and stuff. I just don't even know.
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  • MissRissx3MissRissx3 member
    I never really have to deal with inlaws because my husbands mom's in Alaska and dad's in Utah. (We're in Michigan) But! His mom's a hypochondriac and thinks her kidneys are going to fail and she's going to die because she had an infection. After taking antibiotics for it her kidneys are fine but she still decided to write out her will. She's 43. Anyway, I'm Christian, she knows that, but on her will she put that she wants my baby to have all of her alters and other witchy stuff. I'm open to hearing about other peoples religious vews, I don't have a problem with her being pagan or whatever it's call, I honestly don't really understand it all that much, but she keeps pushing me to teaching my baby about it. She keeps sending me links to these websites of how to teach your toddler to pray and make alters and do all these ritual things and I've told her that I'm not comfortable doing that. She REALLY wants me to teach my baby how to do all these things and when we found out we were having a girl she was like "YES! I'll have a little baby witch!" Uhm... No... My husband told her she needs to stop sending me that stuff and telling me to teach our baby about it because it's not what I believe but she STILL does it. She tells me she's not trying to convert me but she just wants my baby to understand what she does and stuff. I just don't even know.
    And just when you thought nobody would understand :)
    I'm not Christian, and i'm learning more about pagans. In fact, i've tried both religions.. My MIL is a witch, and I love her more than anything in this world. She is so excited that her granddaughter gets to learn about her way of life. And i'm totally open to whatever my daughter decides to practice as far as religion. I think maybe your MIL maybe just wants your daughter to have an open mind about things, That's what pagans are about, They're about freedom, and expressing themselves without any guilt. They are about nature and coming together to celebrate things of that sort. Pagans and Wiccans aren't anything to be "afraid of". Now, that is your daughter, and if you absolutely do NOT want her learning about those things, then I think you're going to have to actually have a heart to heart with MIL. She doesn't see it as a bad thing, and actually it isn't, but she needs to understand your side of the story, I hope you get things figured out Momma. 
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  • LErica1LErica1 member
    I'm SO glad you understand haha
    I guess since I didn't understand everything about it it kind of weirded me out but maybe I'll look into it. I wouldn't have a problem with her learning about it if it's something she'd want I just don't know how I'd go about teaching it to her since it's not really something I practice. Thank you for helping me understand a little more! :)
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  • MissRissx3MissRissx3 member
    LErica1 said:

    I'm SO glad you understand haha
    I guess since I didn't understand everything about it it kind of weirded me out but maybe I'll look into it. I wouldn't have a problem with her learning about it if it's something she'd want I just don't know how I'd go about teaching it to her since it's not really something I practice. Thank you for helping me understand a little more! :)

    Anytime! I'm glad I could help out a bit. But please, don't let anyone persuade you. If you're not interested in it, you don't have to teach it to her. She will see grandma and what grandma does. Then she will also see you and what path you've chose. Then she can decide whatever she likes, or whatever suits her :)
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  • sassyg25sassyg25 member
    DMEL said:

    My sil was texting at my house and I oversaw what she wrote to her best friend.

    "Ugh no my SIL still isn't fat yet. I can't wait until she gets fat at the end of her pregnancy and looks awful"

    Woah!!
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