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PgAL Check-In 3/27/2015

I hope everyone has had an easy week! @dadalou hoping that baby and you are still hanging tough!

How far along are you?

Do you have any upcoming appointments or milestones?

Any pregnancy symptoms or pregnancy cravings or aversions?

QOTW: Let's show off these beautiful rainbows! Post a bump or U/S of your precious baby!

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

Re: PgAL Check-In 3/27/2015

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    How far along are you? 19w1d

    Do you have any upcoming appointments or milestones? We have our anatomy scan on April 7th.  We found out at our last ultrasound that it's a boy (we've named him Crosby Joseph), but I am anxious to see that everything is growing the way that it should.  It was at my anatomy scan last time that they saw Georgia's heart defect- so I'm a little anxious going into it.  It's also Georgia's birthday on Wednesday.  I've taken Mon-Wed off of work because I know that I'm not in the frame of mind to focus on work... I'm still trying to decide how we're going to "celebrate" the day, but we did decide that we don't want to include family... I want to feel everything openly and I feel with family there is always an effort to cheer us up or avoid the feelings.  I don't want to avoid anything, I want to revel in her memory and celebrate my first year as a mommy.  

    Any pregnancy symptoms or pregnancy cravings or aversions? Not really.  This pregnancy has been so tame compared to my last.  I kind of just have an icky feeling a lot of the time after I eat, but it's nothing compared to the nausea I had last time.  

    QOTW: Let's show off these beautiful rainbows! Post a bump or U/S of your precious baby! My computer won't let me upload, so maybe I'll come back to this later from my phone. 

    Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?  Pretty much just focused on Georgia's upcoming birthday... and ultimately dreading the 40 days after that leading up to the day we said goodbye (May 10th) which lands perfectly on Mother's Day this year (it was the day before last year).  I wish I could just take the whole 40 days off of work and hide from the world. 

    I hope you all are doing well! 
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    How far along are you? 37 weeks

    Do you have any upcoming appointments or milestones? Induction scheduled for 5:30am on April 13th. Three appointments a week until then.

    Any pregnancy symptoms or pregnancy cravings or aversions? I feel pretty good! My most painful symptoms right now are heartburn, hip pain and vomiting but it's all manageable.

    QOTW: Let's show off these beautiful rainbows! Post a bump or U/S of your precious baby!
    I can't post a pic right now but I'll try to come back later!

    Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? I absolutely can not believe that I am two weeks away from my induction. I thought April would never come and now it's almost here. I'm getting more anxious as it gets closer but I'm staying positive and hopeful. We lost Wesley at 39 weeks after noticing decreased movement so I'm hyperaware and get really anxious when he's being quiet.
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    @hsabyan- congratulations on your little boy and good luck with your upcoming anatomy scan. I'll be thinking of you on Georgia's first birthday. Those milestones are so difficult but you'll remember and celebrate her in the right way for you and your family.

    @schulme2- yay for 25 weeks! What a great picture of your little one.
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    @schulme2 Congratulations on hitting 25 weeks! I hope now that your milestone is passed you'll be able to relax a little, but I know that's not really the way it always works. Either way, you're doing an amazing job helping that little baby grow bigger and stronger!

    @hsabyan I'll be thinking of you and Georgia on Wednesday. I'm glad you know yourself and your feelings well enough to know how to need to celebrate. I know what you mean about family always wanting to cheer you up or "fix" you, and that makes things so difficult sometimes.

    @bgirma Just two weeks, that's so exciting!! Can't wait to hear about your beautiful rainbow's arrival!
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    How far along are you?  39 weeks, 1 day...I cannot believe week 39 is finally here!

    Do you have any upcoming appointments or milestones? Weekly check-ins with the doctor, my next is Wednesday

    Any pregnancy symptoms or pregnancy cravings or aversions? Just feeling very large and out of breath, and full easily. Some cramping and braxton hicks.

    QOTW: Let's show off these beautiful rainbows! Post a bump or U/S of your precious baby! This is the most recent profile shot of our little guy. Not very clear, but you get the idea :)


    Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? Counting down days. C-section date is set for April 8th if Harrison doesn't come sooner, and that's single digit days away. I'm just so excited to meet him, but at the same time am nervous I won't love him like I love Lincoln. I think that fear is common for any parents, but that doesn't make it any less scary! Other than that, just ready to kiss this baby!
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    How far along are you? 37 weeks today. Baby can safely come any time now.

    Do you have any upcoming appointments or milestones? Appointment today and Wednesday and Friday unless I freak out because I can't feel her move enough and end up going in for another NST again.

    Any pregnancy symptoms or pregnancy cravings or aversions? I think I've been having a lot of contractions. They don't hurt. Mostly they are just annoying. Moving and breathing have gotten harder this past week. It's now a big production to get out of bed in the morning.

    QOTW: Let's show off these beautiful rainbows! Post a bump or U/S of your precious baby! For having so many ultrasounds lately I really don't have many pictures. I don't know what happened to my most recent ultrasound pictures. DD was going to show them to Grandma last week when we ended up at the hospital. Maybe Grandma still has them.

    Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? My doctors had been talking for months about not letting me go past 39 weeks, but they will not induce me and I don't want a c-section unless absolutely necessary. On Friday my doctors called the MFM doctors to see about setting up an induction and the MFM doctors don't see any reason to induce me before 40 weeks. I don't know if I can handle being pregnant for an extra week. Hopefully baby girl decides to surprise us and actually comes on her own. Any time now would be fine with me. I would prefer if she waits until after Easter though.
    Abigail Grace 9/7/10
    Nathaniel Willis born sleeping 2/6/14
    Felicity Hope 4/6/15

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    @shulme2 - congrats on making it to this milestone! Love the pic with the little hand by the chin thinking:)
    @hsabyan - congrats on the news your having a boy! I'll be thinking of you this week, on Wednesday for Georgia's birthday and the days after - so many hugs to you. I'm sure whatever you decide is best for you and your DH will be perfect for Georgia's birthday.
    @bgirma - almost there! Hoping your little guy keeps moving so you don't have to worry and will save the resting for after he's been delivered.
    @Mel&John2013 - wow you are really at the end - congrats! cute picture! Looking forward to hearing of Harrison's arrival :)
    @dadalou - almost there! Hopefully she'll come sooner so you don't have to wait until 40 weeks - you've been waiting long enough.
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    How far along are you? 29 weeks

    Do you have any upcoming appointments or milestones? appointment next week

    Any pregnancy symptoms or pregnancy cravings or aversions?  very tired

    QOTW: Let's show off these beautiful rainbows! Post a bump or U/S of your precious baby! I'll have to try to do this later.

    Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? Just hyper aware of when my little girl is not moving because my son died of a cord accident. Also trying to just stay present in the current moment and not wish to fast forward to the end of this pregnancy - it's so hard. I just want her in my arms to know she is safe.
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    Wow! I can't believe how close some of you are! I guess that means I'm not all that far behind.


    How far along are you? 30 weeks! According to my phone, 70 days to go!

    Do you have any upcoming appointments or milestones? I just had an appointment with my new doctor on Wednesday. It was a rough experience. First, just being in a new practice with new nurses, new doctor, etc and having to go over ever detail. The nurse was wonderful. I really appreciated her. But the doctor was kind of just all business. He was nice enough, but it was very different than what I am used to. Coming from only having had experience with Midwives, and this pregnancy with one who knows me well and cares about me, more than just the medical part of pregnancy, it was difficult to not have that connection. I missed the part where my midwife usually just sits and talks with us, asking how my anxiety has been and how I'm doing emotionally.

    Also, we moved to a small town with only one hospital. My plan with the pregnancy has been to try for a VBAC, as my C-Section was due to baby not tolerating labor well as opposed to some physical reason on my part. So I've been told all along that I'm a great candidate for a VBAC. So, the small town hospital doesn't allow VBACs. Which means the new doctor is actually at a great hospital in a city about an hour and a half away. The doctor told me at my appointment that he is going to want me in that city (as in living there temporarily) for 3-4 weeks before my due date! (There is absolutely nothing between our town and the city other than wheat fields.) Whether I have a planned C-Section or a trial of labor, they want to be able to monitor me immediately in case of complications.

    The doctor gave me a rundown of the risks of repeat C-Section and the risks of VBAC and well, did a great job of leaving me pretty much equally scared of both. Thanks doc! When you start talking about 1 in 200 chances to someone who lost a child to SIDS, which is more like a 1 in 2000 chance, or maybe even less than that, it just doesn't help! So now I'm unsure of what to choose, what to do and pretty much terrified about either birth option for me and for baby. Sigh...

    Any pregnancy symptoms or pregnancy cravings or aversions? Just starting to get big and uncomfortable.

    QOTW: Let's show off these beautiful rainbows! Post a bump or U/S of your precious baby! I don't have any pictures on my tablet really, but this is one that my friend took as part of our announcement photos. The large turtle was a gift for our son at the hospital from my parents. It is almost baby sized and was the perfect thing to sit in my rocker and hold for many months after our son passed away. The little turtle was bought by my husband and I for our son, but we saved it. So we kind of see this picture as our boy leading his new little brother. I don't know, I just really like it!

    Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? Just trying to settle into our new town. So far I only know 6 people who I will begin working with in a few weeks and I don't really know them all that well. So I am trying to go against my anxiety and desire to hideout and figure out ways to meet people. I'm also worried about finding a new counselor that I will connect with well as soon as possible.
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    @msunshine123 I had the hardest time all through this pregnancy trying to stay in the moment. So glad you're trying to enjoy every moment you can, and I hope you have more luck with it than I did!

    @gymspaz26 So sorry your appointment wasn't as great as you had hoped. That's definitely a tough transition. And to hear you're going to have to basically live away from home for all that time, that's a lot to take on! I hope you get to know people quickly and find a great counselor so you have all the support you need. But I'm here to chat as well any time you  need to get some thoughts out, or just feel like talking!
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    @dadalou- I'm glad you and baby girl are doing well. I'm sorry about the stress around your induction. Hopefully she'll come early or you'll get to schedule an induction. I'll be thinking about you!

    @Mel&amp;John2013- single digits!! Sending you so many positive vibes!

    @GymSpaz26- love the picture. So cute :)


    @msunshine123 - I totally understand how you feel. That had been my challenge as well.. We found out that Wesley passed away after decreased movement over a weekend. I try to focus on staying my mantras when I get really stressed about movement. But it's hard
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    edited March 2015
    @GymSpaz26 - almost there:) Love your pic - so cute! Thinking of you as you settle into your new home and area. I would recommend calling your local hospice for a good counselor - they've worked with parents who have lost a child.
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