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Irrational Fears??

BbyPratherBbyPrather member
in April 2015 Moms
Ok so as a first time mom who never had issues with body image before. This whole pregnancy is gonna change everything about you freaked me out so much at first! My husband and I are in pretty good shape for the lack of consistant exercise in our lives. A lot of the free time we got together before I was pregnant we spent outside or active so I was worried about being able to continue to do that and really just staying in decent shape in general I didn't want my husband to stop being attracted to me as dumb as that sounds. It was really just because I didn't know how my body would react to having to support another life! So much is up in the air like will I swell in my arms and legs will I get bad streach marks and all that.. I realize now that fear was irrational as my husband has consistently reminded me throughout that watching me carrying our baby is the most beautiful thing ever streach marks and all. But now Im starting to worry about my post baby body! My husband is deployed so I feel like this pressure on myself to be all "healed" when he gets home later this year. Even though he is not expecting anything but kisses and I know will tell me I'm beautiful to him. I just have this fear that he wont like my post baby body. I think its really just from that unknown of how my body will adjust after and I expect the worst but its so frustrating! The closer my due date gets the more I think about how am I gonna look after?! This whole body image this is new to me and quite frankly it sucks! I mean bottom line my husband is attracted to me for more than just my body and no matter what is going to continue to think Im a catch so I realize that but I still want him to think I'm a bomb shell expecially since when he deployed I was seven months pregnant! Anyone else nervous for post baby body?! Its a bit of a shallow subject I apologize...
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Re: Irrational Fears??

  • amt725amt725 member
    Some people do struggle with their bodies afterward and some do not. After my first I bounced back pretty well, about three months post baby I was able to fit into most of my regular clothes. If you are similar to that don't throw away the remainder of your clothes give your body a little extra time (my biggest mistake). Your body may change but some times it gives you a little extra curve appeal. Don't panic! And stroller workouts are great for the body!
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  • RedOblivionRedOblivion member
    It took me a good 9/10 months to start feeling confident in my "new" body. The good news is that strech marks do fade, post partum hair loss does go away, etc.
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  • ewilson74ewilson74 member
    Breastfeeding! Let that baby suck all that weight off of you. I know many women who look better after a year of breastfeeding than they did before. Remember to eat a good amount of protein and healthy fats. I was wearing my pre-pregnancy skinny jeans up until week 35 with a bella band - and at that point I had gained 30 lbs. Fat is not the enemy - just make sure it is healthy. Get a baby carrier, get outside, and walk everyday. Great way to bond and get exercise.
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  • BabyIxolibBabyIxolib member
    Dealing with a deployment too, he left when I was first starting to show and will return days before scheduled birth, I'm nervous he's going to run back on the plane and volunteer. I've been sending lots of photos in hopes that he will be prepared for who he is coming home too. I guess I dont have any advice other then to say I feel your pain/fear.
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  • kjuryflkjuryfl member
    edited March 2015
    ewilson74 said:

    Breastfeeding! Let that baby suck all that weight off of you. I know many women who look better after a year of breastfeeding than they did before. Remember to eat a good amount of protein and healthy fats. I was wearing my pre-pregnancy skinny jeans up until week 35 with a bella band - and at that point I had gained 30 lbs. Fat is not the enemy - just make sure it is healthy. Get a baby carrier, get outside, and walk everyday. Great way to bond and get exercise.

    I wish that breastfeeding worked like that for me. I was one of the 'lucky' few who completely stop losing weight during breastfeeding no matter what I did. After talking to a few doctors they both said that some women simply do not lose weight while BFing. Once I weaned at 13m the weight started to come off.
    Married: 3/01/08
    Baby Girl: 7/29/11
    Angel Baby: M/C 7/15/14 at 7wk
    BFP: 8/23/14 - Due 4/28/15  - It's a BOY!
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  • megib4megib4 member
    edited March 2015
    Don't even worry about how your husband will feel. he will love you no matter what. your the mother of his child and he will view you in a different way then before. I've had 3 kids and gained more then I'd like to admit and i can't say I'm comfortable in my skin with my weight but my husband sees me as beautiful becsuse i take care of my self, him and our family. Some day I'll get back to were i want to be.
    He will love you no matter what size you are.
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