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Travel Restrictions-3rd Trimester

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  • BeckyboutselisBeckyboutselis member
    I personally wouldn't want to be 3 hours away from my hospital at 36 weeks. I know there are hospitals everywhere - but I picked a specific hospital for a reason and I'm close to my family.

    Also - I wouldn't feel up to going to a wedding 9 days after having a baby - you might not have even had the baby at this point!

    I understand that these are good friends of yours - but I would hope they would understand. You could also explain your situation to them and ask if you could give them an answer closer to. A lot of venues do not even take the finalized counts until a week or 10 days before. The bride and groom might be just trying to get an idea this far ahead and they might be okay with an answer closer to from you.
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  • a&j1a&j1 member
    I was told not to travel after 32 weeks. I suggest that you talk with your dr though and see what they tell you.
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  • MrsWiggleWaggleMrsWiggleWaggle member
    It's pretty bold to assume your baby will be here by the due date. Very very common to have babies a week late. You would def not be allowed on a plane. Talk to your doc.
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  • littlebean4littlebean4 member
    We have a wedding in cape cod (4 hours away) when I'm 36 weeks and you best believe I'll be going! Haha. It's our last hoorah without our 2 year old before baby #2 comes. We're actually away from a Thursday to a Monday. My doctor gave me the ok and said there's no reason not to go.
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  • sabettsabett member
    edited March 2015
    For the first wedding, I would probably RSVP yes, then ask my Dr. to confirm that it was okay once I was a bit closer. If everything looks good, then I think it would be fine!

    For the second wedding, I would probably ask what the bride preferred. Depending on whether or not it's a sit-down meal, it could be expensive to have a last-minute cancellation. We're invited to a wedding three weeks after our due date and I've RSVPed yes, but let them know that there is a chance we won't be able to attend – or will come for a very short time and bring the baby. They were happy to have us come, even with that chance and with the extra guest.
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  • virginiaunicorn11virginiaunicorn11 member
    I can only offer my own choices in similar circumstances: I am flying (1 hour) at 35 weeks but after 36 weeks am staying within 2 hours of my hospital by car/train. This has been approved by my doctor and airline. For me, 36 weeks is the red line, until 6 weeks post-partum. Zero plans or commitments for me during that time.

    I have RSVP'd Maybe But Likely Yes for a wedding that is 8 weeks after my due date, a four hour drive away. We will take baby if we go, and stay two nights (rehearsal and wedding).
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  • enigmaticjjenigmaticjj member
    I recently asked my doctor about travel during the 3rd trimester (specifically during April).  She said they (I think the practice) like/suggest you stay within 2 hours from the hospital.  If you do have to be further away, then make sure you're close to a good hospital (mine said a level 2).  I was trying to see if I could/should travel by plane for work and she warned me that if something happened while there, I'd most likely be spending the rest of my pregnancy there.

    When she originally told me my estimated due date, she also warned me that baby comes when baby wants to come, so that can typically be 3 weeks early to 2 weeks late.  Since I'm due mid-June, I'm figuring the entire month of June is up for grabs, in addition to some of May.

    I would think that the 2nd wedding is probably a no-go considering if you haven't delivered by then, I'd think you'd be at any point then (not sure how far away that wedding is though, so maybe its right by home for you).  Also (FTM here), not sure how comfortable you (or any of us) will be that late into pregnancy.  But for the first wedding, I figure it depends on how much of a gambler you are.  But of course, I'd definitely talk to your doctor to see what he/she has to say.

    Either way, since they are both close friends, I would imagine they'd understand (understand if you can't make it and understand if you end up in labor during their ceremony).  ;)  Maybe do something special with them before hand as a way to celebrate if you can't be there for the big days.
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  • btm013btm013 member
    I've been cleared to fly up until 36 weeks. I'm actually contemplating a trip (by plane) at 34 weeks. If it was driving distance I would definitely go! That's just me. Do what you feel comfortable with and whatever your doctor says! As for the second, I'm actually in a wedding 20 days after the due date. That was a bit too ambitious of me but its local and she's a great friend.
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  • henrytviiihenrytviii member
    I'd reply yes to the earlier wedding if its in an area with good hospitals and medical options. I'd definitely reply no to the 2nd wedding. FTM's average 10 days late so the first seems completely safe to me and if I were you I'd hate to miss out. I wouldn't plan to stay to late. The second just doesn't work either way. You may not have had your baby yet, and if you have had him you'll be in no position to go out or leave him. If these are close friends, close enough to drop in, and everything is going great, you could stop by the event for 10-20 minutes with the baby along, anything more than that I highly doubt you'd be up for.
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  • delujm0delujm0 member
    I'm planning to drive 8 hours to my sister's wedding at 38 weeks unless my doctor tells me not to. I have a doctor up there as well (close friend from HS is an OBGYN there and is in network for my insurance) so if the worst happens i'll be covered. We're staying for the minimum possible amount of time. And if the baby comes early or even looks like she might come early we won't go.

    I'd say no for the one 9 days past your due date...you may not have delivered yet. And if you have it might be stressful to bring such a small baby to a wedding. I would make an attempt to go to my sister's wedding with a few-days-old baby, but no one else's wedding would be that important to me.
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  • karaelaine1991karaelaine1991 member
    sabett said:

    For the first wedding, I would probably RSVP yes, then ask my Dr. to confirm that it was okay once I was a bit closer. If everything looks good, then I think it would be fine!


    For the second wedding, I would probably ask what the bride preferred. Depending on whether or not it's a sit-down meal, it could be expensive to have a last-minute cancellation. We're invited to a wedding three weeks after our due date and I've RSVPed yes, but let them know that there is a chance we won't be able to attend – or will come for a very short time and bring the baby. They were happy to have us come, even with that chance and with the extra guest.
    I just got married last June... I would've been extremely annoyed if someone knew there was a chance they might not make it and RSVPd yes anyway. Weddings are crazy expensive, especially in the DC area.

    OP, if you want to go to the one before baby's arrival, then I would call your doctor and ask for his/her opinion, then RSVP yes if they say it's ok, but make sure to call up your friend and remind them that you'll be 4 weeks from your due date so anything could happen. I would definitely RSVP no to the other wedding. It sucks that you'll miss it, but PP are right, baby could be late and even if it arrives on time you probably will not feel up to it. Your friends will understand.
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  • mlindzzmlindzz member
    My husband is in his best friends bridal party ten days after our due date, and the service is three hours away.

    As recommended above, I would suggest you opt out of planning to go as I am. I assume I'll be 1) 10 days overdue and absolutely not wanting to take a road trip lol or 2) have a lovely newborn that will be wanting to soak up every day with at home.

    Also, if something happened and I changed my mind and decided to go, I think they would rather have a last minute guest attend then someone who RSVPed that cancelled after they've paid for my meal, etc.

    As for the wedding before your due date, that will completely depend on what you're comfortable with. Perhaps even chat with your doctor? I know for me, being an anxious person already, the idea of potentially going into labour and then needing to drive all that distance to get back to your home and hospital seems terrifying. But this is my first time around too! Good luck mama :)
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