Who will be in the delivery room with you?

kristeenbutler · March 2015

Sorry if this was already posted... I didn't see one.

This is baby #2 and my husband wants just us 2 in the room during labor. My mom and sister have both asked to be in the room and I feel bad saying no. What do you ladies think?

Rosiethird · March 2015

I'll just have my husband, as I've done with my previous 2. He is a great support and I wouldn't want anyone else. It's all about who you feel comfortable with, but also this is your husbands baby too and his opinion should be taken into account. Maybe have just him and if you feel you need more support, call your mum or sister. If you just want them there out of guilt, then tell them no. It's about you, your baby and husband. Not them.

cassietegtmeier · March 2015

This is my first but I don't want anyone but my husband in the room. Some people have said I might want to consider one other person for support in case my husband doesn't handle it well but I've made up my mind on it just being the 2 of us.

jerseymommatobe · March 2015

Husband and me only. Immediate family can come in once I am in the maternity ward and out of L&D. I want to be cleaned up and savor the moment with baby and husband first.

DMEL · March 2015

Just my husband. I think having extended family nearby is nice but there are some things that should be sacred lol

kristeenbutler · March 2015

Thank you ladies...

sdrhodes12 · March 2015

My husband is so afraid of passing out! Lol.. So my mom is going to be there too!

dec2018mom · March 2015

I'm having my husband and mother in there. My husband for obvious reasons like we created this child together. My mother because the day I was born her father died and she didn't get to enjoy my birth as much because of the tragedy.

My mother is always the one I want when I'm sick or hurt even though I'm 28. We have a close relationship and she really wants to be there to see this happen since I've struggled with fertility issues.

kaycorey89 · March 2015

My boyfriend absolutely does not handle these types of things well. He will most definitely pass out on the floor haha so my Nan and one of my best friends are gonna be in the room. Best friend had a baby last January and I ended up being in the room for some of her pushing cause her mom and aunt needed a break. So since then she's said she'd love to witness everyone from the other point of view. She's also super calm and very supportive. And that's what I want in the room with me. So Nan and her it is. Lol

kat0217 · March 2015

My husband and doula for sure. Possibly also a friend who is just starting out doing labor/birth photography, but that will depend on if she can get a sitter when I'm in labor. In earlier stages of labor I wouldn't mind seeing some other family members, but for the most part I want to really be able to focus on the deep relaxation techniques I've been learning in my Bradley method classes. My husband & doula are the best to have around to help with that for sure.

MrsLawson15 · March 2015

I will have my husband, best friend, sister in law, and possibly a niece or 2. I like having the distraction of family around me.

kristeenbutler · March 2015

With my first we had signed paperwork saying we were going to hold her until she passes away due to complications and the doctors fearing that she wouldn't even make it through the birth. So for that reason. I had both parents, my sister and husband. But this time everything is perfect so he wants it to just be us.

And my 1st baby girl came out 3lbs 2oz screaming and is now 5 perfect and crazy!!

louloutte87 · March 2015

My husband is enough. I wouldn't want my mum to see my lady parts as that hasn't happened since I was like, 5. I also would get stressed as she would be like: "it doesn't hurt that much, get on with it!". Bless her.

canadianmom89 · March 2015

I believe because it was my husband and I who created this little family that it should just be us when I bring our LO into the world. I know my family will be in the waiting room and during the early stages of labour I may have my mom come in if my husband needs a break but when the baby is ready to come out just me and DH.

TBsquared · March 2015

With my first my mom husband and sister were with us during early labour, but since I laboured through the night it was easy to have them leave and when it came time to push it was just me and my husband as I wanted it. This time my mom will be at home with my daughter while I'm labour. I hired a doula though so it will be her and my husband in delivery this time, and my midwife of coarse!

ldmw · March 2015

It will be just my husband and I. Don't feel bad, it's your labor and an intimate experience between you and your husband. We're actually not even allowing visitors for quite a few hours after baby is born. While some of our family is extremely upset by it, I don't care. We have others who understand which is great. Those that don't can be mad. They'll get over it. It's our experience, not theirs.

sammistar3 · March 2015

For my first I had my bf, my two best friends. My mom and sister, this time I'm just having me and my bf, I'm hoping this way he can help me relax more, because I'm trying everything for a drug free birth this time.

babyblue0501 · March 2015

It will be my husband, and my mom. My husband and my mom are really close, so we both really need her in the room for support and to keep us all calm. I really want her there to witness her first born giving birth to her first born, and her first grandchild.

MrsS728 · March 2015

We will call my mom, my dad, and his mom once I've been admitted and my mom will be in the room for labor, but once it's time to push, just my husband.

marijaa333 · March 2015

Husband, doula, nurse (intermittently), doctor (every once in a while), and some residents/students since it's a teaching hospital, unless I really don't feel like having them around.

Oh, and let's not forget the anesthesiologist. I'm going to see how it goes and hold out as much as I can (because it seems like walking and gravity would be helpful), but if there is enough time, I'll probably get an epidural.

In short, no other family or friends. It seems like it's going to be crowded as it is, and I like my peace and quiet.

marthaudani · March 2015

I'm hoping it's me and the hubby but he has to travel for work and will be back 10 days before my due date. Otherwise it's just me and hospital staff since neither of us has family here.

Going in there alone is scary but I know I can do it. I just don't want him to miss the birth of his daughter. Plus it would be nice to have a familiar hand to hold.

icajesica82 · March 2015

My husband, doula and my BFF is a photographer so if she is in town she will be there to document for me.

rosannewild · March 2015

marthaudani said:
I'm hoping it's me and the hubby but he has to travel for work and will be back 10 days before my due date. Otherwise it's just me and hospital staff since neither of us has family here.

Going in there alone is scary but I know I can do it. I just don't want him to miss the birth of his daughter. Plus it would be nice to have a familiar hand to hold.

My husband will be away at work during the week so we will have my mother come to stay for support and safety. She will be with me for the early part of labor if he isn't here. Once I transition I'll have her go to the waiting room. She understands me very well and knows it is not against her to have that moment with just me, DH if possible, and little one.

mhilpisch10 · March 2015

louloutte87 said:
My husband is enough. I wouldn't want my mum to see my lady parts as that hasn't happened since I was like, 5. I also would get stressed as she would be like: "it doesn't hurt that much, get on with it!". Bless her.

haha This would be my mother as well! She had all 6 of us naturally. She would be like "oh gosh your fine just push him or her out!" Love her!

Bmore112 · March 2015

I have to have a cesarean. I really only want me and my boyfriend in there. It's a family moment that shouldn't be shared in my opinion. He wants his mom in there for his support. This is his first baby and my third so he is more nervous then me. I really don't want his mom in the room. They both think he is going to faint. He gets squeamish around blood.

SassFrass · March 2015

Dh is my support, and I td him to choose someone he wants there for him if he needs to step out or whatever or talk to because I'm not gunna be chatty Kathy I'm sure, so MIL will also be there

soontobecapek · March 2015

My mom will be. With #1 it was my mom and grandma, #2 was supposed to be the same but I went to emergency C/S, #3 was my mom again. DH never wanted to be there and with #3 he actually wasn't in the hospital and didn't meet him until he was 4 days old because he had "plans with friends". With #4 it was supposed to be BD but due to current circumstances (I'm due May 2nd and he won't be home until May 12th) it will be my mom. He wants his mom there but I've never met her and she makes me nervous lol. She may hate me ya know?!?

Chichi93 · March 2015

I'm just going to have my mom in the room. I was going to have the baby daddy in there but he would just cause me stress and depression due to our recent falling out and the fact that he's been super mean to me. So. I'm just having my mom in the room. She's my best friend and we have an amazing bond, always have. So I couldn't imagine not having her in there. She will keep me calm and level headed. [:

katielyn1 · March 2015

Same as last time: I'll have my husband, our moms, his sister and my sis n law . My sis n law was a great coach to me last time and his mom and sis stayed off to the side but were really grateful I let them in the room for our daughter's birth. I had stressed over so much during my first pregnancy but when it came down to crunch time I didn't care that they were all in there. I had other things on my mind lol. I decided to let his sister in the room when dd was born because I was fortunate enough to watch my niece and nephew being born and it was the most miraculous thing I'd ever witnessed and it meant so much to me. I have felt so close to them since the minute they were born and I wanted DHs sis to experience that as well. All the ones I listed that will be in there were great last time so I'm ok with having them all again. It is a special, sacred moment so I totally understand people having their preferences. Sorry this got long...;)

ginelles · March 2015

Absolutely me and hubby - had to hold off other family as we live abroad

peteresa · March 2015

No one! My hubby was queasy when our daughter was born 2 yrs ago and my friends and parents live out of town. I'm kinda glad about this so I have no one there to irritate me, I apparently do well in labor with EXTREMELY SILENCE!

mhilpisch10 · March 2015

soontobecapek said:
My mom will be. With #1 it was my mom and grandma, #2 was supposed to be the same but I went to emergency C/S, #3 was my mom again. DH never wanted to be there and with #3 he actually wasn't in the hospital and didn't meet him until he was 4 days old because he had "plans with friends". With #4 it was supposed to be BD but due to current circumstances (I'm due May 2nd and he won't be home until May 12th) it will be my mom. He wants his mom there but I've never met her and she makes me nervous lol. She may hate me ya know?!?

I'm hoping that the father of your 3rd child is out of the picture or had a serious change of heart and bettered himself...

MichelleKirkpatrick · March 2015

DH only

He's the only person I want in there aside from hospital staff. This is our special moment, and we can't wait to share it with one another. It also helps he's a physician and has delivered a few babies in his time.

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