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Feeling UGLY

KenyaLAKenyaLA member
in June 2015 Moms
7 months pregnant & feeling ugly was wondering when that feeling goes away & if every pregant women feels that at one point? :((
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  • Knottie64157109Knottie64157109 member
    It does go away quickly. Felt like that with my first and again with my second but I promise you that you are the only one seeing it. Daddy, friends, etc just see joy.
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  • paige0704paige0704 member
    All i know is i have felt beastly for the last few weeks (im 26 wks) between extra weight, acne and swollen face lol i feel ya!! I hope it goes away fast !
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  • laurendutchlaurendutch member
    Yes! I have good weeks and bad weeks! I usually treat myself to new drugstore makeup. It helps when I take the time to get ready and do my hair and make up
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  • karaelaine1991karaelaine1991 member
    edited March 2015
    Aww, try not to be too hard on yourself! 

    Totally agree with @marinamarina on the face weight gain thing. Some days I'm like, "Nah, you totally can't tell except for my bump." But any time I see a picture or video of myself, I'm like "OMG my face is HUGE!" It doesn't help that in an attempt to make me feel good one day, DH told me that I only looked like I gained weight in my bump and in my face... which helped me feel better about feeling fat other places, but totally confirmed my thoughts that my face was looking chubby. Oh well, what can you do. 
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  • katyertlkatyertl member
    That's why we aren't doing maternity pictures because I feel like a gigantic piece of poop. The other day I came to the realization that I'll probably never feel sexy ever again and I cried.
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  • bbnmama2012bbnmama2012 member
    I'm just not one of those pretty pregnant women. I look like a miserable, swollen pregnant cow. I haven't felt pretty in awhile. I feel ya.
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  • btm013btm013 member
    One of my friends asked if I was going to do a maternity photo session and I laughed right in her face (she didn't appreciate that as she is a photographer who specializes in it). But why the hell would I want to document the way I look?! I am HUGE. People constantly ask if I'm having twins. I wish I was one of those women who felt beautiful and strong - the "I am woman hear me roar" kind. I.AM.NOT.
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  • Frogger5Frogger5 member
    katyertl said:

    That's why we aren't doing maternity pictures because I feel like a gigantic piece of poop. The other day I came to the realization that I'll probably never feel sexy ever again and I cried.

    If you were really happy with your body before you got pregnant, then you might never like your body as much, but I'm SURE you'll feel sexy again! Lucky for me I was not very happy with my body before, so there's every chance I'll happier after post-baby weight loss and exercise. I'm actually looking forward to the transformation (I'm sure I'll change my mind when it's actually time to get to it, but right now it sounds awesome) :D!
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  • KaLikeAWindKaLikeAWind member
    btm013 said:

    One of my friends asked if I was going to do a maternity photo session and I laughed right in her face (she didn't appreciate that as she is a photographer who specializes in it). But why the hell would I want to document the way I look?! I am HUGE. People constantly ask if I'm having twins. I wish I was one of those women who felt beautiful and strong - the "I am woman hear me roar" kind. I.AM.NOT.



    If your friend specializes in maternity photos and wants to photoshoot you as a gift, tho, I would totally get on board with that. You may not feel like you would good in the photos, but we all know there have been times where our photo was taken and we thought it would be utter sh!t and looking at it later were like 'oh, this actually isn't a bad photo of me'. Also, a great photographer can make all the difference in an excellent photo shoot.

    On this whole topic in general, I totally feel ugly sometimes. But I have to remind myself that yes, the general public most likely doesn't see us in as harsh a light as view ourselves. And the people who know us and love us I'm certain don't see us as unfavorably as we imagine.

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  • paige0704paige0704 member
    Yes! The double chin/ face gain is terrible i sometimes look in the mirror and wonder who that person is! I also cried the other day after getting out of the shower ...think i need to move my full body mirror out of my bedroom lol
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  • SerenamarrSerenamarr member
    Confession- I'm a graphic design grad so any photos of me I don't like get tweaked juuuuuust a little bit in Photoshop. Just to make my face not look like a giant bee sting and my arms not look like wrinkly pool noodles.
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  • MJMum524MJMum524 member
    Retail therapy has helped me out! Also, try to find some way to boost your confidence. Spend some extra time on yourself. Manicure, hot oil your hair and get your eyebrows done. You don't have to spend money, just at home spa time if you can't afford it. Even shaving your legs can help! Do a few little things.
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  • Zeuskay01Zeuskay01 member
    You are definitely not alone! Mirrors have become my worst enemy and don't get my started on my chin.
    I really don't want to do a maternity shoot, but jeeeeeeesus am I getting bugged about "looking back" on the memories.
    Anywhoos..I hope in the best interest of all of us here that we go back to feeling nice and pretty once these babies come out :)
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  • dancegurl1118dancegurl1118 member
    You're not alone. Seriously from the minute I became pregnant my whole face changed. I look awful and not like myself. However...I just stopped caring and use it as an excuse for why I'm not wearing makeup or doing anything. Even when I wear makeup and "look my best" I still feel I look terrible so...why bother. I'm sure you will look back on pictures and say hey it wasn't so bad. But I definitely commiserate with you...
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  • katyertlkatyertl member
    I honestly don't think we're gonna do maternity pictures. We spent a lot on our wedding photos and rarely look at them or have them hung around the house. We will definitely get newborn shots but that's about it.
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  • finchfeeder80finchfeeder80 member
    Aw, thanks, @kikonwi! I can be kind of no nonsense and plain spoken, and I think that gets mistaken for rudeness a lot. I do try to find the upside of things where I can, although I do have my moments (or days) like everyone else. :) I appreciate your compliment! 
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  • KaLikeAWindKaLikeAWind member
    klkonwi said:

    @finchfeeder80 I love your outlook and always positive comments. It's so easy to get caught up in the negative and everytime I read a post from you it makes me want to change my damn attitude!

    This exactly. ❤ you and your positivity, @finchfeeder80

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  • momtobeobrienmomtobeobrien member
    I cry myself to sleep almost every night because I feel like the ugliest creature alive. And then i see cute pregnant woman and I run and hide so no one has to see me. I had to attend a memorial service for my friends dad and someone said "hey who's that chubby girl! Looks like the old kendra" (I was over weight in high school). And it just makes me not want to even attend my baby shower this weekend. At least I have a very loving and supportive husband :)
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  • KenyaLAKenyaLA member
    Thank you ladys I was going through old instagram phones from a year ago where my hair was long & beautiful & didn't have a double chin
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  • PhoenixFrancesPhoenixFrances member
    I just started to feel unattractive at 26 weeks.. It takes me at least a half an hour to figure out an outfit for the day. Really helps that my husband is always telling me how beautiful I look and complementing me. One thing I always do is look at pictures of other pregnant women and how cute I think they look this helps me to realize it's probably not as bad as I think it is. Let's face it pregnant women are cute!!
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  • ElRubyElRuby member
    Ughhh I just found a back roll under my bra strap... I was looking at my back in the mirror and at first I was genuinely confused as to why my body was so distorted and then I realized....
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  • KenyaLAKenyaLA member
    I am living in my husband basketball shorts and his shirts, I went from a size small to large :(( my thighs R huge my ass looks like it's been stung by bees my boobs don't fit in my bra!!! Don't get me wrong I love the fact that I'm having my first baby but really can't wait to pop her right out. & to top it all off I'm due in the summer so I'm gonna feel even more insecure when I see women in bikinis & short shorts!!!
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  • karaelaine1991karaelaine1991 member
    KenyaLA said:

    I am living in my husband basketball shorts and his shirts, I went from a size small to large :(( my thighs R huge my ass looks like it's been stung by bees my boobs don't fit in my bra!!! Don't get me wrong I love the fact that I'm having my first baby but really can't wait to pop her right out. & to top it all off I'm due in the summer so I'm gonna feel even more insecure when I see women in bikinis & short shorts!!!

    I'm sorry that you're having such a hard time with this! Again, please don't be too hard on yourself. Gaining weight is a normal part of pregnancy - in fact, it would probably be unhealthy if you didn't, unless your doctor specifically told you that you shouldn't. The weight will eventually come off with a healthy diet and exercise... in the meantime, I suggest actively seeking out things that you like about yourself. There are good physical changes that come along with pregnancy, too! For example, I've noticed that my hair is growing faster and thicker, which I love! It's okay to have days when you don't feel like you look your best - we all have them - but please try to love yourself, too. 
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    Thank you
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  • kkdb14kkdb14 member
    I have always been an absolute stick-figure, and have never weighed more than 115 lbs. I am currently almost 140 at almost 31 weeks and I'm having a terrible time coping with it. There are stretch marks all over my ass and lower back and boobs and some small ones on my side, and I've never had ONE before now. I feel like I will never EVER feel sexy ever again. The only thing I have going for me is my ridiculously high metabolism, so hopefully the weight will practically fall right off...
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  • MrsWiggleWaggleMrsWiggleWaggle member
    edited March 2015
    finchfeeder80 said:

    For someone who's been overweight and never considered to be conventionally attractive for as long as I can remember, I'm actually rather embracing the experience. It's kind of nice to be able to wear cute, form fitting things and show my tummy off without having to feel shame for being an inappropriately dressed fat girl. 


    I have a harder time knowing that all of the physical fitness that I have gained over the past couple of years is going away. I'm still exercising 5-6 days a week, but I've definitely slowed down. I miss having goals to work towards and races to train for. 

    Lord knows how I'll feel about my postpartum body, and I certainly spent a lot of energy hating my pre-pregnancy body, but I also know that I have the tools to be able to work on it.
    THIS! It's been liberating for me too. It's strange since I'm used to occupying more space than others and seen huge swings in my weight. I think I actually have been handling it better than many non fat women. It's been weird when people tell me I/do don't look pregnant, because I'm more or less the same size I was pre pregnancy.

    I've been working on my body image and self esteem for about a year now. I am finally starting to be ok with my body wherever she is and I am finally standing up for myself when others try and put me down.This is the first time in my life where I am NOT shamed for my body.

    I feel for all these pregnant women suddenly suffering CONSTANT commentary about their bodies. I hope it gives them some sympathy towards bigger women...because for fat girls people observing and having an opinion on their body is pretty much the normal every day for their whole lives. It feels that way pregnant or not.

    @finchfeeder80
    I don't know how familiar you are with "Health at Every Size", Isabelle Foxen Duke, or Body of Truth...but they have been life changing resources for me!
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