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Anyone Not Interested in Sex?

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in October 2015 Moms
Hello ladies. Over the past few weeks, my desire to be intimate has been out the window. I know my symptoms of feeling nauseous and sciatica pains has definitely added to the feeling. I have also had moments where I tell my husband I'm in the mood but once i shower and get into the bed i go to sleep within 2 minutes. He understands what I am going through but from time to time he reminds me that it's been a week or two since we last... I usually feel bad because i honestly don't notice the time that passes because I am so focused on what i am going through during this time of pregnancy. The last thing I am thinking about is sex. Are any of you ladies feeling this way also? I know for men it's hard to deal with but for us women we are already dealing with a lot.
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  • millette2015millette2015 member
    I am completely feeling that way. I feel badly! He's so understanding though and doesn't push it. Hopefully it ends soon!
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  • tate62610tate62610 member
    I have zero physical desire for intimacy. I still try to about once a week for my husband. He understands though.
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  • Rikki_5Rikki_5 member
    edited March 2015
    Girl, I was right there with you.  How far a long are you?  I had little interest the past 2 months.  However, I had a crazy sex dream last night and think I had an O during my sleep..lol.. though and now I'm like hellooo my libido is back.  I'm 13 weeks now.  DH says that I'm more interested in my dreams of him than real life but tonight he will be surprised because now I'm finally feeling in the mood.  It's totally normal, your body is changing and tell hubbie to be patient your libido will return in the 2nd trimester most likely!!
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  • babymazzeibabymazzei member
    Totally there with you! Zero sex drive. The only thing I want to do in bed is sleep. We have been doing the Saturday/Sunday morning sex which has been good. He's been really patient so as long as he knows he'll be getting it on the weekend, he won't push me. Weeknights are off limits though. To exhausted from work to even think about that!
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  • ljburrelliljburrelli member

    I was like that with my first and poor DH ended up going on a serious dry spell.  It was like he had the plague or something...

     

    This time around I have the interest but I am so nauseous that it pretty much kills the mood for us both!  lol.

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  • sbeltresbeltre member
    edited March 2015
    I've been sick pretty much since the day I found out I was pregnant and we haven't had sex since then. He doesn't try either. I know he understands I feel like death majority of the time. It's hard work growing a baby! Being tired from work and tired from pregnancy and then being nauseous ok top of everything.


    I'm hoping once I feel normal again we can get back to normal.
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  • casserole27casserole27 member
    edited March 2015
    Pretty much I have the sweetest, most paitent husband ever. I have been either sick or in pain since the week before we found out we were expecting. Definitely no time to even think about sex. My husband hasn't even hinted at wanting to do anything. I asked him about it and he said nothing's going to happen unless I initiate it and he knows that I feel better. It's most important to him for me to be comfortable and healthy again more than anything.

    Our nights now consist of trying to find food I can eat, movies, cuddling, me throwing up and occasionally some irrational crying followed by more cuddling. Not exactly the most romantic or fun routine but he takes it all like a champ. Seriously, best husband ever.

    Keep hearing good things about this 2nd Trimester... I can't wait.
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  • MamaOwl15MamaOwl15 member
    I have zero sex drive. And my husband DOESN'T understand. No cuddles unless he gets some. :-/

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  • ELParker814ELParker814 member
    you ladies are so lucky to have such supportive husbands. I have zero desire for sex right now since I have been so sick and he gets PISSED every time I tell him I can't. We end up not talking for 2-3 days until I give in (still not wanting to)... Its like my being sick is a problem for him... SO SORRY.

    Sorry ladies... vent over...
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  • meganeileen6meganeileen6 member
    I have NO interest whatsoever. Thank goodness my fiance understands..i do try at least once a week..but i cant force it. I feel like forcing myself to act like im in the mood is even worse. Praying ill get it back anytime now (11w2d)
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  • rahrah82rahrah82 member
    I'm there too!  I have been so nauseous and tired that I just don't feel like it or think about it.  My husband has mentioned it a couple of times so I managed to take a shower and feel good enough to have sex.  He has been sweet about it and will cuddle and love up on me even if feeling it.  I'm so hoping the 2nd trimester is must better, especially since I was all over him before I knew I was pregnant!  I just want to feel normal again!

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  • jetbaldwinjetbaldwin member
    I have no interest at all. I did read somewhere that this is normal though. My husband has been totally understanding and says "you're creating our family" so he gets why I don't feel good ever. Hopefully soon I'll feel back to normal.
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  • lilmagic00lilmagic00 member
    I hate to say it, but ME and I'm VERY attracted to my husband. These pregnancy horomones are driving ME ABSOLUTELY CRAZY!!!!!!!!
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  • 4LittleLovies4LittleLovies member
    Yes! I feel EXACTLY the same....and even go.as far as showering and then promptly passing out. :/ Fourth baby....and I feel SO EXHAUSTED literally all the time. You're so not alone.
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  • chjcfhkchjcfhk member
    Last night was the first night in a LONG time that I was finally in the mood I'm 12w and 6d. but before then he would go weeks with out it because I was just like Nope not going to happen so don't even ask or I would tell him to go take care of it himself ..he's been very patient and very understanding. I did give in every now and then just because I feel so bad. I do hope that all over with now! ;)
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  • Knottie70261981Knottie70261981 member
    I feel bad as I have no interest as I'm sick as a dog at night :( and even worse my hubby leaves in a week for several months for work :(
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  • mcfly577mcfly577 member
    Yeah, I don't even want to be touched! I rarely even want a hug. I just feel so uncomfortable most of the time that physical intimacy sounds terrible.
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  • momma+streetmomma+street member
    Same here! Before my first pregnancy I was CRAZY!!! Being our first we didn't know what to expect, so all the sickness and pain made him so sensitive to my needs, that he never really pushed for it. Of course sometime near the end of the second trimester things pretty much got out of hand crazy ;)

    After delivery, things really changed. My stitches weren't exactly the best, creating lots of problems for me even now! I was however getting better at making sure I pleased my hubby when he asked for it. But, pain, even when in the moment of ecstasy, comes back times 10 afterwards! He always let me know I shouldn't have, and he hates my pain, but secretly I know he wanted it regardless.

    Now, pregnancy number 2 and Hyperemesis Gravidarum...AGAIN.... And the mere thought of anything sexual turns my stomach! However for him.... He has been begging for it. Not a day goes by there isn't a reference. I feel so bad, I know that he needs intimacy, but I just don't have the strength to give it. When I do muster up the mindset to go against the pain, he is grateful, but again tells me I didn't have to... Mixed signals!!! I find it so frustrating! I completely fake everything, just to make his experience wonderful, but then suffer all night and early morning. He is good at always expressing his gratitude the next day. But then the cycle starts over.

    He is a wonderful husband and is so good at taking care of my needs, and even giving me extra treats!!!! I just wish he was the same as the first pregnancy.
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  • nbear618nbear618 member
    Right there with all of you!  There are even days I don't want him to kiss me, and not because of him.  It's all me.  But I try to be intimate when I'm not feeling completely pukey because he has been absolutely amazing so far.



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  • FRabbaFRabba member
    At around 5-11 weeks pregnant, I had zero sex drive. In fact, being touched annoyed me and I was repulsed by my husbands natural smell of breath! So bizarre. Then, starting at about 12 weeks, my sex drive came back! I've been having sexual dreams and at work I will say to myself "tonight is the night! I'm gonna make love to my man!" ... Then I get home from work and fall asleep on the couch from exhaustion before my husband even comes back from work lol ... Yay for being pregnant! Haha!

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