Due date shinanigans

yeliahjohn · March 2015

My due date based off of my LMP is June 19th. But after my first ultrasound they told me my due date was June 30th. But because I won't get any more ultrasounds how will we know if she's measuring bigger/smaller?? I'm terrified that she will come for June 19th(around that time) and we won't be prepared. I'm worried he will be at work and will miss my call, and even though we live 5 minutes from the hospital, our apartment is on the 3rd floor! I'd be terrified driving myself to the hospital. I'd like to have everything ready for June 1st just in case but SO works until 11 at night and I don't know how much I'd be able to do on my own! Any moms in the same situation? When was your due date and when did you deliver your LO?

KaLikeAWind · March 2015

yeliahjohn - Just an FYI, we are currently honoring an hour of silence for our moms who have lost their babies this week. Please refrain from posting or commenting until after 4pm Eastern time. In the meantime, candles to honor them can be placed here

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12552284/official-loss-candle-thread-hour-of-silence-3-4pm-eastern-time#latest

stephbennan · March 2015

The measurement they do at your first ultrasound is the most accurate, most doctors keep to the same due date regardless if baby is measuring ahead. This is my second pregnancy and I measured over two weeks ahead with my first and still delivered 5 days past my estimated due date (which was also pushed back two weeks from what my due date was originally based off of my last menstrual cycle). That being said- baby is going to come when it is ready- all you can do is be as prepared as possible!

karaelaine1991 · March 2015

1. Your due date is an estimate, so whether you're due on the 19th or the 30th, you should be ready at least 2 weeks before EDD since it's normal for babies to come that early. I think being ready by June 1 is a great goal. I can totally relate to being busy - I'm in grad school and have an internship and DH is an accountant and is working on his CPA, so we have difficulty finding time to get everything done too. But you have 2.5-3 months till your baby's expected to arrive, if you work on things now you should be fine.

2. The nature of your questions make me think you're a FTM, as am I. Statistically, you're probably actually going to deliver after your due date. It's not guaranteed at all but maybe that will help calm you a bit.

3. Relax about the hospital thing. Average labor time from what I've read is 8 hours. Regardless of if you're on the third floor, you live 5 minutes from the hospital. You will make it in time.

annatta79 · March 2015

Oh sweetie, it is going to be ok.

FTMs are 10 days late on average. My first was 13 days late. But even if she comes early, it will be alright, and you will deal with it.

You sound like the type who will probably head to L&D pretty early. If you are only 5 minutes from the hospital you should be able to get down the stairs and drive there between contractions. If you are super worried about it, try reaching out to a neighbor and arranging for them to drive you in case your husband isn't home.

Even if he misses your first call or even if he misses your "the neighbor is taking me to the hospital" call, he will have time to make it. Labor is not, especially for FTMs, a short process.

It will be ok.

Frogger5 · March 2015

annatta79 said:
Oh sweetie, it is going to be ok.

FTMs are 10 days late on average. My first was 13 days late. But even if she comes early, it will be alright, and you will deal with it.

You sound like the type who will probably head to L&D pretty early. If you are only 5 minutes from the hospital you should be able to get down the stairs and drive there between contractions. If you are super worried about it, try reaching out to a neighbor and arranging for them to drive you in case your husband isn't home.

Even if he misses your first call or even if he misses your "the neighbor is taking me to the hospital" call, he will have time to make it. Labor is not, especially for FTMs, a short process.

It will be ok.

I don't think you are supposed to drive yourself ever, though . . . that could be seriously dangerous. Things can change quickly! Just a thought, most likely there will be plenty of time for your husband to get home, and if people at his work know his wife is pregnant, they will find him if you call!

MrsWiggleWaggle · March 2015

EDIT:sorry reading fail....I still think you will be ok. If you go into labor at work...then you go into labor at work. Despite what all those sit coms where the pregnant woman gets trapped in the elevator and gives birth indicate, you won't suddenly drop dam the second labor starts. The ultrasounds are pretty accurate...and I haven't heard any stories of babies growing abnormally fast out side of a certain standard deviation of ranges. I'm pretty sure if the U/s measured him one way he won't go on an abnormal growth spurt(does that happen?) where he develops so rapidly that he ends up two weeks ahead.

Original: I'm really confused about the whole "measuring ahead thing". Is this the ultrasound measuring you ahead or the thing they do with the measuring tape? They don't do the measuring tape in Korea, but it sounds like the later. Dr. Google seems to support that this is not remotely a good way to gauge size of the baby, and really it only should be used as an indicator of that the issue should be investigated further. Not sure why this freaks so many women out. My belly has grown and not grown dramatically but the U/S always puts home on track.

KaLikeAWind · March 2015

Frogger5 said:

annatta79 said:
Oh sweetie, it is going to be ok.

FTMs are 10 days late on average. My first was 13 days late. But even if she comes early, it will be alright, and you will deal with it.

You sound like the type who will probably head to L&D pretty early. If you are only 5 minutes from the hospital you should be able to get down the stairs and drive there between contractions. If you are super worried about it, try reaching out to a neighbor and arranging for them to drive you in case your husband isn't home.

Even if he misses your first call or even if he misses your "the neighbor is taking me to the hospital" call, he will have time to make it. Labor is not, especially for FTMs, a short process.

It will be ok.
I don't think you are supposed to drive yourself ever, though . . . that could be seriously dangerous. Things can change quickly! Just a thought, most likely there will be plenty of time for your husband to get home, and if people at his work know his wife is pregnant, they will find him if you call!

Yes, this exactly. My husband is active duty military, and has a firefighters' like schedule - he is literally NOT HOME AT ALL for 2 days at a time, and then will be home for 2 days. And since he is active duty, he can't just take off of work to wait for baby. The way this will be handled is that his work already knows I am expecting, and once June comes everybody will pretty much be on alert that he could get a call at any time, and needs to leave. The closer I get to my EDD (6/18) the less and less he will be sent out on patrol, eventually being on base but staying in the office as opposed to being out in the middle of the lakes where they can't just turn around and come back.

In all likelihood, he (your gentleman) will have plenty of time to make it either home, or to the hospital from his work before baby comes. I would, tho, set up some kind of arrangement with a couple of the neighbors to drive you to the hospital, in case someone is not home when the event begins to happen

Knottie64157109 · March 2015

That first comment irritates me. I mourn for those lost babies too but don't silence this mothers question!

Btw, my first doc kept changing dates constantly but this time they stick to the first date. My first baby was two weeks late so I guess they were wrong all around lol.

MrsWiggleWaggle · March 2015

@knottie64157109 I think you are misunderstanding, please see my private message to you and take it with the good intentions it was written with.

karaelaine1991 · March 2015

Knottie64157109 said:
That first comment irritates me. I mourn for those lost babies too but don't silence this mothers question!

Btw, my first doc kept changing dates constantly but this time they stick to the first date. My first baby was two weeks late so I guess they were wrong all around lol.

OP's question is not an emergency and could have waited. A mother who was very active in this community and who many of us had grown close to lost her child this week. @mellymar was very respectful and was right to refer OP to our loss thread.

lovethatcolosun · March 2015

My due date was never changed so For my first so I don't exactly know how to calm your fears on that one. They will continue to monitor you and measure your uterus and if need be your cervix to give you an estimate of when you're due date will be. Have your hospital bag packed and diapers and a bassinet/crib ready at home and you're basically set for an early baby. Chances are the baby will come late. I was 3 days late. Labor can take some time too. I labored at home for over 24 hours before heading to the hospital. You can always ask a friend to be a back up incase your DH isn't able to get you to the hospital and there's always taxi's as a last resort. You'll be fine, just have a lot of options for rides available to calm your fears.

aliciaspinnet · March 2015

With regard to the due date thing - Early on in pregnancy the size differences between babies of the same age are small. So measuring size on ultrasound gives a reasonably accurate way to estimate how far along you are. As a pregnancy progresses, the range of normal sizes widens. This is why later ultrasounds are less accurate for dating. If you think about it, two babies born at the same number of weeks can have big differences in size/weight. In terms of due dates, what you should be thinking of is maturity - how developed the lungs are for example. A healthy baby who is naturally bigger won't be any "older" than a healthy baby of the same gestational age who is naturally smaller.

HoosOnFirst · March 2015

@Knottie64157109 just as an FYI the weekly loss thread of silence has been going on for months and months. It's incredibly fair to let those of you who are new to the boards know about it in a nice way as @MrsWiggleWaggle did. It's part of our board's culture so please don't dismiss it as unimportant.

saraelizabeth33 · March 2015

With both of my pregnancies the due date I calculated with my LMP and the due date i was told at my first ultrasound were about 10 days apart. I just ovulate later than "normal". The date given at your ultrasound is the most accurate.
For the record, with my first I had calculated I was due June 1, they told me June 11 at my first ultrasound and I had my little boy June 7. Don't stress too much, just try to get ready early. You never know when they will come so it's not worth worrying about it.

KaLikeAWind · March 2015

Knottie64157109 I wasn't trying to silence her question. You'll notice I even came back later and contributed advice to her. I was just trying to let her know that we were being respectful at that time for a friend of ours, and for all of our June moms who have had a loss. This is a routine thing that happens on Thursdays whenever ANY of our June moms has a loss, that there is an hour of board silence. Now the OP knows that, and you do, too. And, because tone can be hard to convey in print, as you have already misunderstood my tone once - I'm not trying to be feisty or condescending or anything else, I'm just trying to politely let you know what happened, and why.

Anyway, I don't want to hijack the OPs question thread. Case closed, as far as I am concerned

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