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Scare tactics

ccarrozza1ccarrozza1 member
in July 2015 Moms
Hey girls, I am wondering if are all getting the scare tactics about having a baby for the first time. Seems like people are really thrilled to tell me how stressed and exhausted I will be after the baby is born. This is getting to be a tired conversation with me especially that I haven't been sleeping well already because I have to get up like 6-8 times a night to pee.

I don't expect it to be a walk in the park but lately it seems people relish in telling me how I will be so sleep deprived and won't have any time to myself for years. I basically assume the worst but I explained this to my Mom and she just laughed. I am the youngest of six kids and my parents are in their early 80's now. My Mom said it would not be as hard as everyone said it would be and that babies are rather easy to travel around with. They adapt to you and your lifestyle. She said there would be some discomfort in the first few months but then it will get easier. I hope that my Mom's advice will soothe some of your anxieties the way it soothed mine....
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  • asun123asun123 member
    Kid's are hard. But when you love being a mom, it's easy.
    You'll have moments. But seriously nothing's better than loving your child and taking care of them. 
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  • ccarrozza1ccarrozza1 member
    Great comments. Thank you for sharing!!
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  • sarahsairsairsarahsairsair member
    Ignore them. yes it's hard- but no one ever tells you how much fun they are!! Everyday things are fun now that I have my little guy.
    Also, the hard work and sleeplessness is all worth it to see your LO gaze at your adoringly, and then as they grow when they tell you they love you.

    Pp, breastfeeding is hard, the first week or two is the worst, then it gets easier, BUT bottlefeeding is no walk in the park either- all that washing and sterilising, and not to mention the cost and more things to cart around.
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  • alanna7777alanna7777 member
    Being a mom is one of the things you adapt to and if you have a supportive partner things adjust. You become a team and help each other get through sleep deprivation, tough moments and everything else. This is our second and we will have 2 under 2. Like a PP said a lot of being a mom comes to you! And your mom has 6 kids? Listen to her! She knows lol..plus she will also be a big help I am sure even telephone support helps. :) You will be great!
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  • rainbowBOOMrainbowBOOM member
    I hate when the response to my terrible sleep recently is "oh, your body is just preparing you to be up with the baby". Nooooo. That's not it. My hips are fluffing killing me and I can't roll over because lightening crotch hits. It has nothing to do with a baby crying.

    Your moms advice is fantastic.
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  • ccarrozza1ccarrozza1 member
    Not to mention people who don't have kids and have never been pregnant trying to scare me about child birth and the pain and trauma of it. Yeah, no. That's even more ridiculous to me!
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  • rainbowBOOMrainbowBOOM member
    Id deliver ten times over if it meant I didn't have to be pregnant. Pregnancy is so much harder. :). Everyone is so different.
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  • ccarrozza1ccarrozza1 member
    Yeah pregnancy is like 10 months as they say and delivery is 1- or 2 days on average. Think of all that nausea and gas for days on end!
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  • ccarrozza1ccarrozza1 member
    OMG!!!! Someone posted today on Facebook and tagged me in reference to an article about how painful childbirth is and my sister had this to say about it....and yes, she is crazy!!!!!

    "This is an amazing read. Thanks Janice. With my history of vaginal pain from utis, yeast infections, my ghastly propylene glycol allergy, etc. I can honestly say I think I know how bad it would be. I imagine it's like when you are constipated and you just want to die mixed with the worst uti on the planet. I can honestly say that I'm thrilled that I never have to feel this pain myself because I had my uterus removed (also very painful). It is sad when the first word you think of when someone says "vagina" is pain, but that's been my life. Happily, I will go to my grave without knowing this pain and I have zero regrets about that. I will be with my sister when she goes through this soon and that is going to be almost as bad because I love her so much and I will want to relieve her pain. I hope that by being near her that she will at least feel safer."

    Please come at me with comments. I have no words to even express how bonkers this is to me!!!!
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  • sarahsairsairsarahsairsair member
    #-o she put that on fb ?? Fuck, that takes oversharing to a new level and just..... I have no words
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  • rachellemonsrachellemons member
    People just like to build themselves by putting you down. It's like they want to have the worst experience so they can tell you about it. Yes it was painful, yes I was tired and yes I had a difficult time for the first three months thanks to "baby blues." 10 months later we decided to do it all over again...why? Because children are amazing and a gift from God. I've forgotten about most of it because my memories are full of laughter and amazement when my son learns something new. I think the worst part is that we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be a picture perfect mom and as friends instead of supporting and being honest with one another we paint an unrealistic picture. Just accept that you are exactly what your baby needs, you aren't alone and do what you have to do to enjoy your baby the way he/she is. You will be great!
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  • ChristyM87ChristyM87 member
    ccarrozza1 said:

    OMG!!!! Someone posted today on Facebook and tagged me in reference to an article about how painful childbirth is and my sister had this to say about it....and yes, she is crazy!!!!!

    "This is an amazing read. Thanks Janice. With my history of vaginal pain from utis, yeast infections, my ghastly propylene glycol allergy, etc. I can honestly say I think I know how bad it would be. I imagine it's like when you are constipated and you just want to die mixed with the worst uti on the planet. I can honestly say that I'm thrilled that I never have to feel this pain myself because I had my uterus removed (also very painful). It is sad when the first word you think of when someone says "vagina" is pain, but that's been my life. Happily, I will go to my grave without knowing this pain and I have zero regrets about that. I will be with my sister when she goes through this soon and that is going to be almost as bad because I love her so much and I will want to relieve her pain. I hope that by being near her that she will at least feel safer."

    Please come at me with comments. I have no words to even express how bonkers this is to me!!!!

    What the... Maybe the first thing that comes to mind for her when she thinks of vagina is pain, but for many people it is pleasure of some sort, be it sexual or the joy of holding your baby
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  • mommamoralesmommamorales member
    For those getting Negative Nancy responses to their choice to breastfeed - same here. We're also cloth diapering, and all I've heard is "You won't stick with it, it's way too hard. I give you 3 days. Just be normal and buy disposables. You're being ridiculous."

    Why can't people just be supportive? And most if not all of this is from other women/moms. Shouldn't we be sticking together?
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  • ccarrozza1ccarrozza1 member
    sarahsairsair said:

    #-o she put that on fb ?? Fuck, that takes oversharing to a new level and just..... I have no words

    Yeah I know. My brother and his wife were speechless when I shared that post with them!!! She is a total narcisist!
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  • ccarrozza1ccarrozza1 member
    Not only is that bonkers to say but I have had all the same female problems over the years and this is not the same thing!!!!
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  • ccarrozza1ccarrozza1 member
    Of course my Mom had a lot to say about it and thought this was ridiculous!
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  • sarahsairsairsarahsairsair member
    ccarrozza1 said:

    sarahsairsair said:

    #-o she put that on fb ?? Fuck, that takes oversharing to a new level and just..... I have no words

    Yeah I know. My brother and his wife were speechless when I shared that post with them!!! She is a total narcisist!
    Sounds like it! And I have no experience with those kinds of problems, but I have had severe-can't-stand-up-straight pain from ovarian cysts and it's nothing like labour .... I think because you know when your in labour it's a healthy/normal pain and it's bringing you closer to
    Meeting your baby! It's pain for a purpose
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  • CkorinesCkorines member
    If the pain from childbirth was so unbearable, than people wouldn't do it more than once. If I had to describe the pain of labor pains, I couldnt. Because you forget, once you hold your little one.
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