Am I getting ahead of myself?

lollybeal · March 2015

so, my DD is the 5th of September and one of my favourite bands are playing in London on the 12th October. My husband has offered to buy my tickets for my birthday but I can't decide if I'll be up to going. What do people think? Am I being stupid to think that I'll even remotely have the energy to go? Or should I set it as a goal and something more to look forward too?
Any advice would be great x

eajanvrin · March 2015

I think you are aware of life changing and not sure how you are going to be with the change. When I had my first child I remember thinking I am going to get all of this stuff done on leave and got to not much of it because of how things changed. It sounds like something fun for you to do as a couple and maybe you work out a deal to also get a little extra rest beforehand. I find once I am out I feel more energized then I thought I would be, good luck with the decision!

FinalyFound · March 2015

1 month after my DD was born I was still in zombie mode. Your body is still or has just finished healing from the birth and your body is still adjusting from the hormones and sleep deprivation. There's a concert here too about a month after I'm due and I know it's very unlikely I'll being going.

v1wwo · March 2015

It really depends on the person. Some people are ready to go the day after they deliver and some people take months to get back to their old selves.
I would ask your mom how she felt after delivering her kid/s.

kajordan09 · March 2015

Everyone is different so it's hard to say. At one month out (with my first), I was still living in my yoga clothes and was just utterly exhausted. But on the other hand, there were many times where I thought it would be nice to get out for just a little bit with DH for some alone time. Will you be BF? If so, that might complicate things. You will still be feeding on demand and your availability to your baby is imperative.

kimberlykh · March 2015

How far away is London? Everyone is different, but I think I could have handled a night out 5 weeks after dd was born. I wouldn't have wanted to be more than an hour or two away though.

smiversen · March 2015

Is there any chance you know of some other people who would want to go? Then you could buy the tickets and when the time comes and you don't feel up to it you can sell or give away.

bpv101283 · March 2015

I think it will be really tough. I had my sisters bachelorette party in Atlantic city 3 months after my first and it was my first real girls night out. The logistics were terrifying. I had to pump on the way in between stops, I was super tired, I appreciated being out but it was all different. I couldn't stay and had to drive home alone. I think a month after I would be full on zombie. AC was a 2 hour drive to begin with.

Izzies · March 2015

I know everyone is diffrent but there is no way I could have gone to a concert a month after DD was born. I was in full zombie mode and beyond exausted all the time. A hot bath and a hour alone would have been a perfect gift for me at that time..... Or now

thinkpink101 · March 2015

There are so many unknowns. The baby might not arrive on the due date, could be two weeks late... If you have a C-section recovery is longer and you might not be up for it. If you are bfing exclusively it might be both hard and uncomfortable to leave the baby for an extended period of time. Even if you are able to pump and store enough milk, your boobs will get really engorged and hurt if you go too long between pumping/feeding.

That said, after my twins I was back to work the day after being released from the hospital (they were in the NICU and you could only visit certain times), and if we had had someone to watch them that I trusted completely, I would have been fine to go. If you buy the tickets, will you be able to sell them if you decide you can't go?

19gem87 · March 2015

I had a really hard time leaving my son when he was that young. I was always worried about him when I had no reason to be! My body was up for a concert sure, but my mommy emotions weren't lol. Everything changed after my son came. Not just physically... I didn't enjoy going out much until he was a little older. He is 5 now & I still miss him if he spends the night at grandma's! Good luck to you dear.

bracybabies · March 2015

My favorite band will be here for the first time in 10 years ON my due date. I saw them when I was 14, and I'm going to miss this tour. Ugh! Oh well.

BeachBabe22 · March 2015

I would definitely go! One month after baby is born you should be feeling pretty good. Even if you're not feeling great it's one night and I'm sure you'll have fun!

nikkidavis421 · March 2015

I agree that everyone is different when it comes to recovering after having a baby but I think a month after your due date will give you enough time to prepare for a night out. I went to my best friend's bachelorette party when my DD was a month old and I had a great time. That was my first time "leaving" her so it was tough saying good-bye but once I was out of the house and with all my friends, it helped take my mind off things. Plus, it probably helped that DH was at home with her instead of leaving her with a babysitter. I'd say GO FOR IT if you have family or close friends in the area that would be willing to watch the baby for a few hours for you

sterjacks21 · March 2015

I say get the tickets and if worse comes to worse you can always sell them. I'm planning on going to a music festival 2 months after baby is born! Don't worry about what others think! You should get the tickets!

rachel4733 · March 2015

Will it be a really loud concert? Some experts believe that noises over a certain decibel (like concerts) could damage the baby's hearing in the womb. Not all prescribe to that theory, but I have definitely read it in a few places before. I don't think I would personally risk it, especially by that point the baby's ear drums will pretty much be fully developed. But it's your personal choice!

19gem87 · March 2015

@rachel4733 OP will have already had the baby

lollybeal · March 2015

Thank you for all of your advice lovely ladies. I think I'm finding it difficult to make a descision because profesional I'm a nanny, so I'm hoping that my 10 years of baby experience will help me get the little wriggler into a routine and have myself settled pretty quickly. But knowing my luck (and the likleyhood of inheriting my temper) I'll have a stubborn little baby that doesn't want to play ball.
I think I will probably get the tickets and then if I can't go then it wasn't meant to be. I would hate to not have the tickets and then be sitting wishing I had gone.
Thank again everyone! Xx

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