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Pregnancy Announcement Party?

somerlynn87somerlynn87 member
in November 2015 Moms
I've tried to research party ideas, but they're all gender reveal party ideas. We've already told the parents but we're waiting to tell our friends after the 1st appointment. I'm throwing a girls night so I can surprise/tell my girlfriends. Anyone have ideas or suggestions?
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  • justdoit93justdoit93 member
    I'm telling my whole family on easter when everyone gets together. Im using a really cute Easter egg that my mom will crack open and read a note that I put inside welcoming baby #3 :) we haven't told anyone yet so it should be fun and exciting!
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  • justdoit93justdoit93 member
    @somerlynn87 you may announce your pregnancy in whatever fashion you like! I've done something fun for my other 2 babies so why not this time? Announcing your baby in a fun way with a party or however you decide to do it is not self centered at all :) let me know how you decide to do it! There are a lot of great, fun ideas! With my 2nd baby we got a "big sister" shirt for my daughter. She was only 9 months old so when we would go to a family members house we just let them see it for themselves and caught their reaction on camera! We got some really funny pictures out of that!
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  • oliarnmom1517oliarnmom1517 member
    I was doing a Mary Kay party one time and a girl announced it to her friends and one of the women there became very upset and left..they gossiped amugst each other and said she had been trying to adopt because she couldn't conceive...if you have a friend who's going through that just don't invite them if you have friends that will be happy for you then go for it but if you know about their suffering don't purposely invite them and hurt there feelings..I closed the party as I always do and left but I will never forget the sadness in her face..was definitely a depressing night...(not promoting my business) just wanted to tell you that so you can know if you do it to not invite somebody if you know that's a sensitive subject for them..
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  • oliarnmom1517oliarnmom1517 member
    Tell them later like take them to lunch and explain to them that you didn't want to do a crazy announcement with them because you didn't want to make them upset and show them that you care about them by not making them hurt and fake a happy night..would not be a fun day for them..
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  • AmstreagleAmstreagle member
    @lalababy3 I'm so sorry for your loss.
    I myself suffered a miscarriage in Feb. and know the pain all too well.
    Take care of yourself!
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  • smcelhaney13smcelhaney13 member
    My husband and I are both teachers at the same school and I know he can't keep a secret for anything, so we had our closest teacher friends over and I got out a poppy seed (size of the baby that week) and showed it to them and told them we invited them all over to show them a poppy seed and tell them it was the size of our baby. Nothing big, but we wanted to do something fun to tell them
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  • DesignermommaDesignermomma member
    Maybe tell them at the end of the girls night so you have all the fun first. I would also make sure to invite only your closest friends. They may guess your little secret though. My sister told me after we got pedicures. I was already suspicious when she invited me to get pedicures (we never get together) and then when she didn't get wine, I knew, but she waited till we were done with the pedicure to tell me. Then we went next door and got milkshakes and talked for 3 hours about it! She doesn't know the first thing about being pregnant or babies so I gave her a ton of advise. So you know your friends the best. If they already have kids, they'll want to give you lots of advise but it will alienate those that don't. So if it's a mixed group I would do it at the end and those that want to stay and talk more can.
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  • BlueWaffleSpeshulBlueWaffleSpeshul member
    Amstreagle said:

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    @Bliss+Berry is spot on on all counts.
    You have every right to be excited and tell your friends in what ever foo foo way you want but a party? After your FIRST appointment?
    I find the party tacky, AWish and unnecessary but I had a friend I grew up with make a cringeworthy FB video in December to announce her August baby and I think I strained my eyes from the eye rolling.
    Announcing so publicly in such an extravagant way so early.... Don't do it. I'm saying this with the kindest intentions. I have personally suffered multiple losses after the "first" appointment and statistically speaking losses are quite common with in the first 3 months that I can't imagine what a tough pill to swallow it would be if God forbid something were to happen... How would you take that back? It just puts a pit in my stomach thinking about how you'd go about something like that.

    *lurking*

    You won't recognize me under this name (maybe not even under my old one), but I've been thinking about you since your last loss. I hope you're doing well.

    As to the rest of this, really, everything does not need a party, I promise. Bliss, I think name reveals are already a thing. I'm sure I read about that somewhere. 


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  • AmstreagleAmstreagle member
    BlueWaffleSpeshul said:

    Amstreagle said:

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    @Bliss+Berry is spot on on all counts.
    You have every right to be excited and tell your friends in what ever foo foo way you want but a party? After your FIRST appointment?
    I find the party tacky, AWish and unnecessary but I had a friend I grew up with make a cringeworthy FB video in December to announce her August baby and I think I strained my eyes from the eye rolling.
    Announcing so publicly in such an extravagant way so early.... Don't do it. I'm saying this with the kindest intentions. I have personally suffered multiple losses after the "first" appointment and statistically speaking losses are quite common with in the first 3 months that I can't imagine what a tough pill to swallow it would be if God forbid something were to happen... How would you take that back? It just puts a pit in my stomach thinking about how you'd go about something like that.

    *lurking*

    You won't recognize me under this name (maybe not even under my old one), but I've been thinking about you since your last loss. I hope you're doing well.

    As to the rest of this, really, everything does not need a party, I promise. Bliss, I think name reveals are already a thing. I'm sure I read about that somewhere. 


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    Thank you so much! It really means a lot to hear that!
    I'm okay. It really does seem like when it rains it pours but I have a great support system so I that helps a lot!
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  • ombradellarosaombradellarosa member
    brittherzog21 said:

    Obviously you know your friends better than these strangers... you wouldn't purposely hurt anyone. So if you think that having a girls night to celebrate your pregnancy is the way to go, then you go for it! And if they are true friends, they can look past themselves for one night and be happy for you. That is not self centered at all. There's nothing wrong with wanting to share your little Miracle. I've been the one who couldn't conceive, but when it came to those I love and care about, I put aside feeling sorry for myself, so that I can be happy for those whom I love. You go girl.

    Just because you know your friends doesn't mean they don't have issues they're dealing with that you don't know about. The advice given above is to prevent you from ACCIDENTALLY hurting someone, not purposely. It still hurts either way. Also, wanting people to "look past themselves" including any possible infertility or losses they have had in order to celebrate you is indeed self-centred. As Bliss said, the comfort of your guests should be your first priority. That doesn't mean you have to not announce or not be happy yourself, but it does mean that you should be considerate of others.

    I have to reiterate what PPs have said about not announcing too early. Make sure that anyone you tell before the end of the first trimester is someone you can count on to be supportive and thoughtful if the worst should happen. Heaven forbid you have to "un-tell" anyone, but the fewer and the closer, the better. 
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  • brittherzog21brittherzog21 member
    edited March 2015
    Listen to your own instincts and don't let other people change your mind. Go with your heart, and no matter what happens, don't let anyone bring you down. This is such an amazing experience and journey, you should celebrate however you see fit. If you aren't sure about your friends' history, maybe announce the reason for the party, instead of a surprise. You have a lot of different opinions on here, & that's exactly what they are; opinions. So take what you can from us all, & decide what's best for you and your friends. Good luck :-bd
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  • justdoit93justdoit93 member
    @brittherzog21 amen!!
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  • somerlynn87somerlynn87 member
    Holy Jeeze ladies. I was simply asking for ideas, not to be berated for announcing to my possibly miscarriage effected friends, which none of them are. They all know my husband and I have been trying and this would be a great opportunity to celebrate and spend time with my best girlfriends. If anyone cares, I've decided to make cupcakes and spell out I'm Pregnant with the cupcakes.
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  • somerlynn87somerlynn87 member
    Also, it's a handful of my closest friends, this isn't going to be like an over the top party party. I'm talking chick flicks (maybe What to Expect When You're Expecting) cupcakes and beverages (non alcoholic for me). And again the operative word was "ideas" not opinions. I'm very much aware of the scary heart breaking possibilities, but for now, the possibilities are new and exciting and I'm so thrilled and I want my friends to share on that joy with me.
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  • AmstreagleAmstreagle member
    edited March 2015
    somerlynn87 said:

    Holy Jeeze ladies. I was simply asking for ideas, not to be berated for announcing to my possibly miscarriage effected friends, which none of them are. They all know my husband and I have been trying and this would be a great opportunity to celebrate and spend time with my best girlfriends. If anyone cares, I've decided to make cupcakes and spell out I'm Pregnant with the cupcakes.

    You were in no way berated just shown another point of view which you clearly refuse to see.
    You do not 100% "know" your friends fertility experiences (only dh and my parents know of my pregnancies that weren't viable) and no one said you couldn't announce but pointed out a surprise party could be a potential emotional ambush to someone you care about. It was also mentioned a party after your first appointment is a little bold (and AWish) for lack of a better word and was intended to give you food for thought so you can protect yourself in the event of a mc but this clearly fell on deaf ears.
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  • lopezalonsolopezalonso member
    This is exciting news and you have the right to feel excited and do whatever you want with that. That being said, I agree that it is possible one of your gf's may have had some sort of fertility or relationship issues and that it could be awkward for them to be have to endure a night of celebrating your pregnancy. Also, I mean this as kindly as possible, but no one cares about your pregnancy as much as you do. Having a whole night centered around pregnancy themed stuff seems self-centered. Why not just have a nice dinner and announce it then without all the extras?
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  • 27alex27alex member
    My BEST friends do not know we have been stuggling to conceive, and are about to be going to an RE.

    This is so tacky. I understand you're excited, but some people do keep things private.
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  • MayBeSomeDay16MayBeSomeDay16 member
    somerlynn87 said:

    Holy Jeeze ladies. I was simply asking for ideas, not to be berated for announcing to my possibly miscarriage effected friends, which none of them are. They all know my husband and I have been trying and this would be a great opportunity to celebrate and spend time with my best girlfriends. If anyone cares, I've decided to make cupcakes and spell out I'm Pregnant with the cupcakes.

    I think thats a cute idea!
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  • CatsAreShadyCatsAreShady member
    Ideas versus opinions, potato potato. You have to be open to both when posting on the Internet. A party to celebrate your third baby is an AW move but you have your mind set already. Hopefully no one in your circle will find this tacky.
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  • justdoit93justdoit93 member
    I'm glad you're doing something cute. It's simple but cute :) I've been through several miscarriages but would never get mad at someone else of they got pregnant around that time and announced it?? So I don't understand that. And 1st baby or 10th baby I believe they're all just as important. Maybe that's just the way our friends/family work though :) good luck I hope it goes great!
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