Raising baby in the world we live in. Thoughts, concerns, etc...

rolson8947 · March 2015

Hi there

I'm a FTM and lately I have been having some anxiety about raising baby in this world. Yesterday while eating at Applebee's with my significant other there were two women probably in their mid 40s or so and a young child eating at the table behind us and they were having a very loud conversation that I couldn't help but listen in on. They were talking about cults and satanic groups and how they should be allowed to share their beliefs and such in school (such as satanic books, coloring books, etc.). They were going on to say that God should not be in schools and if Christianity could be taught in school then so should satanic beliefs as well. I understand that everyone has different beliefs, but I guess hearing things like that made me worry about the future of my own child. Maybe it was my hormones, but my eyes filled up with tears and I told my significant other that I was scared for her and he looked at me and said, "babe, she will be just fine, don't worry", but I couldn't help but let the conversation lay heavy on my heart. Am I the only one that worries about raising a child in this world? And this post isn't meant to be specifically directed towards religion, it's just my own personal example, I was just curious if anyone else had any worries or concerns about raising a child in the world we live in.

veroc26 · March 2015

I have 3 boys 11,13,and 17 and expecting a baby girl in June.i believe if you do the best you can at home they turn out to be great kids,just enjoy your baby and love her and teach her what you know.

Nikelizabeth · March 2015

I agree with PP, do the best you can as a parent and lead by example and you will have children that follow. I worry with my kids as well, but I do my best to lead, guide, and teach them. Don't worry, it will be fine!

mrs1374a · March 2015

I worry so much. My husband is a state trooper so I get it. It's a scary world. We have a 3 year old little girl and are having another girl. It scares the crap out of me that they will grow up in this world. The best I can do is lead by example and try my best. I wish I could protect them forever though.

rolson8947 · March 2015

Thank you all for your positivity and encouragement. I usually don't voice my thoughts/concerns too much, but I guess it just overwhelmed me and I needed some support and needed to know I'm not the only one who worries. I will just do the best I can and pray that she has a bright future

KonaCoffeeBean · March 2015

I have huge concerns about raising a child in the modern world. I'm worried about over population, public debt, climate change, violence, it's a long list. I'm not worried about satanic cults in schools. I make my living as an attorney for children in dangerous situations and I've encountered all manners of abuse and neglect, but seriously, never anything involving satan.

karaelaine1991 · March 2015

While I think it's good to be aware of all the bad things going on in the world and to make an effort to raise children as safely as possible, I think it's important to avoid dwelling on it. While there certainly are a lot of negatives, there are also a lot of positives. I want to raise my child(ren) to be people who take time to appreciate the beauty in the world and live their lives to the fullest, rather than protect them to the point that they're afraid to explore the world.

laurendutch · March 2015

DH has this concern.

A long time ago, I remember hearing this older lady at church talk about how when her daughter was 6. She was in such a hurry coming home from school, she swung the door open and then slammed it, while stating "whew, I'm safe!". That's just my philosophy with raising my children. I want our home to be a safe haven, where they feel safe and loved.

janat1717 · March 2015

Although someone that already had stopped using all plastics, etc. I have become way more aware of the effects and concerns with all the toxins out there!! Been making the best choices I can and trying not to beat myself up on the stuff I can't avoid.

Mommaswizz · March 2015

Aww this thread made me tear up a bit. I also share all these worries and concerns but I constantly try to remind myself that for all the scary and bad people there are in this world, there are just as many (if not more) good people trying to get by and spread goodness. Dont ever forget that!

mamahawk12 · March 2015

Our society puts such emphasis on being "politically correct" 100% of the time that often times doing the right thing gets passed over. It's just part of our "everybody gets a trophy" mentality. I hope my kids can decipher right from wrong, even if it means stepping on some toes. You can't please everyone all the time, and you can't always win.

valeriemarie24 · March 2015

I worry a lot too...about toxins, pollution, financials and all kinds of things. But my mom was always a "you should learn from my mistakes" kind of person and I don't think that's the right way to go. Kids are going to face challenges and the best way to learn is by actually experiencing things themselves. I think if we try to spread positivity and teach our children boundaries and basic respect from a young age all will work out well. Satanism is just like any other religion in a sense, a group of people who believe certain things that are different from others, not really a huge thing to be worried about in my opinion.

surfingmama · March 2015

Team green FTM here. It can definitely be scary and overwhelming when thinking about the future for our children. To be honest I'm more concerned about raising a daughter than a son because of all the pressures women face to be beautiful and confident all the time.

My mom had a hard time loving herself and it reflected on who I was growning up. Now that I'm an adult I've learned to love myself and my flaws.

I don't know if boys have the same same pressures as girls do so if love to hear from moms of sons.

KaLikeAWind · March 2015

I'm worried about the loss of our natural resources - how close are we as a planet full of people to those sci-fi scenarios of needing to seek refuge among the stars cause we have wasted our planet? The blindness of people in positions of power to accept change. The corruption of same positions of power by big money. The hardliners tendency of some groups to label others that think differently than them as immoral or incorrect.

All I can do about this is to try to teach my child that they need to stand up for others who are being oppressed (maybe I'll have a human rights activist eventually). Keep an open mind when dealing with people who believe differently than they do, and try to bridge gaps with these people when they find them (maybe I'll have an ambassador eventually). Instill a love and respect of our home (planet) and encourage curiosities that lead them to learn more about it (maybe I'll have a marine biologist eventually). Teach them to look for truth and shine the light of that truth on lies (maybe I'll have an investigative journalist eventually).

In short, arm them as best I can and turn them loose to change the world.

PBS4211 · March 2015

I am (secretly) terrified of my children using the internet, when that day comes. I have always been as safe a possible, but I was in middle school when AOL Instant Messenger (AIM) came out, and I some of the risks my friends took, were extremely dangerous. AIM, is far less scary then what we currently have and I don't want to imagine what we will have in 10-15 years. :-(

laurendutch · March 2015

surfingmama said:
Team green FTM here. It can definitely be scary and overwhelming when thinking about the future for our children. To be honest I'm more concerned about raising a daughter than a son because of all the pressures women face to be beautiful and confident all the time.

My mom had a hard time loving herself and it reflected on who I was growning up. Now that I'm an adult I've learned to love myself and my flaws.

I don't know if boys have the same same pressures as girls do so if love to hear from moms of sons.

I feel as a Mom to boys that my kids need to see a healthy relationship of love, respect and support between my husband and I. I need to teach my boys to be respectful of women. But it goes both ways...I think we just need to teach all children respect for others, and ourselves.

mindaa · March 2015

Yes... I used to worry a lot, but think my older age has relaxed me. (And a conscience effort to release myself from the worry that i've seen limit my mom for so many years) For one, I remind myself that there has always been terrible things in the world, that's nothing new in this current generation. Yet, the world keeps on spinning. Then, I constantly remind myself that worry produces nothing positive. More effective, as a woman of faith, is to keep my pregnancy and parenting covered in lots of prayer and positivity.

rolson8947 · March 2015

I feel better knowing that I'm not the only one who worries about stuff like this. It is crazy how much you start to worry about anything and everything before baby is even here. I guess it's all just part of being a mother

queequeg09256 · March 2015

I worry more about having extreme viewpoints being ok. I think with the Internet you are more likely to find like minded people that allow the crazy to escalate. You now aren't forced to interacted with people of different interest or mindsets as much, and with that experience how can you possibly experience all the cultural and philosophical differences in the world. Bullies can follow you. You can seclude yourself without being open to new ideas. I'm more concerned about a world of people unwilling to change their minds and listen to other viewpoints. And climate change

klkonwi · March 2015

Terrified of social media and cell phone use starting so young. Several nurses I work with have had problems with their daughters with texting,cell phones, etc..... Internet. It's all scary!

karaelaine1991 · March 2015

klkonwi said:
Terrified of social media and cell phone use starting so young. Several nurses I work with have had problems with their daughters with texting,cell phones, etc..... Internet. It's all scary!

Yes, I hate this! Luckily, that one is absolutely under parental control, so if you don't like it, it doesn't have to happen!

HoosOnFirst · March 2015

@queequeg09256 I'm with you on that. It's seems like there's a tendency to "allow" for opinions that are just wrong and extreme. I'm not going to humor dumb opinions with my kid.

My other concern is that kids aren't being taught to be self-sufficient. Did you all see the recent news about parents who had child services called bc they let their 7 and 5 year old walk home from a park near their house? (I may have details wrong but that was the gist). Good lord, how will kids ever learn common sense if they can't ever do anything on their own? I am also nervous that parents who are probably good people might lose kids over a decision like that. (Oh and yet parents aren't forced to vaccinate because ya know, freedom!)

KaLikeAWind · March 2015

^ totally. Are we now not allowed to let our 7 year olds ride their bikes or walk a few blocks to a friends house? To go run amok and play at building forts in that wooded lot in the neighborhood? We got to do all these things. Our parents did all these things. I want my kid to be able to be independent and have fun absent my constant watching like a hawk because yes, how are they ever going to function alone if we don't give them the chance to function alone? I have no idea at what age I'm going to be faced with this, but once I'm reassured my kid can make it to the next block over, or the next one to visit a friend, I want to be able to let them go. And I don't feel that I should have to worry that some well meaning do-gooder (yes, that probably didn't vaccinate, lol) will call the cops on me for letting my kid learn independence.

queequeg09256 · March 2015

That crap was crazy in michigan, with the kids going to the park. The parents are fighting them thank goodness. But I think it was just a patrol car that spotted them and took them home (which gives me way more faith that parents are not calling cps for bs). I think about the things that I did as a kid and even with my being over protective. The Internet is way ore dangerous than any neighborhood.

mariecoss · March 2015

I'm a first time mom too n I'm having a boy I'd always get depressed because I feel bad bringing my son into this world only because everything going on but I'm gonna do the best to teach him in 21 and his father is 24 now and we don't want him to act the way kids and teens are acting now n days like people think it's funny to see a baby girl twerking or baby boy cursing rap songs I don't approve lol and how society is now my baby is half black half Latino you seen on the news how it is for us with cops also certain cops not all..it's hard but gotta teach em the right things like Id rather him play with blocks than an iPad at 1yrs old

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