anyone getting tubes tied after LO gets here???

CeeSand · March 2015

This will be 3 for me and I'm reaching that IM DONE FEELING... i feel absolutely guilty

mamaroo317 · March 2015

Yes, this will be our last one! Why do you feel guilty??

adtaylor2015 · March 2015

This will be our last one and it's my husband's turn to feel some pain. Snip snip. Haha.

Sweetpea192 · March 2015

Yes this is our last one but my partner is insistant that I get it done. I think personally this is unfair of him to expect me to have it done & it did cause somewhat of an argument. It's a lot more easier for the man to get the snip than it is for a woman to be sterilised.

trj724 · March 2015

This is my third also and I have definitely been giving it some thought. While I know this is our last for sure, just not entirely sure I'm ready to get my tubes tied. I've also brought up the topic ofy husband getting snipped, he wasn't to thrilled about it but we'll see what happens!! Either way we are done after this.

etayislove · March 2015

We are done after this, never want to be out numbered, so two has always been our limit. I'm trying to convince my husband into just getting snipped, instead of an expensive Mirena again. It's major surgery for me to tie the tubes up, so I think it's only fair that he have a tiny incision, a cut or two, and sit on some ice for a few days. Especially after this pregnancy, I'm still sick at almost 17 weeks.

nikkidavis421 · March 2015

We are on our 3rd child and this will be our last. I'm pretty sure I've got DH talked into having a vasectomy since it's a simpler procedure than us women getting tubes tied. Plus I have a clotting disorder with my blood so whenever I have babies or surgeries, I have to give myself shots of lovenox or heprin to thin my blood to prevent clots from forming. I think it's just a lot safer for him to have the procedure done. I agree with @adtaylor2015, time for him to feel some pain!!

PerkinsFam3 · March 2015

I am having my tubes tied at the same time as our scheduled c-section. This is our third child, a little girl after two boys. I'm opting to do it since I'll be having surgery anyway, and my tubes will literally & figuratively be in her hands! It's also free (for all moms I believe through Obamacare). I am worried about the healing time. I will be in the hospital for 5 days for the c-section (that's what my insurance covers), so hopefully that will be long enough for me to heal a decent amount, and have my pain managed.

Sweetpea192 · March 2015

Recovery varies from person to person. They say between 1-6wks for recovery. It took a friend of mine 8wks to fully recover from being sterilised. You can't lift anything heavy for a while & no strenuous work either.

KERJF · March 2015

This is our 3rd, and a surprise

I refuse to say oops since we are fine with it and well, we knew risks when we umm, did stuff without being careful LOL.
but yes, we are done, no I wont have mine tied since I am still considering being a surrogate. DH WILL be getting a vasectomy this summer though

missliz53 · March 2015

I mentioned to DH the other night that he should just get snipped now as we are one and done. That way after the baby is born, we don't have to even think about birth control, but he didn't sound very enthusiastic about it. He has agreed though that if I don't have a c-section and get my tubes tied at the same time, that he'll get snipped.

J0C0TX · March 2015

Yes. We are tapped out at 3. I'm having a RCS, so it's all done at the same time.

It was offered when expecting dd2 but I wasn't ready to put the final final no on a possible 3rd then. I'm definitely saying no to 4.

sugarmagn0lia · March 2015

@sweetpea192 Why is your partner trying to insist on you having it done instead of him?

mybabynumber2 · March 2015

adtaylor2015 said:
This will be our last one and it's my husband's turn to feel some pain. Snip snip. Haha.

Yep, I think it's hubby's turn too @adtaylor2015 ... Working on him now lol ;-)

thefuturemrsdaniel · March 2015

If the delivery goes like the 1st one did this will be our last one. Hubby was more than willing to get snipped. Last delivery wasnt so great so he doesn't want to risk doing it a third time haha

pregoosiesie · March 2015

I want to but looked up the procedure and idk if I could do that to myself. Have any of you researched Essure? A permanent birth control that requires no incision of healing time ...

I just don't know that I want something permanently in my body.

steph256 · March 2015

This is our 3. I'm done. I will be having my tubes tied since DF works 7 days a week and it will be so hard for him to get off work to have the V done. Plus my mother in law lives 1 mile away and has already said she will help me in my recovery phase. We have a great relationship so I don't mind her helping. I have a soon to be 10 year old, a 2 1/2 year old and this baby. I will either have it done right before they discharge me or I will go back 4 weeks later and have it done.

Sweetpea192 · March 2015

@sugarmagn0lia not quiet sure why he is insisting but he said he's not having it done. My argument to him was I've gone through childbirth my body has been through a lot. It's only fair that you do something. Also the procedure for a man to have it done is a lot more easier than for a woman. I may sound selfish but it's something I will be doing.. I also said to him ok so you won't do & I don't want to then I'll go on some form of contraception. He said no cause you put on to much weight.. I was like wow cheers buddy..

monicaP · March 2015

Three for me too. Feeling more complete than guilty. I want DH to get a visectomy but he needs more convincing.

kelbel90 · March 2015

Dh is getting a vasectomy and I'm going to talk to my OB about my options at my appointment tomorrow. This is my 3rd baby and Dh's 4th, we're done.

adtaylor2015 · March 2015

Sweetpea192 said:
@sugarmagn0lia not quiet sure why he is insisting but he said he's not having it done. My argument to him was I've gone through childbirth my body has been through a lot. It's only fair that you do something. Also the procedure for a man to have it done is a lot more easier than for a woman. I may sound selfish but it's something I will be doing.. I also said to him ok so you won't do & I don't want to then I'll go on some form of contraception. He said no cause you put on to much weight.. I was like wow cheers buddy..

Wow. I'm really sorry he is being so insensitive about this. Maybe he will come around and change his mind?
I feel lucky because my husband actually volunteered to do it before I even brought it up.
In my opinion, men should do their part because pregnancy consumes our bodies for 9 months, plus the recovery. Not to mention, our bodies are forever changed by giving birth. I don't think it would hurt a man to be uncomfortable for a few days considering what we go through.
Good luck!!

vicks3590 · March 2015

I thought my last was my last but oviosly not but me and my husband talked and he will b getting it done he has seen wat labor is like and he agrees it his turn plus its not that much on the guy they can b back to work in 3 days and like nothing us it would b horrible and last longer

nursekatie47 · March 2015

If something crazy happens and I need a csection then yes I will. Otherwise DH is getting the big snip.

runner636 · March 2015

Yes yes yes, this is our LAST. DH would get the V, but honestly, I want to get my tubes tied because I want to be SURE for myself that I will have no more kids on the horizon. My only concern is that I may not get a free IUD through my insurance... Not that I'd need the contraceptive effect, but it helps keep my Horrible PMS symptoms in check.

runner636 · March 2015

Can you get a tubal ligation right after a vaginal delivery?

sugarmagn0lia · March 2015

@Sweetpea192 jeez, I guess he was feeling like a charmer. I'm sorry he's being that way

hopefully he's just being worried about his manhood (we all know how sensitive they can get when that is "threatened," am I right?), and he'll get over it. I am kind of of the opinion that when it comes to "sterilization," it should be the man's turn. As women, we and our bodies go through so much, I don't think it should be too much to ask our fellas for to take that one thing for the team. I feel like your man is being a real turd, especially after seeing how much you've already gone through to give him children. I hope he changes his tune about it and realizes that even if he feels like it'd be a hit to his masculinity, doing that for you is truly manning up in the situation. Good luck xx

mybabynumber2 · March 2015

I'm gonna ask him again straight after sex, I've learnt that he agrees to practically everything I say or want lol. \:D/

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