November 2015 Moms

I know it's early.. But labor advice?

I know it's way to early to be thinking of this, but my boyfriend has a very large overwhelming family.. Would it be rude to ask if no kids came to the hospital after the baby was born and if only grandparents and siblings came? I've just been worrying about it

Re: I know it's early.. But labor advice?

  • Not at all, your birth your choice! If people choose not to honor your wishes then they are the rude ones.
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  • I don't think so, it'll be during cold and flu season, so they might even not be allowed. Ask them to visit once you're home and settled.
  • Your pregnancy, your choice.
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  • I don't want anyone at the hospital until at least a few hours after the little one is born. So my DH and I have family bonding time first!
  • With my DD, not even an hour after she was born we had visitors and i was so not in the mood, i was gross from giving birth, tired and i really just wanted to relax and bond with our little new family. Definitely stand your ground. We will be doing it differently this time around and asking that there are no visitors for several hours.
  • We said no one at the hospital until we told them they could come. I didn't even want people in the waiting room.
    Set the ground rules now.
  • oliarnmom1517oliarnmom1517 member
    edited March 2015
    We decided to just have our moms be there nobody else..mostly because it will just create massive chaos and I'm not going to be dealing with that as I'm trying to rest after pushing a baby from my hoo-ha..
  • Kids under a certain age, with the exception of siblings, aren't allowed to visit at the hospital I had my kids. 

    And it's your choice who visits.

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  • I birth at home...and just dont open the door if I dont want visitors. Lol
  • Not rude at all.  Go ahead and set the expectation now, so that people don't get butthurt later on.  I didn't want anyone coming to the hospital other than our parents last time.  Since we'll be birthing during cold and flu season, a lot of hospitals may limit children under a certain age anway, so that may help keep his family away. 
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  • THE NURSES ARE YOUR FRIENDS! They will keep people out that you want out and in that you want in. I think some nurses secretly love it. I remember having to kick my dad out so I could try breast feeding, and he wouldn't leave so the nurse stepped in for me. It was awesome :) Anyways, your body, your baby, your birth, your rules. I'm sure there will be some butt hurt people, so send them an envelope of glitter and tell them get over it :) The rest, will respect your wishes.
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  • At the hospital we use, I don't believe children are allowed unless they are siblings. If this is not the policy at your hospital, you could just pretend that it is.
  • mmk29mmk29 member
    Do what makes you the most comfortable, but it's never to early to set ground rules. Don't necessarily depend on the hospital visitor desk to help you though, Mine had rules that they told us up front and then was very lenient when the guests showed up.
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