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Due Date Approaching

Farrah626Farrah626 member
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I was more active recently following my loss, and have dropped off in the last few months. I can't even say why. Maybe just denial of everything? Anyway, I'm now approaching what would've been my due date, March 31st, and am a mess. Recently started taking Zoloft, drinking more wine than usual...I just don't know how to deal and keep hoping that come April 1st I will have passed some sort of milestone and feel more healed. But right now I'm just feeling more broken.

How did you all deal with the coming and passing of original due dates?
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Re: Due Date Approaching

  • aang0250aang0250 member
    I am in your same boat.  My due date was 3/17/15.  I do have some anxiety starting.  My husband and I are planning to spend the day together in honor of Olivia.  He is taking off of work, and we plan to take her flowers to her grave, design and order her head stone, and spend the rest of the day together helping each other cope with the anxiety and grief that I am sure will be consuming us.  We have made a pact that we will only allow this loss to make us stronger as a couple, and use each other to get through these difficult times.  Being together and showing support for one another has helped us both through this process so far.  Hope this helps a little....
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  • lexusolsenlexusolsen member
    The anticipation was harder for us than the actual day. We spent time together finishing his garden. What do you have planned?
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  • BLPL101BLPL101 member
    My due date is Easter, April 5. I didn't think she would be born on her due date because my daughter was born early and I was supposed to have a c-section so I don't know if I will be too emotional. I'm hoping I won't be at least. My daughter has been gone 3 weeks and I just can't believe it.
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  • Farrah626Farrah626 member
    Thanks for your replies. No plans for the day yet, But chances are my husband will have to work. I'm hoping the anticipation is just getting to me.
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  • Quelana2Quelana2 member
    I suggest planning something. It may help stave off the anxiety/anticipation. Depending on your locale, a local public garden may be a choice. I find comfort in the cherry blossoms this time of year, which are a Japenese symbol of the transient nature of life, joy and pain. They were blooming when I lost my girl.

    Other suggestions are giving yourself a goal. I decided that mine was going to be walking 100 mikes in a month. Doing it mellowed out my mind and helped me have something to focus on other than a date.

    Good luck and hang in there.
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