not wishing to scare anyone. only hoping to bring caution

mimi&stella · March 2015

OK. I have tossed around posting this for fear of snarly opinions and comments, my nerves are frayed and finished.. But because of my ignorance as a first time mom (#5 baby now and a bit more under my belt)I feel I need to share this.
I have nothing against midwives, I had an exceptional one. But she had to be at a conference when in labor with #1, had no clue what to expect... Induced at 41 weeks, I had a big beautiful daughter 9lbs 4 oz. Long story short- midwife was fired for not backing down to a Dr when one was needed:( I went home with a nearly ruptured bladder, cathater for 6 weeks because it no longer worked and lifelong issues... My husband is scared of midwives now. THERE ARE GREAT ONES. JUST MAKE SURE YOU HAVE FULL TRUST!!
Last week a dear friends lil sister had a huge boy 10lbs 6oz.. Over due. Same thing happened but she pushed for 6.5 hours.. 3.5 hours midwife finally called a Dr. Baby was in birth canal to far, so cs was out, forceps were used the next 3 hrs and baby was born. He has been in a children's hospital with ongoing seizures and mama just came out of a 3 hour reconstructing surgery. ONCE AGAIN- I do not want to scare anyone!!! I only hope this will help even ONE unborn and uneducated mama!!!! Because I just figured they knew best. Don't be scared to ask for a Dr opinion!!
Please no comments. Unless you have a story that could also help warn

mimi&stella · March 2015

Remember, You hired, you can fire any Dr or midwife at anytime. Don't be afraid to put your foot down.

MommaBre2007 · March 2015

I feel like this is a great warning for both doctors and midwives. Everyone makes mistakes. Just make sure you put your foot down.

jasmineds · March 2015

Unfortunately I've had some VERY frustrating experiences with my midwives too. I've been going to a practice with 15 of them and it's been unpleasant to say the very least. It's too long of s story to even get into detail about. I'm 38 weeks pregnant and have been contemplating just going to a doctor for my next appointment.

SDJohnson26 · March 2015

I was nervous about my practice as I just for stationed here and have no one and Google reviews are bad and good about every place but a friend referred me to this place and it is a Dr and midwife in practice together and they just got another dr a few years ago so it's only those 3 and I love it and my mw reminds me of my aunt so it is nice seeming me and dh have no family here but I've heard bad stories about mid wives but trust is an important thing

guinevereis · March 2015

This is a really tricky situation! And some get really upset about saying this stuff. Cause I am an OB nurse in a hospital I have seen a lot of Failed home births where there were very tragic outcomes for babies born with only a MW/ doula team. We have some wonderful MW in our L&D who are highly skilled clinicians and work very well either alongside our OBs or independently- they take their responsibilities very seriously and will defer to the onsite OB's when necessary. You can deliver naturally and without interventions in a hospital/ birthing center setting with a midwife and only resort to interventions when medically necessary without all the haphazard stuff that can happen at home if you need to wait for an ambulance or worse.... Every delivery is different and although it's a natural thing and people did it at home for centuries, a lot of women didn't make it and even more babies didn't survive- the risk to the child is far greater than to the mom.

Babykells3 · March 2015

I have a different story just to bring to light how important it is to pay attention to your body and how your baby is moving and the importance of doing your kick counts!!

(Caution!! Infant death referenced!!)

Last year my very good friend was 38.5 weeks pregnant with her first baby and had been busy making freezer meals all day for when her DS decided to make his appearance. At the end of the day, when she actually had time to sit down, she realized that she hadn't felt him move all day. So she called her doctor and they told her to drink some juice, lay down and do a kick count for an hour. Nothing. Went to the hospital, hooked her up for a NST for 45 mins and wasn't getting any movement and a very weak heart beat. They finally rushed her for an emergency CS. Her DS was born with his cord wrapped 4 times around his neck and it had pinched itself off. The doctors had to do CPR on him for 9 mins before they got him back. He spent the next day on life support because he couldn't breath on his own. The next day both his lungs collapsed and he was put into a medically-induced coma. By day 4 his heart gave out and they couldn't get him back.
I would never wish that on my worst enemy, it was one of the hardest things to go through as a friend.

Just as the original poster, I don't mean to scare. I know it's a totally freak thing that happened and there was nothing at all that she could have done. But please, please, please, do your kick counts every day and if you sense that something is wrong please go and get checked!!

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