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Baby shower etiquette

savalitasavalita member
in June 2015 Moms
Hi Ladies!  Quick question for those who have already had baby showers or just have an opinion.  My shower is coming up in a month.  Invites have gone out and a few people have already sent gifts to our house.  We haven't opened the shipping boxes but they are from the site we registered on.  

My question is: is it rude to open them before the shower, or are you supposed to open them when you get them and leave the shower for socializing?  We don't want to rob anyone of the fun of seeing us open gifts at the shower...but is it crazy to haul all these boxes to the shower and open them there?

Thanks for any etiquette insight! 
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  • karaelaine1991karaelaine1991 member
    I'm opening mine as they arrive and sending thank yous in the mail right away. Not sure if this is kosher with etiquette, but my shower is 4 hours away - there is no way in hell I'm bringing those gifts back home and then all the way back to where I live, PLUS all the ones I'll be opening at the shower. I figure if people wanted to see me open them, they'd give them to me at the shower, and the fact that they had them sent to my home instead indicates they want to make things more convenient for me.
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  • ElRubyElRuby member
    I would definitely not bring them to the shower... If they are sending then they probably aren't able to come and no one wants to sit there while you open gifts of people who aren't even there!
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  • KonaCoffeeBeanKonaCoffeeBean member
    I would call the sender. If they are coming to the shower, bring the gift and open it it then, otherwise open it right away. Even if you know if the sender it attending, I would call and let him/her know that you have received the package.
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  • casey06022015casey06022015 member
    I opened them and sent a thank you right away just so they know I appreciate it and that I got it!
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  • karaelaine1991karaelaine1991 member
    casey06022015 said:

    I opened them and sent a thank you right away just so they know I appreciate it and that I got it!

    This is an excellent point - I live in an apartment building and we have had problems in the past with mail/packages supposedly arriving, but never actually receiving them. We've received envelopes that have already been opened, too. Not sure if the mailman has tampered with them, if one of our neighbors likes to "borrow" other people's belongings, or if there's just a glitch with the post office (yes, we've contacted them about this). But the moral of this little anecdote is... in cases such as this, it's always good to let people know their package arrived, whether it's through a thank you note or a phone call, even if you don't decide to open the gifts right away!
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  • ksimo6ksimo6 member
    Open and send the thank you now. Fun for you and let's them know that their gift arrived!
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  • mccall35mccall35 member
    With my DS, I opened right away, texted a thank you and sent a thank you note (via snail mail). I wouldn't haul mailed gifts to the shower. If they wanted to see you open them, they would've brought them to the shower plus think it would be awkward to a) open gifts from people who may not be there b) drag in and open unwrapped gifts from people who are there.
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  • lilitaliangirllilitaliangirl member
    Open and send thank you. If they wanted u to open at the shower they would have had to shipped to the hostess to give to you.
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